No one is living or dying.
That's the most amazing beautiful truth, that every nondualist comes to realise. Those people who have relentlessly introspected into the true nature of what it means to be a self, and what that self actually is, are the ones who are no more afraid of being alone, because they know they are alone. And that every one else is alone in their aloneness too.
Some people cannot accept that every other person they know is this one aloneness appearing as many alone people, all of which are living in their own private aloneness. There is only one of us here, and enlightened people know this.
How many people are willing to lose their life to gain their life?
Truly I say to you, enlightened people love the tranquillity and solitude of their actual true self.
When you win you lose, and when you lose you win.
"The false Dharma is gain, the true Dharma is loss"
Of course, this does not negate the dream of separation, it does not deny the dream of separation as never existing for real, because it does apparently feel real and true as well.
But the dream is a reality made up of waves of the same one ocean, and those waves can and do often become very difficult and mentally exhausting to surf, but then those waves are surfed anyway due to the play of opposites where ocean becomes wave and wave becomes ocean again...all because that's just one part of the whole story, where we get to experience life as and through our other half, albeit, the same one self appearing as the many.