Self image is not the core of your being, but is the persona you show to others and your own ego. You have to be humble before you can find it, and being humble means privately getting rid of both self image and ego, besides ideas you want to believe but really cannot know.Immanuel Can wrote: ↑Wed Nov 10, 2021 4:42 pmHis problem is not his self image. We all have lots of that. It's that he doesn't accept responsibility for anything the's done. His evaluation of the importance of all his "good" deeds is high, and his evalution of the evil he did, whether he merely embezzled or perjured himself or raped and murdered, is low: and he wrongly imagines that we can offset evil by appealing to those moments when we were "good."Belinda wrote: ↑Wed Nov 10, 2021 4:23 pmImmanuel Can wrote: ↑Wed Nov 10, 2021 2:17 pm
Have you ever visited a penal institution...minimum, medium or maximum security? You'll find that it's positively filled with people who "introspect and find integrity" in themselves. They''ll tell you, "I'm a good guy, really; I don't belong in here." Even the most honest will only say, "I made a mistake...one mistake...but really, I'm a good person."
So much for the "introspection" and judgment of human beings. Whenever we judge ourselves, we always put our fingers down firmly on our own side of the scales. We're always "good enough" to satisfy "The Judicial Court of Me."
Compare ourselves to the righteousness of God, and we know where we really are. But almost nobody does that.
If the criminal, however revolting his crimes, finds that core respect for his own integrity then he has it and it saves him from despair.
It's like saying, "Yeah, sure, I raped and killed a girl; but I also worked for years in a children's charity, so let's call it a wash." Good luck making that appeal to any judge that has even a clue about justice or knows how the law works.
About his "integrity," he's wrong. And the "saving" of his self-image is the real problem: because it's the arrogance that keeps him from realizing how awful he's been, that he's a sinner, and of admitting to himself that nothing but the real help of God will get him out of the mess he is.
It is possible to accept responsibility for your bad action or for a debt you owe purely from an intellectual view of morality. But taking responsibility, although it's good morality,won't save you from despair. Quid pro quo is not what being saved from despair is about. If there is Deity of Good I doubt if he would do quid pro quo. To save you from despair you have to feel a secret layer of your feelings that you might not be able to find the words for. I hope prisoners can feel this.