Dontaskme wrote: ↑Tue Jul 13, 2021 6:47 am
Immanuel Can wrote: ↑Mon Jul 12, 2021 11:03 pm
Dontaskme wrote: ↑Mon Jul 12, 2021 6:19 pm
Thanks for being nice though, it’s rare to see it nowadays…
Sadly, that's true. The best exchanges are civil, aren't they? Even when people disagree, they don't have to be disagreeable.
The fact is, there are no winners in an argument/debate or whatever world view is being exchanged. An argument implies opposition. Ultimately, there is only your truth.
No, not at all. I've had many discussions with people in which opposite opinions were the starting point, and when the result came out, one side really made its point and the other moved, or both moved to some degree in the other's direction. The difference between such productive discussions and unproductive ones is exactly what you mention: the desire to "win," rather than to uncover the truth mutually. If "win" is in view, then reasonableness goes out the window. If truth is the concern of both interlocutors, the discussion can be ever so intense, and yet both parties can benefit.
But to resign ourselves to the axiom, "There's only my view, and there's only yours," amounts to saying, "I can't learn, and neither can you." That's not a good thing for either side. After that, a "win" is no longer of any consequence. Both sides are losers.
One hallmark that always shows when the discussion has fallen to an unprofitable level is the use of
ad hominem comments. They show that spite has entered the fray, and propositions are being ignored. Another is relativism. When relativism comes in, it's always so the side that is losing propositionally can save face and escape from the weight of logic. A third would be misdirecting, meaning when the original proposition has suddenly been abandoned for an irrelevant one...But none of these are necessary, none contribute anything to progress, and all of them betray that the discussion has abandoned interest in truth and has become unprofitable.
Unfortunately, we see a lot of such debates here. But they're not the only kind that can be had.