Body Language

[Pluto]

What does it mean when a woman winks at a man she knows?

And what does it mean when a man walks past another man, and just as they pass one another one of the men sniffs audibly?

[Bill Wiltrack]

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Yeah, um... I wouldn't go with the sniffy thingy...






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...unless you have had success with it in your favorite gentleman's bar:





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[Pluto]

Shit, I wish I could delete your posts, they are so dead and offensive in a way. Why show someone getting there head kicked-in? It is perverse. Remove it! Jerky.

[Bill Wiltrack]

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[duszek]

I agree with Pluto.
Bill, please remove the aggressive post.

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It happened to me a couple of times that a man overtook me, a young man, from southern parts of the world, then slowed down as if wanting to expose his body to my observation.
Was it a male prostitute offering himself to a prospective client ?

I usually change the side of the street and speed up.

One time I slowed down and allowed the distance to become big but I could still see him. After a while, probably because he did not hear my steps behind him, he turned to ... look where I was ?

It is so disgusting I have a bad day for the rest of the day.
Is there another possible interpretation ? I would prefer.

Or is it some code of behaviour between drug dealers ?

[Pluto]

Duszek, thanks.

Example, you are walking down an empty-ish street. You are male, another male walks towards and past you, as he passes, he sniffs. Is it a rebuke of some kind. A unconcious reaction to a problematic thought/feeling which has entered him due to the other. Maybe it also works with women. Just keep a look-out for it happening, next time you pass someone, listen for the sniff, it occurs when both bodies are aligned, one goes one way, the other another way, but at the exact point of passing a sniff is made. Strange.

[reasonvemotion]

That is quite frightening.

I was walking down a crowded city street and noticed a man walking closely behind me. I looked into the reflection of the shop window and saw him. I started to walk quickly dodging in and out of the crowd and he did the same! WTF. I then went into the first shop available and he came in too. By this time I was freaking out. I told the store owner what was happening and he said go now, jump on the next tram and I will delay him. I did and got away. When I got back to the office I called the store and the man said he had tried to follow me but he managed to stall him. But, a few days later I saw him again outside my office as I was walking towards it. There were men on a building site, big men and I told one of them and he walked towards this guy and the guy ran away, never to be seen again.

Someone said in cases like that you need to appear to be aggressive, like, I should have approached him and said something like, "fuck off".

I seem to attract the weirdos.

[duszek]

The young man overpassing me and slowing down as if to expose his charms to my scrutiny did not seem aggressive to me.
An important detail: he exposed his back to me, he was not behind me.

I only wanted to check here if someone knows of some well-known strategy of picking female clients for prostitution services and it is only me who is unaware of them.

What amazed me was that I do not look old or rich so why should such a man try his chances with me ?
Some millionaires walk around in shabby clothes though, perhaps I pace like a rich eccentric ?

[Bill Wiltrack]

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Philosophically, is the violence that is in our heads more disturbing than the GIF I posted in the beginning of this thread?



When we think, there is an estrangement from reality, a violence of the moment. A moment that is forever lost to us, and and lost is opportunity of the simple truth and calm that we could have seen.



But you accept that because in these cases you choose to be the kicker...




So then the violence is OK.


Forever OK.







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[reasonvemotion]

As he was non threatening to you, perhaps he was just intent on displaying his physical beauty and wanting appreciation from a pretty female.
Either way, it is not normal and you did the right thing in ignoring him.

The men on this Forum could answer this for you, regarding the man's method of approach.

Whereas in my example, the man was frightening, he had strange eyes, very light blue, piercing eyes and I felt a "bad" presence about him. With hindsight it would have been better for me to have assumed "strong" body language, as the man on the building site did, who chased him away.


Duszek, regarding this thread, one question. Have you ever winked at a man?

[Bill Wiltrack]

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Have you ever been to Cleveland?














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[rantal]

Duszek, thanks.

Example, you are walking down an empty-ish street. You are male, another male walks towards and past you, as he passes, he sniffs. Is it a rebuke of some kind. A unconcious reaction to a problematic thought/feeling which has entered him due to the other. Maybe it also works with women. Just keep a look-out for it happening, next time you pass someone, listen for the sniff, it occurs when both bodies are aligned, one goes one way, the other another way, but at the exact point of passing a sniff is made. Strange.

In this situation, I would think the man sniffed because he needed to sniff.

all the best, rantal

[artisticsolution]

But you accept that because in these cases you choose to be the kicker...
So then the violence is OK.
Forever OK.[/size]

Hi Bill,

So then, by your own logic, your refusal to take down the pic of the kicker, you choose to be the kicker as well.

So then tell me...violence...is it OK?

If you do it...is it forever OK?

[artisticsolution]

What does it mean when a woman winks at a man she knows?

And what does it mean when a man walks past another man, and just as they pass one another one of the men sniffs audibly?

Hi Pluto,

I think a sniff is just a sniff and a wink is just a wink, unless it is more. The thing is, we have no way of knowing if it is more...until the person actually betrays his intentions by doing or saying something more concrete.

I also think we do ourselves a great disservice when we choose to read into every little thing a passerby does. We create an atmosphere for ourselves that is not conducive to our well being by thinking thoughts about people that may be untrue...while at the same time deluding ourselves that we are a superior judge of character, when the truth is...we can't know what a sniff means...it could simply mean the man had a cold.

It is in this way I think Freud did a great disservice to our generation. He made us suspicious of everyone. He made us think we are being gullible to give a person the benefit of the doubt first. His Freudian slip idea us always on our guard to the detriment of good will toward others and more importantly to ourselves. Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar.

When push comes to shove...what good does it do us to think a sniff or a wink is anything more than a sniff or a wink when we can't be 100 % for sure we are right?

[Bill Wiltrack]

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I like your logic and your response of my earlier post.



I think you are correct in your context & I like the way you used my own words against my own position.




Can you see and understand the point that I made?





Well done.









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