Immanuel Can wrote: ↑Wed Jun 17, 2026 2:18 pm
Really? Wouldn't a good friend point out to you that, by complaining to people who have nothing to do with your problem and can do nothing to help you, you were not helping yourself, but just making yourself more miserable by harping on your challenges instead of your blessings? Wouldn't a real friend want to see you be happy, rather than to maximize your own misery?
That’s not how it works with miserable friends.
It’s not complicated. Misery loves company because birds of a feather flock together, and snakes of a scale entwine their miseries like the wounded comparing their scars.
Situations are just the vehicle, and one can find misery in most any situation due to human, binary tendencies.
Misery junkies are addicted to miserable memory and adept at justifications for misery. It's an easy out for avoiding introspection, for separating spirituality from the misery, for pleading ignorance and stridently exercising selective outrage … lots of little mind tricks such as ignoring causation and personal involvement in misery designed to keep that misery alive.
For the miserable, the misery of the past leads to present and future misery.
Miserable memories of misery are the rock of reality, the touchstone for the miserable.
Such is the way of the Cling-On power of attachment.
Attachment creates the comfort zone, making even misery into a comfort zone.
And it's so easy to be attached when there is a conceptual totem created by consensus of the miserable to sanctify wallowing in misery.
If you try to deny the miserable their misery, you're going to encounter justifications for misery, even when they don't exist.
You'll encounter false agreement that is made with you, just to silence the relentless logic that contradicts the stupidity of misery justification.
Anything good can serve as a repository for misery, because misery twists apprehension to the point where what's good, is cause for misery.
