Love

[Pluto]

I spent New Year's Eve with friends of friends. All are/were very nice people. One woman stood out. Slim, square shouldered, angular features, noble. Clothes, close to the body but not without sophistication. Intelligent, graduate in contemporary dance. We spoke only a few words, she approached while fireworks were in full-flight. Now I can't stop thinking about her. This is a form of love.

[duszek]

Yes, infatuation is a sort of very intense love.

Do you feel more happy now ?

[Pluto]

Do you feel more happy now ?

No, not really.

[chaz wyman]

I spent New Year's Eve with friends of friends. All are/were very nice people. One woman stood out. Slim, square shouldered, angular features, noble. Clothes, close to the body but not without sophistication. Intelligent, graduate in contemporary dance. We spoke only a few words, she approached while fireworks were in full-flight. Now I can't stop thinking about her. This is a form of love.

FInd out more about her and get her number.

[duszek]

Being pushy and inquisitive can put a lady off.

Yesterday I wanted to call someone and first I cleaned the cable and then dialed and he was trying to call me exactly at the same time. Seems to be telepathy.

You could talk to her in your mind, Pluto, and maybe she will hear it in some way and be also thinking about you all the time.
And the next time your ways cross something magical will start.

[chaz wyman]

Being pushy and inquisitive can put a lady off.

All women love to be asked about. Men make the mistake about asking. If she is interested to you she will want you to show interest in her. If she is put off, that means, not that you are being pushy, but that she is not interested. Simple.

Yesterday I wanted to call someone and first I cleaned the cable and then dialed and he was trying to call me exactly at the same time. Seems to be telepathy.

Or not.

You could talk to her in your mind, Pluto, and maybe she will hear it in some way and be also thinking about you all the time.
And the next time your ways cross something magical will start.

[duszek]

And yet, one wrong gesture can destroy everything even if the lady was interested at first.

In the novel "Les particules élémentaires" Bruno puts his hand on the thigh of Caroline, while they are watching a film in a cinema, and he thought that her naked thigh was not naked without a reason.
She would have liked it if he had taken her hand for example. But she removed his hand from her thigh and Bruno never dared to approach her again.

Just one example.

[chaz wyman]

And yet, one wrong gesture can destroy everything even if the lady was interested at first.

That assumes that she was really interested. You can't know that.

In the novel "Les particules élémentaires" Bruno puts his hand on the thigh of Caroline, while they are watching a film in a cinema, and he thought that her naked thigh was not naked without a reason.
She would have liked it if he had taken her hand for example. But she removed his hand from her thigh and Bruno never dared to approach her again.

Just one example.

It's no example at all. It's a novel.

[artisticsolution]

As usual, Chaz thinks he knows women better than they know themselves.

What duszek is saying about a lady being put off is true. There has been times when I was very physically attracted to a man, but then he said something that put me off, and I shunned him afterward. Simply because there is no way I could see myself in love with someone who thought that so I could not "see" myself even taking a chance on a one night stand just in case he wanted more and I would have to contend with a stalker mentality.

For example, A woman could be interested in a man...but then he mention some belief he held about politics and she could not get past it because she opposed everything he thought to her deepest core. She might not want anything to do with him...and turn herself off of any romantic notion she may have once had.

However, there have also been times when I have met a man who I was not that "into" who kept repeatedly being the sweetest kindest man. Did not push...just was kind for kinds sake...then after a year of watching his kindness...and how he was with people...I wanted to jump his bones...lol. Sure, it took a long time to convince me he was honest and not just being kind to woo me....but it was worth knowing he was in it for the long haul. Knowing that he did not care if it took years to get me to know the truth about him...he was prepared to wait...because he loved me....honestly...and thought I was worth his time. It is so intensely flattering...that a girl can't help but be swayed. No matter what her first thoughts were.

However, most men will not wait that long for a "hope and a prayer" and would rather do the "love the one your with" thing. And that is fine too....but I just wanted to mention...that just because a girl is not into you at first...doesn't mean she won't ever be into you. You could change her mind by being your true self...and if she likes that person....she may grow to find you completely and devastatingly handsome and want to throw you down and have her way with you. (you in general)

[duszek]

Other scenarios are also possible, AS:

the woman starts taking the man for granted and presses him out like a lemon.

I would put stress on what you do and say because these will be remembered until one of the two dies or gets Alzheimer.
You can control these and thus shape a relationship, make things happen or not happen.

[chaz wyman]

As usual, Chaz thinks he knows women better than they know themselves.

Relying on your 'all man are bastards' prejudice as usual.

[Pluto]

FInd out more about her and get her number.

Chaz, cheers. That's sound and solid advice. It's a good approach.

[Pluto]

You could talk to her in your mind, Pluto, and maybe she will hear it in some way and be also thinking about you all the time. And the next time your ways cross something magical will start.

duszek, this is a very nice bit of writing; the mystical approach. I am very much in favour of this, and will try. (I once saw it used - while driving on motorway - to move a car out of the way in order to easily pass).

[Pluto]

And yet, one wrong gesture can destroy everything even if the lady was interested at first.

In the novel "Les particules élémentaires" Bruno puts his hand on the thigh of Caroline, while they are watching a film in a cinema, and he thought that her naked thigh was not naked without a reason.
She would have liked it if he had taken her hand for example. But she removed his hand from her thigh and Bruno never dared to approach her again.

Just one example.

This is interesting, I know the scene.

[Pluto]

As usual, Chaz thinks he knows women better than they know themselves.

What duszek is saying about a lady being put off is true. There has been times when I was very physically attracted to a man, but then he said something that put me off, and I shunned him afterward. Simply because there is no way I could see myself in love with someone who thought that so I could not "see" myself even taking a chance on a one night stand just in case he wanted more and I would have to contend with a stalker mentality.

For example, A woman could be interested in a man...but then he mention some belief he held about politics and she could not get past it because she opposed everything he thought to her deepest core. She might not want anything to do with him...and turn herself off of any romantic notion she may have once had.

However, there have also been times when I have met a man who I was not that "into" who kept repeatedly being the sweetest kindest man. Did not push...just was kind for kinds sake...then after a year of watching his kindness...and how he was with people...I wanted to jump his bones...lol. Sure, it took a long time to convince me he was honest and not just being kind to woo me....but it was worth knowing he was in it for the long haul. Knowing that he did not care if it took years to get me to know the truth about him...he was prepared to wait...because he loved me....honestly...and thought I was worth his time. It is so intensely flattering...that a girl can't help but be swayed. No matter what her first thoughts were.

However, most men will not wait that long for a "hope and a prayer" and would rather do the "love the one your with" thing. And that is fine too....but I just wanted to mention...that just because a girl is not into you at first...doesn't mean she won't ever be into you. You could change her mind by being your true self...and if she likes that person....she may grow to find you completely and devastatingly handsome and want to throw you down and have her way with you. (you in general)

AS, interesting observations, cheers.