Gary Childress wrote: ↑Sat Jan 18, 2025 11:21 am
Maia wrote: ↑Sat Jan 18, 2025 9:52 am
as no one with any sort of disability wants to be felt sorry for. Having said that, I don't always succeed in not feeling sorry for people, for whatever reason, and I'm fully aware of how lucky and privileged I've been in life.
I apologize. I don't know if my comments came off as me feeling "sorry" for you or not.
Well considering that the ACTUAL WORDS that you SAID and WROTE, TO "maia", were, 'I'm sorry to hear that you have been blind since birth', how do you think THOSE WORDS would have 'come off', EXACTLY?
Gary Childress wrote: ↑Sat Jan 18, 2025 11:21 am
Conversation is probably not my strong suit.
I see you 'conversing' 'perfectly fine' "gary childress". It is just a shame that 'the words', and 'the language', that was getting USED, (taught AND learned) in the days when this is being written, was just SO OLD, OUTDATED, and INHERENTLY False, Wrong, Inaccurate, and/or Incorrect.
Gary Childress wrote: ↑Sat Jan 18, 2025 11:21 am
I was more admiring the way you conduct yourself on the forum and that you conduct yourself well in spite of perhaps not being as privileged in some ways as some of us are.
Yes 'we' could CLEARLY SEE what you were ADMIRING. What just FEELS COMPLETELY Wrong, well to some of 'us' anyway, is COMPARING 'the way' one conducts "them" 'self' WITH a missing physical sense.
I, for One, am COMPLETELY UNSURE how just not having a physical sense would IMPACT one's ABILITY to ' conduct "them" 'self' '.
you are OBVIOUSLY NOT PRIVILEGED in 'the way' as some of 'us' are, in that you are MISSING a 'physical sense', but what, EXACTLY, has 'this' got to do with 'the way' that you CONDUCT "yourself", or not?
Gary Childress wrote: ↑Sat Jan 18, 2025 11:21 am
That seems admirable to me.
Would you, REALLY, WANT others to 'admire' you, FOR you just 'being you', ONLY?
Gary Childress wrote: ↑Sat Jan 18, 2025 11:21 am
I find your posts much more rational and thoughtful than my own posts for sure. I think it shows that we can still nurture the humanity in us in spite of what may seem like setbacks or obstacles that others don't have.
Do you see that the physical DISABILITY that you were born with as A 'setback' OR 'obstacle'?
If yes, then HOW and WHY, EXACTLY?
But, if no, then WHY NOT?
Gary Childress wrote: ↑Sat Jan 18, 2025 11:21 am
(And maybe me viewing it as a setback or obstacle is incorrect.)
YES IT IS, and VERY MUCH SO.
Gary Childress wrote: ↑Sat Jan 18, 2025 11:21 am
However, I understand the desire not to be felt "sorry" for. That is also an admirable trait.
"gary childress" do you, REALLY, WANT others to feel SORRY, FOR you?
'We' can ALL see that you come, here, WANTING some sort of 'sympathy'. But, in the DEEPEST PART OF 'you', OR, at the VERY HEART OF the REAL Self, do you, REALLY, WANT others FEELING SORRY, FOR 'you'?
Gary Childress wrote: ↑Sat Jan 18, 2025 11:21 am
It was not the intention of my post, however, as I say, I struggle with conversation sometimes.
It IS, and WAS, ABSOLUTELY CLEAR that you HAD and HAVE NO ILL INTENTION, AT ALL. But, UNFORTUNATELY, you are just USING 'the words' IN 'the way' that you have 'grown up' WITH and have 'lived' WITH, but which some of are VERY, VERY Wrong.
By the way "gary childress" you NEVER come across as having an 'ill-willed attitude' towards absolutely ANY one. Now, 'this attitude', of yours, IS one that would be BEST 'admired' BY absolutely EVERY one'.
BUT, just NOT wanting to be felt 'sorry for' is certainly NOT an 'attitude' that one would want to be admired for.
If absolutely ANY one WANTS TO BE 'felt sorry for', then 'that one' NEEDS to take a GOOD HARD LOOK AT "them" 'self', and what IS HAPPENING around 'them'.
Gary Childress wrote: ↑Sat Jan 18, 2025 11:21 am
To put a little more context to my post, I had just been on the ChatGPT website prior, asking ChatGPT how I could help make the world a better place and be a better person in my online presence and "practicing kindness" came up as one of the ways I could improve my online presence.
WHY just 'practice' 'BEING KIND'? WHY NOT JUST BE 'KIND', ALWAYS?
Gary Childress wrote: ↑Sat Jan 18, 2025 11:21 am
So when I saw your post, I was trying to form a kind response. But kindness takes some practice for me. (I'm usually very negative.)
you were CERTAINLY NOT trying to be UNKIND, and have NEVER come across as being an 'unkind person' to me, EVER. But what IS NEEDED IS JUST EMPATHY. Which is, more or less, just you FINDING OUT ABOUT 'them', FIRST, and then by JUST 'doing onto them, as you would done onto you', but ONLY AFTER 'putting "yourself" in their shoes', FIRST, as some might say, here.
That is; you may well have 'grown up' WANTING 'sympathy' and others 'FEELING SORRY FOR you'. However, others may NOT WANT 'that' AT ALL, and the BEST WAY to KNOW, FOR SURE, what others REALLY WANT is to SEEK OUT and OBTAIN ACTUAL CLARIFICATION, BEFOREHAND.