Alexiev wrote: ↑Mon Nov 11, 2024 5:47 pm
I wonder what the "ignore" function accomplishes. Are people here incapable of ignoring some posts without using the function? It reminds me of small children putting their fingers in their ears and shouting, "I can't hear you! I can't hear you!"
Yes, people often have judgments of this, but perhaps they don't notice that IRL we use all sorts of ignore functions to streamline. I'd rather not see posts by certain people, even catch glimpses of phrases or toxic responses. Yes, I could develop a discipline and carefully engage with the names first and jump over posts, but the ignore or really foe function streamlines this. I don't have to see some idiotic or mean-spirited or toxic phrase or response and then feel the urge to respond. IRL I can generally avoid toxic acquaintances and not hear or see their responses to me. With really persistent types, I can hold up a hand and say
not interested. Very few people ever try to push past that. But due to the nature of this medium toxic bs can arrive from that person, so the foe function works rather well at holding up a hand and saying not interested.
In addition, the public announcement ("I'm putting so and so on ignore!") Is egotistical. Who cares?
And what you are doing here isn't egotistical, how's that. Aren't you putting me in my place and judging me? But you are literally correct: the ego is about boundaries. The pejorative part of egotistical.... nah, I don't buy it. Unless you simply, IRL, just ghost everyone you no longer want contact with.
If you want to ignore someone, feel free. No need to use the function or make a public announcement.
I don't need to. I wanted to. Just as in other facets of my life I've wanted to tell certain people that because of their behavior I was choosing to_________________. And what I chose to do was a response to what I did not like. And here in this thread this is also a reaction to two other people who found the behavior of someone, yes, that bad, that they wanted to not see their posts. Just as IRL the behavior of some people makes us want to shut them out or not hang out with them or whatever measures we take.
Sure, you can ghost people. You can just disappear. That has plusses and minuses. It's probably the right move in many situations, especially if the other person is a threat, such as a physical one. But sometimes for yourself, sometimes even for the other person, it's got plusses to say why you are shutting them out, or to confirm for others that you understand why they are shutting someone out.
And, of course, since we are all fallible, any choices here might be not the best ones. But I, obviously, see no need for a rule.
Just silently disappear. You're an immature person if you announce you are going to ignore someone. Nah, I disagree.
And I think it's a very rare person who lives by that rule IRL. And as someone who has been on the other end of both being ghosted and having someone tell me that and why they were ending contact, I tend to prefer the latter. I am not making a claim that I am being benevolent. But I note that it actually can be valuable feedback for the person being closed out of at least one person's contact.