Flannel Jesus wrote: ↑Thu Oct 31, 2024 3:44 pm
I, on the contrary, can't remember any time ever where he put real good-faith effort to understand the information he seeks out.
There is, of course, a front-facing show of genuine curiosity, but that is a bit of a mirage, an illusion that disappears as you step into it.
A.
Pseudolistening
Forming your response to the speaker instead of focusing on what is being said.
Preoccupation, when there is too much on the mind of the listener, so that they cannot listen.
Preexisting familiarity with the topic of conversation, which results in less effort to actively listen.
B.
Cognitive Inflexibility and OCD - not making a diagnosis, just noticing a similar pattern:
1.
Intolerance of Ambiguity LOL or Alternative Views: Due to a strong need for control and certainty, they may struggle with open-ended answers or ambiguity in others’ responses. This can lead them to repeatedly ask for clarification or even argue with responses that don’t align with their need for a definitive answer.
2.
Difficulty Accepting New Perspectives: Cognitive rigidity often manifests as a “closed-minded” style of engagement, meaning they may have difficulty engaging with or accepting differing viewpoints. In a discussion, this might look like dismissive or repetitive arguments that reject opposing viewpoints rather than genuinely exploring them.
3.
Hyperfocus on Specific Topics: Due to OCD’s focal nature, a user might dominate discussions on certain subjects related to their obsessions, posting extensively or monopolizing threads to ensure all aspects of their concerns are addressed.
Cognitive inflexibility in OCD often reinforces the individual's need for reassurance and certainty, resulting in recurring behaviors and responses that can feel rigid or closed to discussion partners or friends and relatives. Over time, this can lead to tensions with others if their communication is perceived as repetitive and dismissive of others’ viewpoints. This pattern highlights the intersection of mental health and communication skills.
Addendum: The fear of dasein and its effects on communication
If one has decided that due to dasein one's opinions can simply change, that one is a kind of mere vessal for ideas, and a series of experiences has and can again change ones views NOT really engaging with new perspectives could be a kind of defense mechanism. One comes to a kind of supposedly non-belief limbo. In actual fact Iambiguous believes lots of things, but generally refuses to justify these things in response to queries and counters by others. If he interprets an article one way and someone challenges this and then justifies it based on the text, Iambiguous does not then point out what leads him to his interpretation. Instead one gets some kind of abstract general dismissal (intellectual contraption): 'of course we both may well be compelled to think our interpretations are correct. End of discussion. There is never an attempt to actually see and show what process led to his interpretation. So, the entire justification of positions is off the table. Which leads to total statis. We could look at that as an unfortunate side effects of poor communication habits and, yes, a lack of curiosity, or we could look at that as the goal. Never again tossed around by the whims of dasein.
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