But it is easy, and very easy and very simple in fact.Fairy wrote: ↑Fri Sep 20, 2024 11:53 amBeautiful, well expressed. I totally relate to that.Iwannaplato wrote: ↑Fri Sep 20, 2024 11:17 am It can be all sorts of things. It can be overeactions, being angry at one thing but somehow it comes out in response to her and it has nothing to do with her, it can be me having a pattern of forgetting something and so on. Of course in the moment, we don't know if it is actually 'shit' yet. Maybe she is misunderstanding, bringing in stuff that has nothing to do with me. stressed about other things, whatever. This all gets worked out over time. It can be both of us. We both believe, also, that the old stuff needs to be expressed and we understand that it may come up in relation to the other person and later can be expressed in relation to the real source. Might be a past one or something ongoing now that isn't the other one of us.
I am expressing this in a kind of ideal form. Of course, we can have mixed reactions, not want to hear in a given moment and so on.
Ideals are always your own unique expression, and not necessarily someone else's...recognition of differences is the key to aligning with opposing truths as being part and parcel of any dual/relational experience.Beautiful.Iwannaplato wrote: ↑Fri Sep 20, 2024 11:17 amand my sense is that expression, in sound, of often best. This can happen with the other or alone, with support or something more like a loving witness.
Suppression and denial have been tried for so long and they just dont seem to be working. Expressing in the field of judgment has also been tried for so long and also has not worked. So a common culture and support has been what I have longed for and found. Not just my wife, but certainly she is the daily center.Beautiful, (( smile)) yes, I think that's usually how it goes for most couples, one is always playing catch up to the other, until they are both in the same place at the same time... Yes, it's great when both are in complete alignment. That's usually when their energy is felt as good feelings.. when they are both singing from the same hymn sheet, metaphorically speaking.Iwannaplato wrote: ↑Fri Sep 20, 2024 11:17 amTat's good if one can. When we met my wife was much better at that then me, though I think I've fiinally caught up.
Perfect understanding though, in your own unique way. Absolutely well said, plato!Iwannaplato wrote: ↑Fri Sep 20, 2024 11:17 amI tend not to use 'negative enegy' or 'negative emotions' (you didnt' use the second term). I feel like all these things are fine in their right place and also it is best to experss then (in a place and with those who can accept that process).
Acceptance is the key to unlocking the door to unconditional love. When everything is just allowed to happen without judgement or fear.
I absolutely agree with that statementIwannaplato wrote: ↑Fri Sep 20, 2024 11:17 amI have found there is no easy road map for this process, even though many people think they know that map and whole traditions have sprouted up around one trick ponies and paths with heavy denials and partial pictures. For example, the distance between men and women, that inner distance, none of those traditions had the tools and understanding to heal that distance, despite the certainty of many a guru, messiah, pychologist, spiritual leader, etc.I am so glad you mentioned that. That's an important point to remember, that spiritual gurus can often lead one down the wrong path. No one else's path is your path.
Because, the only true path, is the one you walk yourself, all alone. And when you have reached your final destination, is when you can recognise what every single other guru is saying. We can only see ourselves through the reflection of others, who reflect back to us, what we already are.
In other words, no one said it was going to be easy, just that it would be worth it.![]()
One just needs to become Truly open, honest, and curios, again, to learn how simple and easy it really is. See, with self-disciple one can then learn what is True, and Right, in Life, and then from there absolutely every thing is Truly simple and easy in Life.