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The thing is, he wants a woman. But he doesn’t want the emotional drama that they cause. He’s been through it before with his X
So I guess he’s terrified of it repeating. But I’m not her, and maybe he just doesn’t like me for being my true self. It’s like he only wants the good side, not the bad. He doesn’t care to ride the waves of both polarities.
It’s ironic, because he said to me he doesn’t like the peace and stillness of life, he’d rather be busy distracting himself.
But that’s probably because in peace and stillness, is when he can hear his inner most dark thoughts the loudest, and so he will do anything to silence those thoughts.
He seems to want the perfect woman who doesn’t create waves, someone to be like a piece of furniture and look pretty all day and not ever dare to make waves.
He doesn’t realise those women don’t exist.
So he just said to me, I think I’ve discovered I’m better off alone by myself. So I said ok, I only want the best for you, and left it at that. Gosh, I even asked him if we could just be platonic online friends and never meet again in the flesh but he doesn’t even want that either, because he said to me that he just can’t get past what I did the other night.
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He can come to me anytime he wants. I’ll receive him with open arms because I love being with him.
If he doesn’t want to come back I will accept it and still love him, still want to be his friend.
But I cannot force him, only he knows what he is looking for in a woman. That’s for him to find out. And with that I wish him all the best luck in the world.
I didn’t want a man, he pursued me, and I just thought yes, give it a go, what have I got to lose. If he was ever going to be mine, he would have stayed, but if he was never meant to be, I’m ok with that. I will never force anyone to stay with me.
So my door is always open, he can walk through any time he likes, or not…it won’t change anything here for me. I’m completely content in my own skin alone with myself.
I have another male friend who lives in America but we are just nondual platonic friends. But I’ve never told Harbal about him. It’s harbal I want to spend my emotional, physical and intimate life with, but if he doesn’t want that, then that’s his prerogative and I respect his feelings.
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Bye the way …the guy I’m friends with in America accepts everything about a woman knowing full well the nature of the human conditional mind. He knows behind every emotional outburst, whether that manifests as revenge, or being hateful or spiteful or verbally violent, or even suicidal…there’s also a heaven waiting to be touched.
That heaven is always ignored, no attention is payed to it, the attention seems to be more focused on the negative.
My American friend and I both know that because we both did the work to find that golden nugget that was hiding deep within every human being. Some seek it but never find it, when it’s always there right in front of them in plain sight. Heck, it even emerges from its hiding place during good sex. So it’s not like it’s never going to not let us ever get a taste of it. It’s all very subtle. Only the ones who really know how to love others as they love themselves ever find this gold. This heaven.
That heaven is always ignored, no attention is payed to it, the attention seems to be more focused on the negative.
My American friend and I both know that because we both did the work to find that golden nugget that was hiding deep within every human being. Some seek it but never find it, when it’s always there right in front of them in plain sight. Heck, it even emerges from its hiding place during good sex. So it’s not like it’s never going to not let us ever get a taste of it. It’s all very subtle. Only the ones who really know how to love others as they love themselves ever find this gold. This heaven.
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So men wouldn’t like women if they could read their minds.
So what about procreation desires, how would a man get a desired child ?
Would he make a woman he didn’t like pregnant?
Or would he adopt one. Or would he pay a surrogate to have one for him?
Or would he just simply not bother desiring a child?
There are many options for the man to desire a child.
Question it Atla…? How do men desire children to be in their life?
We all know our own mind don’t we?
We can be absolutely certain what’s on our own mind, but we can never be certain what’s on another persons mind.
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They wouldn't botherFairy wrote: ↑Sun Sep 22, 2024 3:51 pmSo men wouldn’t like women if they could read their minds.
So what about procreation desires, how would a man get a desired child ?
Would he make a woman he didn’t like pregnant?
Or would he adopt one. Or would he pay a surrogate to have one for him?
Or would he just simply not bother desiring a child?
There are many options for the man to desire a child.
Question it Atla…? How do men desire children to be in their life?
We all know our own mind don’t we?
We can be absolutely certain what’s on our own mind, but we can never be certain what’s on another persons mind.
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Another question for you Atla
Do men have a desire for sexual intimacy with other people….or maybe they choose to stay celibate all their life?
Would men ever have sexual intimacy with a woman already knowing she could possibly be hating on him while they are indulging in baby making and he would be aware he might just be making love to a woman he doesn’t like.
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The male sexual drive is a lot stronger then the female one, and also works differently than the female one, few men can actually remain celibate. Most of them would still try to get some, it just wouldn't really be "intimate".Fairy wrote: ↑Sun Sep 22, 2024 4:02 pmAnother question for you Atla
Do men have a desire for sexual intimacy with other people….or maybe they choose to stay celibate all their life?
Would men ever have sexual intimacy with a woman already knowing she could possibly be hating on him while they are indulging in baby making and he would be aware he might just be making love to a woman he doesn’t like.
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Ok…I really understand what you mean. That really does make perfect sense to me. And I’m a woman, I really genuinely do understand what you have said. Thanks for being honest about this.Atla wrote: ↑Sun Sep 22, 2024 4:10 pmThe male sexual drive is a lot stronger then the female one, and also works differently than the female one, few men can actually remain celibate. Most of them would still try to get some, it just wouldn't really be "intimate".Fairy wrote: ↑Sun Sep 22, 2024 4:02 pmAnother question for you Atla
Do men have a desire for sexual intimacy with other people….or maybe they choose to stay celibate all their life?
Would men ever have sexual intimacy with a woman already knowing she could possibly be hating on him while they are indulging in baby making and he would be aware he might just be making love to a woman he doesn’t like.
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Do you believe a woman can turn their sexual desire on and off at whim. And that men’s sexual desire is always on the on switch?Atla wrote: ↑Sun Sep 22, 2024 4:10 pmThe male sexual drive is a lot stronger then the female one, and also works differently than the female one, few men can actually remain celibate. Most of them would still try to get some, it just wouldn't really be "intimate".Fairy wrote: ↑Sun Sep 22, 2024 4:02 pmAnother question for you Atla
Do men have a desire for sexual intimacy with other people….or maybe they choose to stay celibate all their life?
Would men ever have sexual intimacy with a woman already knowing she could possibly be hating on him while they are indulging in baby making and he would be aware he might just be making love to a woman he doesn’t like.
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The male sexual drive can actually mess with the male head rather badly, after a few days or even sooner. It's like kicking you to get some otherwise you feel physically worse.Fairy wrote: ↑Sun Sep 22, 2024 4:20 pmOk…I really understand what you mean. That really does make perfect sense to me. And I’m a woman, I really genuinely do understand what you have said. Thanks for being honest about this.Atla wrote: ↑Sun Sep 22, 2024 4:10 pmThe male sexual drive is a lot stronger then the female one, and also works differently than the female one, few men can actually remain celibate. Most of them would still try to get some, it just wouldn't really be "intimate".Fairy wrote: ↑Sun Sep 22, 2024 4:02 pm
Another question for you Atla
Do men have a desire for sexual intimacy with other people….or maybe they choose to stay celibate all their life?
Would men ever have sexual intimacy with a woman already knowing she could possibly be hating on him while they are indulging in baby making and he would be aware he might just be making love to a woman he doesn’t like.
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Yeah the male one is always on. Not sure about women. Maybe they can't choose to switch it off when they are really attracted to someone, but there are a ton of life circumstances that can switch it off for them?Fairy wrote: ↑Sun Sep 22, 2024 4:23 pmDo you believe a woman can turn their sexual desire on and off at whim. And that men’s sexual desire is always on the on switch?Atla wrote: ↑Sun Sep 22, 2024 4:10 pmThe male sexual drive is a lot stronger then the female one, and also works differently than the female one, few men can actually remain celibate. Most of them would still try to get some, it just wouldn't really be "intimate".Fairy wrote: ↑Sun Sep 22, 2024 4:02 pm
Another question for you Atla
Do men have a desire for sexual intimacy with other people….or maybe they choose to stay celibate all their life?
Would men ever have sexual intimacy with a woman already knowing she could possibly be hating on him while they are indulging in baby making and he would be aware he might just be making love to a woman he doesn’t like.
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Well I didn’t know that. Thanks for telling me.Atla wrote: ↑Sun Sep 22, 2024 4:27 pmThe male sexual drive can actually mess with the male head rather badly, after a few days or even sooner. It's like kicking you to get some otherwise you feel physically worse.
That’s why my brother always used to tell me he was dying for a shag. But comedy aside….I’m thinking now the struggle it must be to be a man, desiring release from his desire to ejaculate.
Can the man just masturbate or does he prefer to release with a woman? Or a man if he’s gay?