That's my point as well, however. But then the part rooted existentially in that collection of our own uniquely personal interactions with others. Then the part where that precipitates conflicting goods. The part where some are able to anchor "I" to one or another external moral font [God or No God] or to one or another "internal component" rooted in an Intrinsic self. Or, for others, an Emotional Self or a Spiritual Self or an Intuitive Self.Maia wrote: ↑Sat Sep 07, 2024 8:33 amI thought it was quite funny, actually.iambiguous wrote: ↑Sat Sep 07, 2024 5:40 amFirst of all, there is always the possibility that his tongue was embedded in his cheek at the time. Or, perhaps, he was just being his usual provocative self?Iwannaplato wrote: ↑Thu Sep 05, 2024 2:32 pm Well, Iambiguous, I think this ↑ might be a time to whip out the Stooge label.
Anyway, how can it not be intriguing for those of us who are not blind to ponder what it might be like to be blind in the romance department.
And, in part, that is because in the sighted world [for some], "looks" might actually become the...the deciding factor? And, come on, in our world today, it would be foolish to suggest that beautiful women and handsome men don't have advantages in the dating game. Then the part where this is attributable more to genes than to memes. Or more to memes than to genes.
But how would this be conveyed to Maia...someone who has been blind since birth.
Instead, as a sighted person, I try to imagine how much "looks" might have played a part in my own past relationships.
It would be interesting if Maia were to explore that with us given her own personal experiences. Did "looks" ever come up in her relationships with sighted men? How would such a conversation unfold for those who are not blind?
Here's a discussion about that at Quora:
"Do blind people not care about appearance when dating, only personality? What are their standards for dating?"
https://www.quora.com/Do-blind-people-n ... ch%20other.
Then the part where physical beauty is grappled with...philosophically? How ought all rational men and women react to it?
Firstly, everyone's experience will differ, and I can only talk about my own.
Clearly, as you noted, there are many, many other factors beyond "looks" that can lead to a fulfilling relationship:Maia wrote: ↑Sat Sep 07, 2024 8:33 amThere is far more to physical attraction than just looks. The first thing I notice about a person, before they even start speaking, is, to put it bluntly, their smell. From this, I know immediately if I'm attracted to that person or not. I strongly suspect that this is true of everyone, to be honest, including sighted people, but most of the time it's on a subconscious level. Well, for me, it's right up there, and is a definite deal breaker or deal maker. Not that I would ever tell them this, of course.
1] personality
2] character
3] wit
4] emotional depth
5] social skills
6] accomplishments
7] sexual prowess
8] tolerance
9] athletic abilities
10] all of the cultural and historical memes you share in common
Like I always say, "whatever works".Maia wrote: ↑Sat Sep 07, 2024 8:33 amAnd there's more. If I'm sitting right next to a person, in a pub for example, even without actually touching them, it's pretty easy to get an impression of their size. As a Pagan, I also have a big advantage, as Pagans tend to like hugging each other when they meet or depart, and this allows me to check out their general shape and fitness. All in complete innocence, obviously.
Voice is pretty important too. I mentioned Christopher Lee in The Wicker Man earlier, who surely has the most alluring voice in cinema.
On the other hand, if the "signals" were good and you commenced a relationship with someone, how did your sighted friends react to how he "looked". Or she "looked"? Looks never came up?
Like you say, in being a Pagan or not, each of us as individuals accumulates his or her our own personal experiences and "looks" and "smells" and "sounds" and "caresses" and "touches" may or may not be something you are able to communicate to others.
Yes, but in regard to how most would describe a romantic relationship, there is also that crucial distinction between love and lust. Especially in regard to how men come into this world hard wired genetically to make that distinction as minimal as possible. In fact, it was Supannika who tried to convince me that sexual intimacy is by far the most powerful way in which to communicate love to another. And I believe that is true. Sort of. At least given my own relationships down through the years.