Immanuel Can wrote: ↑Sat Jul 27, 2024 8:31 pm
Harbal wrote: ↑Sat Jul 27, 2024 7:24 pm
I don't know what might draw women to mass murderers, but I don't see why you would think it was empathy. Unless the women also had similar tendencies, of course,
No they're mostly "rescuers," who have convinced themselves that "only they understand" the bad boy, and only their "love" could make him well. As such, they're darned empathetic...way too empathetic.
I don't think that has anything to do with empathy, but, rather, a psychological impulse to fulfil some need in the women. I feel sure the phenomenon must have a name among psychologists.
IC wrote:Harbal wrote:No, but morality comes from the combination of empathy and sympathy.
Neither, actually. One can be "empathetic" or "sympathetic" with practically anything. And much of it may not be good. It's the mind that has to arbitrate the meaning of whatever the feelings feel. As the Stones so famously wrote, you can even be in "Sympathy For The Devil."
I don't know enough about the Devil to know if he deserves sympathy, but I'm not averse to the idea in principle. And you must admit, when anything really bad happens, he's always the first to get demonised.
I really can't see any way round the combination of empathy and sympathy being at the core of any genuinely moral system, because morality would just be a set of rules that we have no way to evaluate, otherwise. When you argue against abortion, you don't just say, "God says it's wrong", and leave it at that. You use terms like "murder", and talk about a human being beings ripped apart. What is that if not an appeal to emotion? Despite your assertions to the contrary, you obviously recognise that our emotions are at the heart of morality.
IC wrote:Harbal wrote:But how could you even begin to conceptualise justice and fairness in relation to others without empathy?
Easily. Those who are suffering do not need your tears and moans...they need relief from tyranny or pain.
But if their plight didn't first cause me to weep and moan, what would move me to try to bring about their relief?
So we stop being all "feely," and just do the right thing: make things fair for them; think it out and judge rightly.
But we can only base that judgement on our own feelings about what it must be like to be in their position. Without empathising, and then sympathising, why would we care about them, and what they are going through?
That's work the brain can do. Empathy just wallows in itself, and leads nowhere unless the brain takes over at some point.
Where do you get your crap from? You are just embarrassing. Who the fuck are you to speak for women? Women are PEOPLE. There are all kinds of PEOPLE. 'Some' women are weirdos who are sexually attracted to serial killers who don't happen to be physically hideous. You do realise that women are sexual beings don't you? 'Some' women are attracted to danger and/or have a death wish. It takes all sorts, as the saying goes.
And your corny, stereotypical 'women don't like 'nice' guys like me, they only like 'bad boys' ' garbage is just that. Garbage. Invariably said by hideous incel nerd types who are anything BUT 'nice'. I mean seriously. Women do have eyes and ears.
Where is this 'badboyness' scale and how is it measured?
You are a decidedly foul human being. Are women especially attracted to you? At a guess I would say 'NO'.