Yes.
Ah, well, I've been talking about me and other people.Okay, but 'we' were talking about 'you', before.
When I respond, generally I am also exploring. Not that you are necessarily suggesting the following, but I am not 'looking up' an answer in me, but rather exploring, often, an issue and often related issues and other examples add to my exploring and responding to the questions.Okay. But I was not asking if 'you' get along or not.
I would view it as different parts have trouble with each other, and that even the supposes main part may actually just be a tiny part of the whole. So, this 'driver part' let's say, can have trouble with anger. So, it suppresses it. I had that pattern. Oh that's bad, not really me, shouldn't be expressed etc. Well, that's not a great experience for that part (nor for the 'driver' either, but that latter may be harder to notice).I was asking what parts/portions did the 'self' not get along with?
Iwannaplato wrote: ↑Fri Jul 19, 2024 8:15 am Great.
Right, to put this in my schema, or to use one way one might apply my schema...they probably judged, consciously and/or unconsciously that X was bad.
The peopIe you mentioned who say they do not want to be like their parents.Who are 'they' here, exactly?
I gave an example.And, I found that if actual examples are provided, then this works far more successfully than just an 'X' does. Unless, of course, in syllogism form.
Iwannaplato wrote: ↑Fri Jul 19, 2024 8:15 amPerhaps expressing anger. They had, for example, a parent who was emotionally abusive and hurled a lot of rage at them and/or their other parent. So, they decided - using that term very broadly - that anger was bad and should not be expressed. This meant that one portion of themselves ended up being segregated (for being in essence bad). They might be slightly aware of its presence or not, in certain situations. They might have guilt and or shame connected with that emotion and that sub-personality. Energy is devoted to its suppression. Judgments of self and others are in place and ready to appear in consciousness.
Iwannaplato wrote: ↑Fri Jul 19, 2024 8:15 am There are a lot of approaches to dealing with that situation: therapies, religious practices, spiritual practices, common sense approaches, etc.
So, have you abused children as an adult?Well the irrefutable Fact that every child, in the days when this is being written, endure abuse, and every adult abuses children, talking about 'others' is not really helpful nor do things move forward and become better.
Sure, I beIieve we agree here at this level of abstraction.See, not until one helps "them" 'self' to become better could they then actually be able to help, and support, another, properly and Correctly.
Iwannaplato wrote: ↑Fri Jul 19, 2024 8:15 am I think most lead to an impoverished self. On the other everyone should be free to dis-identify, suppress and so on if they want to. That might be the right choice for them and the essence they are. Some of those people think that their version of dis-identification is the universally correct path. Some of those become spiritual leaders or aim in that direction.
As disconnected sub-personalities, no. Better they do not arise in the split off form again. That they are integrated as options in the whole in their no-Íonger distorted form is my goal. That they are no longer split off, held down, judged, distorted or no longer seeping out via passive aggressive or undermining the self or any of a myriad ways these portions of the self, when judged and suppressed can about out, this is my approach.
Might be the same, might not.
I think I have said to you before and given exampIes of how 'my' need not be ownership. I do not consider it to necessarily have that meaning it can mean that. EDIT: not it wasn't own, though it was a similar issue. It had to do with the verb 'have'.See, the 'my' word implies 'an owner', so who, exactly, is 'the owner', or the 'my', of the term or phrase 'my self', and 'the owner' of all of those personalities, or 'selfs', within all human bodies?
Here: This is my friend - I do not consider them something I own. Others may well say he or she is their friend.
This is my hand - I do not consider my arm my possession or something I own. It is a facet of me.
My parents - though it is possibIe some might feeI they own their parents, the sentence does not necessariIy mean that.
My apologies for the inconvenience. - here the person is expressing feeings and acknowledging responsibility for an act.
My favorite part of the movie was the ending - I don't own that favorite part.
My pleasure to assist you.
My mistake, I misunderstood.
My sincere condolences to your family.
My respects to the late professor.
My love for travel knows no bounds.
My focus right now is on completing this project.
I don't think of owning my parts. That already has split presumed in it and a specific type of split, generally between a human and a thing or set of things. Someone and their car, for example. I do not consider what have been parts to be objects/things. Nor that I own them: Sometimes people have toxic self-relations that this could be an evocative metaphor for. They have an instrumental relations between parts with control on one side.
Because it is me in a problematic split off form. The problem is that it was abused, split off, judged and often, for example, it can take on the judgments - anger is destructive and outside of love, for example. And so a portion of the self can, when suppressed and denied actually seem to confirm the judgments when it pops out or when you try to integrate it at first.
Because they are a part of me. Further I concluded that I did not want, for example, anger or fear, or specific kinds of these feelings because of abuse and damage. Or I thought that it was good to get rid of them. (there are many other judgments and types of judgments that can lead to these parts being split off, denied, judged and twisted by all this)Also, why would 'you' even want to integrate what 'you' really do not want anyway?
I certainly have prevention goals. But I also have treatment of damage goals. I don't think you and I have the same goal.
Which wouId need to incIude heaIing present damage.
That's not what I meant or said.If 'you' choose to be a raging insane deranged separate one, and show 'these ones' to others and children, then do not be at all surprised that 'these ones' continue on con others'.
Also, this could sound like 'you' just want to be a "raging lunatic", at times, without judging "your" 'self' for being one.
It seems to have sounded that way to you.
Yes, I realized that pretty soon after we met here, that you wouId beIieve that. You are more on what I wouId caII one of the disidentification paths and it seems you have a lot of judgments of integration paths. You seem to assume to know what happens when one follows them. What the end results are.I do, I think, understand what you are saying, and doing, but I am not sure that 'doing that' will be conducive to 'the world' that absolutely every one wants, and desires.
Iwannaplato wrote: ↑Fri Jul 19, 2024 8:15 am
Why do you generalize about human beings?
I think actually different humans have different motives both from others who generalize and then even between instances of their own generaIizing.For the exact same fundamental reasons why you and every other human being, does.
Fine, no worries.My apologies. The words, 'I have not', were meant to be, 'that is'.