Iwannaplato wrote: ↑Fri Jul 19, 2024 8:15 am
Age wrote: ↑Fri Jul 19, 2024 7:32 am
I understood this, already.
Great.
Of course not. There is only one 'you: within that body right?
I believe that in my case, that is correct. I think there can be actual mixes, but that's another story. Might even apply to Hitler. Some people manage to channel or be ridden by directly toxic or subtly toxic entities.
Okay, but, to you, can some people also manage to channel or be ridden by directly nontoxic or subtly nontoxic entities as well?
Or, do they not exist, to you?
Iwannaplato wrote: ↑Fri Jul 19, 2024 8:15 am
It can seem to solve their problems. It can seem to give them certainty and power, even if they don't use either of those terms, especially the latter one.
Okay, but 'we' were talking about 'you', before.
Iwannaplato wrote: ↑Fri Jul 19, 2024 8:15 am
So, again, what parts/portions do not align with, are coupled with, or do not integrate with what you call here "my" 'self'?
Now, 'we' get aIong much better. I put we in citation marks, since the feeling of and sort of reality of plurality has been minimized or elminated.
Okay. But I was not asking if 'you' get along or not.
I was asking what parts/portions did the 'self' not get along with?
Iwannaplato wrote: ↑Fri Jul 19, 2024 8:15 am
Yes I understood this previously, also.
Great.
Iwannaplato wrote: ↑Fri Jul 19, 2024 5:45 am
Perhaps it might pop out under duress and be more visible, even to others.
I have likened 'this' to like when people say they do not want to be like 'their parents', when their parents' did what they did not like, but when under nore stressful times, and especially with 'their now kids' find "themselves", if honest, misbehaving just like or exactly, 'their parents' did.
And, you are right, these misbehaviors may well e more visible, or far more obvious, to others.
Right, to put this in my schema, or to use one way one might apply my schema...they probably judged, consciously and/or unconsciously that X was bad.
Who are 'they' here, exactly?
And, I found that if actual examples are provided, then this works far more successfully than just an 'X' does. Unless, of course, in syllogism form.
Iwannaplato wrote: ↑Fri Jul 19, 2024 8:15 amPerhaps expressing anger. They had, for example, a parent who was emotionally abusive and hurled a lot of rage at them and/or their other parent. So, they decided - using that term very broadly - that anger was bad and should not be expressed. This meant that one portion of themselves ended up being segregated (for being in essence bad). They might be slightly aware of its presence or not, in certain situations. They might have guilt and or shame connected with that emotion and that sub-personality. Energy is devoted to its suppression. Judgments of self and others are in place and ready to appear in consciousness.
Okay, but then there are just about countless other situations. However, they all come down to a fundamental reason. And, when this is also found out, or learned, understood, then a lot of other things be one much clearer also.
Iwannaplato wrote: ↑Fri Jul 19, 2024 8:15 am
Having their own children is a tremendous challenge. It's a new kind of relationship for them. Suddenly their ability to suppress this portion of themselves is less effective. Perhaps they never, like their own parent, hit their children, but they find that they feel the urge and they cannot deny it. Or if violence was never in the picture, still rage arises. They suddenly know or deny with even more energy that they are like their parent. Perhaps they manage to feel superior to that parent - see, I keep it in, he let it out. But really they are suffering the same pattern and those around them are also, though perhaps not in the exact form they suffering it in the past with their parent.
Okay.
Iwannaplato wrote: ↑Fri Jul 19, 2024 8:15 am
There are a lot of approaches to dealing with that situation: therapies, religious practices, spiritual practices, common sense approaches, etc.
Well the irrefutable Fact that every child, in the days when this is being written, endure abuse, and every adult abuses children, talking about 'others' is not really helpful nor do things move forward and become better.
See, not until one helps "them" 'self' to become better could they then actually be able to help, and support, another, properly and Correctly.
Iwannaplato wrote: ↑Fri Jul 19, 2024 8:15 am
I think most lead to an impoverished self. On the other everyone should be free to disidentify, suppress and so on if they want to. That might be the right choice for them and the essence they are. Some of those people think that their version of disidentification is the universally correct path. Some of those become spiritual leaders or aim in that direction.
Iwannaplato wrote: ↑Fri Jul 19, 2024 5:45 am
These are not really issues now. More was than is.
That is great.
But, my actual question is meant to be asking what are the actual insane, deranged, and/or separate parts, portions, or personalities that 'you' observed, or noticed, within 'you' that actually did not align with the 'real self' and which 'you' did not want to be 'seen' as, or be aligned with, which were coming out in those emotions and attitudes/misbehaviors.
Oh, urges toward violence. A rage subpersonality blocking me from noticing fear. There are 'expIaining away' subpersonalities. There are distracters. There are victim subpersonaties. There are subpersonalities with timeless judgments, driven by and wrapped around an emotion. For example, 'life is hopeless', this will not work out - with attendant feelings of grief. This could show up in a range of situations.
Thank you.
Iwannaplato wrote: ↑Fri Jul 19, 2024 8:15 am
See, I only ask because if 'we' can bring these 'types of personalities' to the forefront here, what I think will be noticed, and then, literally, uncovered, is the 'Real and True Self', which, deep down, is within every one of 'you' human beings, and which does not want to be 'seen as' any of 'those types of personalities', attitudes and emotions that 'you' do not want to be aligned with nor 'seen as'. Which, by the way, absolutely all of them exist in adult human beings in one form or another.anyway.
That was my sense of your position.
And, learning where absolutely every one of those unwanted 'sub/personalities' 'came from', and how to make sure they never arise again ever in any up and coming adult human being is what will make, and create, 'the world' into a place that every one wants and desires to live in.
Iwannaplato wrote: ↑Fri Jul 19, 2024 8:15 am
Iwannaplato wrote: ↑Fri Jul 19, 2024 5:45 am I tend to think of these as portions of me that were not integrated well with the rest of me because I had suppressed, pushed away, denied what were reactions to abuse or toxic facets of society or people around me going back to birth and beyond.
What 'you' call and say, 'of me', here I just say and call 'That One' the Real and True, or only, 'Self'.
Yes, I think we differ here. Because in your schema, I think, this self is the same everywhere. I think this is a portion of my real self, that which is everywhere.
you do not seem to have understood the view I am expressing here, fully, nor Correctly
I just say that what you are referring to by the 'my' word is the One and only 'Self', which exists, everywhere.
See, the 'my' word implies 'an owner', so who, exactly, is 'the owner', or the 'my', of the term or phrase 'my self', and 'the owner' of all of those personalities, or 'selfs', within all human bodies?
Iwannaplato wrote: ↑Fri Jul 19, 2024 8:15 am
'The personalities' of all of you adult human beings, which no one, or the Real One, does not want to be integrated with, aligned with, nor associated with are just 'those types or ones', which come out far more often under stress or duress, are the sole result of an 'unwell taught' upbringing/childhood.
This is what I thought your position was. And clearly there are overlaps, however, I have chosen to integrate those portions, not to dis-identify with them.
But, because of who and what the 'you' word means and refers to, exactly, and because of where 'you' come from exactly, 'you' had absolutely no choice at all but to integrate all of the different 'types of personalities'. Even those ones that the 'True Self' did not and does not want.
Also, why would 'you' even want to integrate what 'you' really do not want anyway?
Of course those unwanted types will arise now and then, but why accept or integrate them?
Why not just understand, fully, why they arise, and where they come from, exactly, and then 'just let them go', as some would say here?
And, this is never ever to excuse the Wrong doing of any adult, but was and is just the result of finding 'the cause', and it is only from the knowing of WHY some thing happens, then 'it' can be prevented.
And, as 'we' all, logically, know 'prevention' is better than 'the cure'.
In a sense I agree, but our sense of what the cure is and our goals are not the same, as far as I can tell.[/quote]
But, 'the cure' is 'prevention', itself,.which every one knows is 'the best'. And, 'our goal' is the 'exact same one' for absolutely every one.
Also, 'the actual cure' for this 'unwell world' comes from 'the 'prevention' of 'you' adult human beings 'doing Wrong', ever again
Iwannaplato wrote: ↑Fri Jul 19, 2024 8:15 am
Recognizing when 'those unwanted personalities, attitudes, emotions, start to rise, and knowing where and when they come from, exactly, helps, absolutely, in 'the prevention' of them arising again.
And my approach is quite different. I choose to integrate, which means letting them express and fully, with sound and few words in the main. In the process often I remember the time they were split off. I notice the associated judgments about reality, myself, other people and work on loosening those so they do not remain fixed. The goal is that now these portions come back into the whole, where they can express in their original form, without the judgments in place and without being in their judged suppressed twisted form.
Okay.
If 'you' choose to be a raging insane deranged separate one, and show 'these ones' to others and children, then do not be at all surprised that 'these ones' continue on con others'.
Also, this could sound like 'you' just want to be a "raging lunatic", at times, without judging "your" 'self' for being one.
I do, I think, understand what you are saying, and doing, but I am not sure that 'doing that' will be conducive to 'the world' that absolutely every one wants, and desires.
Iwannaplato wrote: ↑Fri Jul 19, 2024 8:15 am
Iwannaplato wrote: ↑Fri Jul 19, 2024 5:45 am Once suppressed, denied, pushed away (and I'll add 'judged') they themselves can take on toxic forms. They were me but also to a significant degree not integrated with me. A bit like one hand stopping the other hand from doing something: hitting someone, grabbing a sweet, etc.
Iwannaplato wrote: ↑Fri Jul 19, 2024 5:45 am
Thank you for the clarification. It is refreshing.
This explains more why 'you' view things, and respond the way that you do.
I doubt that.
Okay, you are absolutely free to doubt, (and believe), absolutely thing at all of 'your choosing.
Sure, I knew that.
Iwannaplato wrote: ↑Fri Jul 19, 2024 5:45 amI just described everyone. Though perhaps you meant/understood that. But then that would mean you didn't realize before that everyone is or at least was like this - each in their own patterns.
Why did you even start to begin to assume this?
My experiences and insight.
So, you began to, and then concluded, that 'that would mean I did not realize before that everyone is or at least was like this - each in their own patterns', because of 'your own personal experiences, and your own personal insight'.
Iwannaplato wrote: ↑Fri Jul 19, 2024 8:15 amWhy do you generalize about human beings?
For the exact same fundamental reasons why you and every other human being, does.
Iwannaplato wrote: ↑Fri Jul 19, 2024 8:15 am
Okay, but one 'personality' I have not very common among what you call 'everyone' is to not want to 'look at' "one's" 'own' 'self', and jump to 'looking at others', instead. Exactly like you have just shown here, once again.
Could you rephrase this. I don't understand it. If you mean you don't jump to others, you have often jumped to talking about human beings and their problems. And then also the people you are communicating with, for example with sentences beginning with 'this one...' Have you noticed this pattern? If this isn't relevent to what you meant above, it was because I did not understand the sentence.
My apologies. The words, 'I have not', were meant to be, 'that is'.
Iwannaplato wrote: ↑Fri Jul 19, 2024 8:15 am
Iwannaplato wrote: ↑Fri Jul 19, 2024 5:45 am
Do 'you' think or believe that 'you' know the 'real me', from those portions of 'me' that did not integrate with 'me', regarding 'you', better now?
Since I don't understand why you ended with the word 'now' I don't think I understand the question.
Okay
The word 'now', here, signifies what you do 'when this is being written', and separating 'this' from what you use to do 'previously'
I'm still not sure what you are asking here.