Harry Baird wrote: ↑Tue Nov 29, 2022 7:08 am
Alexis Jacobi wrote: ↑Mon Nov 28, 2022 5:17 pm
I don’t understand the term
gaslighting in this context. What makes you use that term?
Gaslighting involves denying obvious reality to another person so as to exercise power over that person. It often occurs in a context in which the perpetrator presents him/herself as being rational and dispassionate, and his/her target as irrational and emotional. If the target reacts with anger or some other appropriate emotion to the denial of his/her correct perception of reality, and to the portrayal of him/herself as being illogical and merely driven by sentiments, then the perpetrator uses this as further evidence of his/her portrayal of the situation: "See, here's the emotionality that I'm talking about. As for me, I continue to simply rationally and dispassionately tell the truth."
Of course, such an exercise in power is
itself motivated by sentiments, and that's probably the best way to point out the
game being played.
Alexis Jacobi wrote: ↑Mon Nov 28, 2022 5:17 pm
I do not have emotional investments in any ideas that we discuss (on this forum, in this thread). But I notice that something made you (seemingly) angry. What exactly?
Case in point...
(Granted: strictly speaking, I've applied the term "gaslighting" in a much, much milder context than that in which it usually applies, and I'm not accusing you of involvement in those awful situations of domestic abuse. It's just interesting to compare the dynamics).
While I understand now what you mean by gaslighting I do not accept your assertion that I gaslighted you. Because that is so I see your responses as tactics to avoid examining the actual issues that I brought out. You have offered no commentary at all on any of the points I did bring out. It stops with the accusation of
gaslighting.
My impression is, and certainly has been (when in other conversations we’ve touched on issues of social justice and my views about *straight power-principles*) that you have often become upset. When someone gets upset in conversations of this sort involving discussions of ideas in a philosophical context and where political and social ideological positions are challenged it adds a whole other emotionalized dimension that complicates the discussion. Since I have no interest at all in making you upset, and making you upset serves no purpose, the conversation has to end. Or, and here is the real downside, it must devolve into the sort of
bickering that goes on in this thread continually.
To recap: I regard the South African situation as distinct and different from either Israel or the conquest of North America by the English colonists. Difference does not mean incomparability it simply means that the differences have to be seen and understood. I regard the activism against South Africa that I mentioned in reference to my parent’s views and also to the global anti-Apartheid movement as being, let’s say, badly informed and also hyper-emotionalized. Meaning that it was established by those who controlled and directed the narrative that South Africans supportive of the state could only be seen as ‘bad’ and ‘evil’.
I will cite that particular friend of my family who repeated “Whitey got t’ go”. His statement, and what I remember of his position, equated the South African situation with that of the American South, as if they were equatable. What he seemed to do was then to *project* all of his views and feelings about the American situation onto that of the South African situation. Do you suppose that I condemn him for this? No, that is not my point. However there is nothing wrong with pointing out the fact that the ‘lenses’ that we apply when we view different situations, especially contentious ones, involve projections of stuff into those situations. If you were to say “But you have your own lenses that you apply” I would answer that yes, I do, but I can also detach myself from them and recognize, and talk about, my own *interests*. And with the introduction of that word *interest* I also introduce the notion of *ownership interest*. It is a very important term in my own lexicon. The more ownership interest, the more to be protected. And when one is in a mode of protection one will, inevitably, color and *spin* one’s discourse — rationalize it I suppose.
Speaking of the global anti-Apartheid movement, in this sense then an emotionalized position overcame a more rational and nuanced one. And I recall a conversation with a man (an American) I met on a bus heading to New Orleans who had lived in South Africa and when I voiced my simplistic analysis (borne of anti-Apartheid sentiments received but not worked for) he simply pointed out that the real situation was far more complex than that. And he seemed quite clear-headed to me and sincere as well.
It is my opinion, though you have called what I attempt here ‘gaslighting’ which implies an underhanded and unethical manoeuvre on my part, I am not acting underhandedly. My view is that when emotionalism enters in that emotionalism then dominates and distorts. That is certainly very true in the world around us. It happens all the time. But here in this context we (supposedly!) have agreed to the terms of calm conversation.
In the larger context (of political and social discourse) I do not have any doubt at all that the Progressive/Left faction always seems to assert that their cause is ‘righteous’ and ‘moral’ and they always resort to the traditional and typical accusations and assignment of labels. So by seeming to *defend* the former South African state or regime
I will be seen as defending unutterable evils. Racist, colonialist, Nazi, fascist and every other trope-term that are used in political and social battles today.
I did say, and I am committed to my view, that modern Leftist and Progressives are carrying forward a sort of emotional-religious
imperative that arises from within the Christian moral and ethical context. To note that this is so it not, not necessarily, to see it as ‘wrong’. It is merely to note it and to then be able to talk about it.
What I try to do in these conversations is to *locate* the arguments and viewpoints that people have within a context, certainly, but also as a product of causation within the realm of ideas. So by referring as I do to the structure of argument of Left-Progressives and noticing their employment of moral guilt-slinging (the accusation of immorality underlies all their arguments) I do not think I am doing something wrong. Yet it is seen as such.
And you did imply that I was not coming out and saying *what I really meant* which, obviously, means making the sort of statements you imagine I am making that you (I gather) see as racist, colonialist and morally regressive. You then commented on your own assertions saying this was ‘sad’.