Scott Mayers wrote: ↑Sat Nov 28, 2020 12:30 pm
The underlined-bolded-blue statements I emphasized tells me that you are resisting any willingness or possibly lack an ability to connect the analogies I'm using to help you understand the perspective of the athiest of the religious persons such as yourself.
You're quite right. I'm not detecting any connection between the analogies you're attempting to draw, and any salient point. And I think it's because you are assuming I think things I don't think, or that "religious people" you may have encountered all think in the way you're trying to describe in the analogy. But I assure you, they do not...and I do not...so the analogy is not working well for me.
That's why I invite you to speak plainly. The analogy is firing very wide of the mark I think you want it to hit. It's not helping me see your real-world position...it's obscuring it to me.
Either way, your apparent concern here indicates that you are not going to acknowledge any model of comparison.
Not at all. I'm happy to refer to an
apt analogy.
But I suggest the analogy as given isn't helping us understand each other.
This is an issue of either you not being able (or possibly not willing) to put yourself into my shoes, so to speak, in a literal way.
Not at all. I get where you're coming from, I think...but you need a better analogy; or better still, just to say your point without obscuring it by way of an analogy.
I'm open to hearing and discussing your view. I'm not inclined, though, to certify for you an analogy that imports to the conversation elements I regard as incorrect. That would be to mislead you...and I wouldn't want to do that.
I had experience with affecting some persons close to me this way AS they were dying (but didn't tell me). We ended up cutting off contact in a somewhat understandable agreement when I discovered a couple years after that she had a horrible final year. She was strongly Evangelical and so my approach to prove something effectively using her own good capcity to reason in 'apologetics', probably contributed to her suffering.
Ah, this is
much better! Just say what's on your mind...no analogy, just the facts.
Tell me more about this incident. I would be very interested in how it affected your view of Evangelicals...what
kind was she, by the way? Some Evangelicals are inclined to be rather mystical and experiential, and others are inclined to be more factual and data focused, so it will help me to know.
I'm more likely to just piss you off and make another person distance themselves from anything else I have to say.
Heh.

Not even a bit. I'm quite happy to talk to you, Scott...and not one bit "pissed off." I think these are important questions, and I'm happy to talk about them.
I too cannot evade the significance of emotions even though I am relatively 'skilled' at being isolated without getting depressed on the state of "nihilism" that many fear about when considering athiesm. Even most atheists I know still cannot divorce their 'belief' in some form of absolute morals. [See Michael Shermer and his "Can you be good without God?" discussions.] This is the same issue that created problems with Communism given the fact that IF the present athiest presumes some future "paradise" on Earth, that becomes a religion IF the present people have to 'sacrifice' for a progeny. I mean why would anyone without children or other loved ones think it alright to sacrifice their own life for some future that they could never be a part of?
See, this is why I like talking to you, Scott. You're an honest Atheist. You see what the problems are, you speak of them accurately, and you raise the honest questions...so why wouldn't I want to talk to you?
I find the analogy unhelpful to understanding you. But I find your frank description of the situation with the "persons close to me" very relevant. And I want to understand what it is you're actually experiencing. Is it really surprising, therefore, if an honest description turns out to be more helpful than a vague and somewhat tangled analogy?
I would say not.