Dontaskme wrote: ↑Fri Apr 05, 2019 11:46 am
DAM: People are genuinely being honest,
Age wrote: ↑Fri Apr 05, 2019 7:54 amDoes this count for ALL people, for ALL of the time, or, only for some of the people, some of the time? Or, for some thing else?
I think most people want to be honest people most of the time,
I would go as far and say that ALL people start out wanting to be honest people ALL of the time. Unfortunately though because ALL people are abused as children, they grow up to be dishonest people as adults, but still MOST of these older people still WANT to be honest people. Unfortunately though, WANTING to be honest people and BEING honest people can be two completely opposing things.
Dontaskme wrote: ↑Fri Apr 05, 2019 11:46 am unless they know they're being dishonest and will try to hide it by denying it from fear of shame.
As well as fear of punishment and judging.
Also people would NOT have the fear of shame if they were NOT ridiculed by people.
If adult human beings just STOPPED ridiculing and judging, then there would be NO shame, and children would grow up without any fear of shame.
Dontaskme wrote: ↑Tue Apr 02, 2019 7:47 am they can only communicate what they personally know and understand from their own experience, even when they are throwing insults and what-nots at each other in a two way discussion, they are still being their true genuine self,
Dontaskme wrote: ↑Fri Apr 05, 2019 11:46 amAge wrote: ↑Fri Apr 05, 2019 7:54 amAre you absolutely SURE that that is the real and genuine True Self, that One IS (or could be)?
I think so, in the context that the subject ( I ) is projecting the image of itself in the form of words and actions. I don't think in any event things could have been any different to how events originally appear.
To me the subject of (I) and (i) would need to be addressed first here.
To me;
The i is NOT the True Self. This i is the one that human beings personally identify themselves with, of which there are as many as there are human beings, which are just an "illusion", false, not real, fake, or just the one, which human beings THINK they are.
The I IS the True Self, of which there is only One, and which KNOWS who/what the 'i' is, and, Who/What 'I' am.
I agree that at any given moment of NOW, things could NOT be any different, but HOW things appear to the i can be and usually IS far different from how they appear to I.
Dontaskme wrote: ↑Tue Apr 02, 2019 7:47 am how could they be any different than how they in the moment present their view?
Dontaskme wrote: ↑Fri Apr 05, 2019 11:46 amAge wrote: ↑Fri Apr 05, 2019 7:54 amBy being dishonest.
OBVIOUSLY no one could be different from the PRESENT, in THE PRESENT, but surely adult human beings on a whole, and individually, could STOP and change their present view, from when this is written, and present a much BETTER VIEW, of themselves, in the so called "future"?
Or do you BELIEVE that this is impossible?
I believe it's possible to change ones ways ..
The personal i self CAN, and DOES, change their ways.
The Truth is they cannot NOT change their ways. But i admit that the way some human beings mis/behave it appears like they can NOT change.
Dontaskme wrote: ↑Fri Apr 05, 2019 11:46 ambut only when the flow of the present is temporally stopped via reflection of what way one wants to look at a certain situation..if they didn't like one way, they can change it to another way.
Yes I agree.
STOPPING and LOOKING, from "another" Truer perspective, allows the small self to change in ways, which are far better ways, to behave.
The True Self, however, there is NO need to change. Although this Self also cannot NOT change. (But this is some thing to LOOK AT later).
Dontaskme wrote: ↑Tue Apr 02, 2019 7:47 amso how would you know who is being honest or not
Dontaskme wrote: ↑Fri Apr 05, 2019 11:46 amAge wrote: ↑Fri Apr 05, 2019 7:54 amThrough clarifying questioning, helps, AND, by remaining completely OPEN.
Yes, I agree, by having the other person clarify whether they are being honest or dishonest to you..but then that person has to be telling the truth, or you won't get the proper clairifcation you seek.
Whatever "clarification" they give it is the
proper one. Because I KNOW the reason WHY they are being dishonest in the first place.
If, however, the "clarification" is an honest one or NOT, this is another matter.
As you have pointed out, "it" could NOT be any other way, so in this sense whatever answer is given is 'proper', although that answer might NOT be the 'proper' one in the sense of being Truly Honest.
A person would NOT give an honest response/clarification if they are TRYING TO hide some thing. It also takes just as much Trust on the part of the one being questioned, as it does on the one questioning, for the one being questioned to be honest about being previously dishonest.
To KNOW 100% that "another" is telling the Truth, then 100% Trust in the "other" has to be gained. That kind of Trust can, and will, only be gained when human beings are brought up in "world" without fear of being judged, ridiculed, and/or punished. (Greed also NEEDS to be eliminated from society first as well but that is an adult issue not an issue for children regarding this).
By the way, when you asked, "so how would I know who is being honest or not" and I said "Through clarifying questioning, helps, and by remaining completely OPEN, I did NOT mean to just ask them a question clarifying if they are being honest or not. I meant by asking them a serious of clarifying questions, from a completely OPEN standpoint, then I could decipher who is being honest or not.
Usually, if one is asked to clarify if they have been honest or not, then what that answer could be considered in advance. So, some times it is best to NOT even ask such a clarifying question. But when I do, I still remain OPEN.
Dontaskme wrote: ↑Tue Apr 02, 2019 7:47 amor whether they would be right or wrong about what they are presenting as a view point
Dontaskme wrote: ↑Fri Apr 05, 2019 11:46 amAge wrote: ↑Fri Apr 05, 2019 7:54 amAgain, through clarifying questioning helps here, AND AGAIN, by remaining completely OPEN.
Yes, I agree, by being OPEN and not hiding anything, just being totally honest without fear of shame.
To HAVE, NO fear of shame, requires a Trust that NO judging is/will come from the "other".
Dontaskme wrote: ↑Tue Apr 02, 2019 7:47 am without there being a belief involved on your part to be able to SEE the difference?
Dontaskme wrote: ↑Fri Apr 05, 2019 11:46 amAge wrote: ↑Fri Apr 05, 2019 7:54 amAre you saying that one HAS TO HAVE a BELIEF to be able to SEE when "another" person is being dishonest and/or right?
If yes, then I find that VERY contradictory.
It's not contradictory because from your centre of being,
Is "my" 'center of being', some thing like the True Self?
If yes, then I can find out and SEE when a human being is being dishonest, without EVER having a BELIEF. In fact by having a BELIEF this will distort my ability to discover and learn if a human being is being dishonest.
If no, then 'what is' the 'my' and the 'center of being' (of that 'my')?
Dontaskme wrote: ↑Fri Apr 05, 2019 11:46 amyou can't tell if someone is being dishonest or not, they may say they are being honest but are really lying about it. So a belief will have to enter the scenario, do I believe the persons claim or not?
Again I NEVER have to either believe nor disbelieve a person's claim, as I can still REMAIN completely OPEN. Whether I VIEW or THINK the "other" is lying is another matter. But if I was to BELIEVE either way, then I would NOT be OPEN to just maybe the other is True.
I can very easily and quickly form a VIEW that "another" may or may not be lying. But that is just my VIEW, which obviously could be WRONG, or partly wrong. Because my VIEWS can be WRONG I would be "WRONG" to base my next VIEWS on any past VIEWS. I find it much better to just LOOK AT
what IS NOW, in the present moment, without any distortions from assuming nor believing, then I found I can SEE a clear and True picture of things.
As you have pointed out here, people can say that they are being honest but really be just lying. And adult human beings have become "experts" at doing this. If i were to add my beliefs and assumptions to this mix, then things just become far more clouded.
Dontaskme wrote: ↑Fri Apr 05, 2019 11:46 amAge wrote: ↑Fri Apr 05, 2019 7:54 amI would suggest that being OPEN to absolutely ALL things, allows one to SEE the difference between right and wrong, honest and dishonest, much quicker, simpler, and easier, rather than having a BELIEF, of ANY thing would.
But maybe you could SHOW me to be WRONG here.
You're not wrong here, I agree with what you have said...but the belief would have to be there in the one wanting the clarification not the one clarifying...
WHY "would" the BELIEF be there in the one wanting clarification?
I can seek clarification from you without ANY belief whatsoever.
Maybe if you gave an example of clarifying some thing with me AND providing the belief that you say supposedly 'would have to be there', and I will see if I can show you how I could turn that around, and ask you the exact same clarifying question, but this time WITHOUT the belief having to be there at all.
Maybe if we try that, and just see what happens?
I can NOT provide you with any one particular thing that I want clarified without a belief having to be there because absolutely EVERY thing I want clarified comes from an OPEN perspective, of which obviously there is NO belief at all.
Maybe if you do NOT want to provide an example of what you suggest 'must be the case', you could pick absolutely any thing I have written in this forum regarding wanting clarification (or any thing else for that matter) and then SHOW where the BELIEF that you say "must be there", instead, if you like?
Dontaskme wrote: ↑Fri Apr 05, 2019 11:46 ambecause only the one clarifying knows the truth...
Just because the one clarifying "knows" the truth, WHY then MUST there be a BELIEF in the "other"?
By the way, some people have become so "good" at lying that they some times do NOT even know that they are lying (the truth). That is from that little self because obviously the True Self, within, KNOWS the actual and real Truth.
Dontaskme wrote: ↑Fri Apr 05, 2019 11:46 amnot the one receiving the clarification...
I am still NOT sure WHY you are saying that 'a belief would have to be there' in the one receiving the clarification
the one receiving still needs a belief present to believe what the person is saying...
Ah I see where the confusion might lay. OF COURSE one NEEDS a BELIEF if they say either; "I BELIEVE you", or, "I do NOT BELIEVE you".
But from my perspective I can still ask for clarification and NO matter what response I receive I still do NOT have to either believe nor disbelieve any thing they say.
If I CHOOSE to believe or not is another matter. I always CHOOSE to neither believe nor disbelieve, (because of the obvious results these two cause).
Dontaskme wrote: ↑Fri Apr 05, 2019 11:46 amthey cannot know absolutely if they have been truthful.
If one asking for clarification can NOT know ABSOLUTELY if the one asked for clarification is being truthful or not, then would it just be BEST to remain OPEN, especially considering they could NOT ABSOLUTELY KNOW either way?
This scenario seems, to me, like more EVIDENCE to neither believe nor disbelieve, and just remain OPEN.
Dontaskme wrote: ↑Fri Apr 05, 2019 11:46 amAge wrote: ↑Fri Apr 05, 2019 7:54 amDo you have any actual examples of HOW having or holding a BELIEF, of some thing in particular, will help people to SEE the difference between honest and dishonesty in "another" and/or the difference between right and wrong, in any thing?
As soon as any information is claimed. A belief must enter the arena,
This is difference:
Information claimed CAN be LOOKED AT, without a belief ever entering.
Or,
Information claimed can ONLY be LOOKED AT, with a belief entering.
Now;
This can be LOOKED AT from the perspective, that the first one is ABSOLUTELY NOT true, while the second one is ABSOLUTELY true. Could this be SEEN in any other way than this, from "your" perspective? Is there an ALREADY held BELIEF, within that body, which is actually STOPPING you from SEEING any thing else here?
This can also be LOOKED AT from another perspective, the first one MIGHT be true or it MIGHT NOT be true AND the second one also MIGHT be true or it MIGHT NOT be true.
NOW, I am saying I can LOOK AT things from a completely OPEN perspective and neither believe nor disbelieve any thing I SEE. Until I am SHOWN otherwise what I SEE is that information claimed CAN be LOOKED AT, without a belief ever entering. What I SEE could be WRONG, or partly wrong, so I will just remain OPEN till I am SHOWN otherwise. AND then I will still NOT start believing, nor disbelieving, any thing.
Dontaskme wrote: ↑Fri Apr 05, 2019 11:46 am because only the subject can know truth from fiction as it objectifies that truth or fiction,
'But KNOWING something' does NOT mean that 'that' HAS TO BE believed, nor disbelieved.
The very reason for NOT believing any thing is so that one is OPEN to ALL things.
if there is no belief present then there is no knowing if something is true or fiction.
I can KNOW if some thing is true, like the sun will most likely shine on parts of the earth, in 12 hours from when this is written, but there does NOT have to be a BELIEF present. If I was to BELIEVE that this is true, then I would NOT be OPEN to being informed if this is NOT true at all. Some one might have discovered that the sun is actually going to explode in the next six hours, but if I BELIEVED that this is NOT true, then I would NOT listen to them at all. If, however, I was OPEN, and asked a clarifying question like; Really? Then I WOULD listen to what they had to say, at least.
If you were NOT SURE if some thing was true, then would you BELIEVE that it is true?
Am I correct in saying that you would ONLY BELIEVE in some thing that was true?
If yes, then that thing could NOT be any thing else correct?
If no, then WHY NOT?
Dontaskme wrote: ↑Fri Apr 05, 2019 11:46 amThere's just simple not-knowing presence.
There is a KNOWING presence, WHEN ALL are in agreement.
The 'not-knowing presence' is just the 'NOT absolutely sure knowing', which is just about what ALL VIEWS are.
Dontaskme wrote: ↑Tue Apr 02, 2019 7:47 amTo announce a particular view has the capacity to be right or wrong is another matter would require a belief also.
Dontaskme wrote: ↑Fri Apr 05, 2019 11:46 amAge wrote: ↑Fri Apr 05, 2019 7:54 amAnd WHAT 'BELIEF' do you propose that one would need EXACTLY, in order to be able to announce a particular view has the capacity to be right or wrong?
To announce anything right or wrong would require a belief in what has been announced to be able to discern the difference.
But to announce anything right or wrong is a lot different than announcing that any thing (a particular view) has the CAPACITY to be right or wrong.
I could announce, for example, This view that I am about to share has the 'CAPACITY TO' show how a truly peaceful world can be created for everyone, which is a lot different from, This view that I am about to share, which shows how a truly peaceful world can be created for everyone, 'IS RIGHT'.
Another example of the difference is;
Information claimed can ONLY be LOOKED AT, with a belief entering, HAS THE CAPACITY TO BE RIGHT.
And,
Information claimed can ONLY be LOOKED AT, with a belief entering, IS RIGHT.
To me the first statement is a true statement, as it is an OPEN statement. While the second statement although may be a true or a false statement, the way it is written it is NOT at all open to any thing other than its self.
Now if we are talking about announcing of the CAPACITY of a statement or if we are talking about announcing of the RIGHT of a statement, then these are two separate issues. One issue has just been brought into the discussion AFTER the issue that WAS being discussed.
Dontaskme wrote: ↑Fri Apr 05, 2019 11:46 am Or else renounce everything announced back to not-knowing by default.
If a statement, like the first statement in the above example, is AGREED by ALL, then it is a KNOWING statement. But I still do NOT see how a BELIEF is "needed" anywhere.
Dontaskme wrote: ↑Fri Apr 05, 2019 11:46 amAge wrote: ↑Fri Apr 05, 2019 7:54 amI do NOT have a BELIEF, but I can and WILL announce that ANY particular view has the CAPACITY to be right or wrong.
The I doesn't need a belief to be what it is...but as soon as I announces a knowledge of itself then a belief enters the equation else how would I know I was announcing a particular point of view unless I believed I was ?
You are FREE to BELIEVE that you are announcing a particular point of view, if you so wish to, and if that is what you do and want to do, then that is perfectly fine with me, BUT this is completely different from BELIEVING what you ARE announcing.
If you now want to discuss about BELIEVING that what you are announcing, and are now questioning how would you "know" that you were announcing a particular point of view unless you BELIEVED that you were announcing a particular point of view, then you could do like what I do.
I neither believe nor disbelieve that I am announcing a particular point of view, for example; here on this forum, but how I "know" that I am announcing a particular point of view, here in this forum, is by if i get a response or not. If I do NOT get a response, then just maybe I am NOT announcing a particular point of view, or that particular point of view did NOT interest any one, or that particular point of view go "lost", or that particular point of view, just has NOT been read yet, or many of the other reasons WHY I did not get a response.
The reason I do NOT believe that I am announcing particular points of views, here in this forum, is because maybe I am NOT actually doing this at all, as this is just a dream, or this is any of the other countless possibilities that mean that I am NOT actually announcing any particular view at all. But how I KNOW I am announcing particular points of views is because i sometimes get responses back, and of agreement. If people agree that there are particular points of views being announced, here in this forum, then the more 'evidence', 'weight', 'support', 'proof', et cetera that I have to know that I am announcing particular points of views, here in this forum.
If there was NO agreement, however, then there is, to me, less truth and thus less knowing, and, conversely if there is FULL agreement, then that is thee Truth, and HOW I KNOW, for sure, that I am announcing points of views, here in this forum.
Dontaskme wrote: ↑Fri Apr 05, 2019 11:46 amAge wrote: ↑Fri Apr 05, 2019 7:54 amIs there some thing WRONG that I just did NOW or said? If yes, then WHAT BELIEF do you HAVE, AND, WHAT is the WRONG I just did or say?
The only thing wrong, missing part here is knowing to announce anything is to open the curtain of fictional story telling which needs a belief present else the story would have no grounding, validitity, the story would by defalt be meaningless and would be nothing more than a renonnounced announcment.
Just out of curiosity;
COULD this just be an explanation to back up and support a BELIEF, which is being already held within that body?
Or,
IS this an explanation of what is an actual FACT, which could NOT be refuted, and/or IS in agreement with ALL?