For what its worth, I agree with you that the secularized conception of sin in general and original sin has caused incalculable harm by becoming a means to obtain control.
I’ve learned that
depression is th
e result of for whatever reason, becoming closed off from taking in the impartial impressions external life offers. When we close off to them yes and even by the results of attempted secularized religious attitudes, its really damaging.
Must the concept of the wretched man have an emotionally negative content? Is the realistic inner examination of the human condition even possible with a negative preconception?
Nietzsche wrote of our wretched contentment. He is right and I admit it as my weakness but does that make me “bad?”
The whole idea of the value of morality which decides “good and bad” is open to question. Personally I agree with simone Weil which is why I further the awakening of objective conscience which feels value as opposed to finger pointing morality.
To set up as a standard of public morality a notion which can neither be defined nor conceived is to open the door to every kind of tyranny. Simone Weil
As I see it, atheism resulting from the collective influence of religious ideas having been corrupted for egoistic advantage, makes the mistake of throwing out the baby with the bath water. The influence of grace essential IMO for opening to objective human conscience is lost through negative emotional rejection.
You are not the only one with difficulties with love. Societal influences often destroy the ability of the psych to become capable of love. You may appreciate this little book which helps with the question. I know it helps me to know there are those out there whose understanding far exceeds mine
https://www.amazon.com/Wisdom-Love-Towa ... B00AZ9FBVO
“…Who can deny that our world is starved for a new understanding of love, of what it means to live together and work at love and not give up?” What is the antidote to romantic love that all too often exhausts itself over night? Might it be to join with a partner in a spiritual search? “Love to . . . awaken us: Body and Soul to a greater unknown.” Further, what is the work which will sustain a love over a lifetime? By searching for the sacred with our lover we might well find the divine within them. Philosopher and teacher Jacob Needleman suggests love can be a reflection of our spiritual being. He asserts that by the time “we are living together something beyond passion is required;” something intentional and conscious is needed.
In The Wisdom of Love, philosopher Jacob Needleman draws wisdom from myth, religion, philosophy and sacred poetry in an exploration of that which brings two people together in love — of what love is, why we need to give it and receive it, and how it can be sustained beyond the passion and mystery that first draws us together.