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ken
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Re: It's true

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Lacewing wrote:
If I use eating/food as an analogy, it's like the difference of giving a person a few bites and saying "Tell me how that tastes" vs. shoveling a whole plate of food down their throat and saying "How did that taste?". You're more likely to get a clear answer if you're not asking them to wade through and assess "it all" at once. :) Does that make sense?
Yes.
Lacewing wrote:For good two-way communication, I think there has to be a balance between what one person wants to express, and what another person wants to process.
Good point.

What I want to express is the formula to how people can find all the answers to all the meaningful questions in Life, which in turn will make Life better for everyone. Is there any person here who wants to process this knowledge?

What I want to process is the knowledge in how to be able to express ideas/thoughts better. Is there any person here who wants to help Me obtain this knowledge?
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Re: It's true

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ken wrote:
Lacewing wrote:
If I use eating/food as an analogy, it's like the difference of giving a person a few bites and saying "Tell me how that tastes" vs. shoveling a whole plate of food down their throat and saying "How did that taste?". You're more likely to get a clear answer if you're not asking them to wade through and assess "it all" at once. :) Does that make sense?
Yes.
Lacewing wrote:For good two-way communication, I think there has to be a balance between what one person wants to express, and what another person wants to process.
Good point.

What I want to express is the formula to how people can find all the answers to all the meaningful questions in Life, which in turn will make Life better for everyone. Is there any person here who wants to process this knowledge?

What I want to process is the knowledge in how to be able to express ideas/thoughts better. Is there any person here who wants to help Me obtain this knowledge?
volunteer to work with children with autism

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ken
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Re: It's true

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Lacewing wrote:
surreptitious57 wrote:
Lacewing wrote:
Being intense and obsessive could be symptoms of something else
ken has autism and describes himself as a simple and slow person who needs things explained to him
very clearly in order to avoid confusion. This is why he can appear to others as intense and obsessive
Interesting! I did not know that. It causes me to pause and ask myself, would I have communicated differently had I known?
You do not know the degree of autism so hopefully you would not have communicated differently. Even tsbu has been told by many people that tsbu may have autism so I think you should not change the way you communicate just because you hear a person has some thing.
Lacewing wrote: And should I? Interesting questions.
I think you should only if another person asks you politely to communicate differently.
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Re: It's true

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Impenitent wrote:
ken wrote:
Lacewing wrote:
If I use eating/food as an analogy, it's like the difference of giving a person a few bites and saying "Tell me how that tastes" vs. shoveling a whole plate of food down their throat and saying "How did that taste?". You're more likely to get a clear answer if you're not asking them to wade through and assess "it all" at once. :) Does that make sense?
Yes.
Lacewing wrote:For good two-way communication, I think there has to be a balance between what one person wants to express, and what another person wants to process.
Good point.

What I want to express is the formula to how people can find all the answers to all the meaningful questions in Life, which in turn will make Life better for everyone. Is there any person here who wants to process this knowledge?

What I want to process is the knowledge in how to be able to express ideas/thoughts better. Is there any person here who wants to help Me obtain this knowledge?
volunteer to work with children with autism

-Imp
I agree all children not only seem to grasp this knowledge far more quicker and easier than adults do, children also taught Me far more about what is truly meaningful in Life and what is truly right and wrong in Life, then any adult has been able to so far.
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Re: It's true

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ken wrote:
What I want to process is the knowledge in how to be able to express ideas / thoughts better
I am very much in favour of this as clarity and precision are essential for productive discourse
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attofishpi wrote:
TSBU wrote:By the way, does anybody know about something like chatroulette but with no cams and no sex? I like (Need) to talk to strangers, but the other day I tried a page like that, and it was 10/10 guys stoping talking to me after 10 seconds when they knew that I have a dick.
The local pub? Or, cut your penis off?
I don't like to be with many people at the same time. Common people get stupid when they are in a group. Also, pubs are generally in searching for sex, or... it's strange to talk about some things. If I get close to any alone person and I start talking about "personal" or "deep" topics, they are going to think that I want more than a talk... pubs are not cheap, and I catch attention if I go to them, I have a tatoo in my head "You don't belong here". Also, I prefer writing, people think more, beause writing takes more time than open the mouth.
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TSBU wrote:
attofishpi wrote:
TSBU wrote:By the way, does anybody know about something like chatroulette but with no cams and no sex? I like (Need) to talk to strangers, but the other day I tried a page like that, and it was 10/10 guys stoping talking to me after 10 seconds when they knew that I have a dick.
The local pub? Or, cut your penis off?
I don't like to be with many people at the same time. Common people get stupid when they are in a group. Also, pubs are generally in searching for sex, or... it's strange to talk about some things. If I get close to any alone person and I start talking about "personal" or "deep" topics, they are going to think that I want more than a talk... pubs are not cheap, and I catch attention if I go to them, I have a tatoo in my head "You don't belong here". Also, I prefer writing, people think more, beause writing takes more time than open the mouth.
So cut your penis off.
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Re: It's true

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attofishpi wrote:
TSBU wrote:
attofishpi wrote:
The local pub? Or, cut your penis off?
I don't like to be with many people at the same time. Common people get stupid when they are in a group. Also, pubs are generally in searching for sex, or... it's strange to talk about some things. If I get close to any alone person and I start talking about "personal" or "deep" topics, they are going to think that I want more than a talk... pubs are not cheap, and I catch attention if I go to them, I have a tatoo in my head "You don't belong here". Also, I prefer writing, people think more, beause writing takes more time than open the mouth.
So cut your penis off.
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Re: It's true

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I think it's ordinary good manners to choose how I speak to someone according to how I think they can understand what I'm saying, and so I don't mislead them. For instance


1.learn their (foreign) language or the relevant phrases of it.

2. Enunciate clearly if the receiving person is deaf

3. How to talk to an autistic person has already been mentioned.

4. Gauge what is the social expectation. E.g someone already said pubs are for sex seekers. I don;t agree , and social situations are a special skill set. E.g. someone might not want a conversation but only a pleasant 'Hi there', or in some similar social situation a pleasant 'Good morning , sir''

5. Special authority or power is well written up in social skills manuals that apply to various professions. A doctor or nurse is responsible to the patient for not harming her feelings whilst imparting information or comfort. A teacher is responsible to pupils, students or trainees to care for their whole well- being besides imparting information and critical thinking skills. A salesman is responsible to employer to get profits without cheating the customer and thus the profession of salesman might damage the salesman's soul. A politician who is a good man is responsible to the electorate to tell the truth in terms that the electorate can understand(difficult).

Gosh I do go on and on don't I :o iIn normal life I am quite reserved.
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