Ordinarily, so do I. But sometimes there simply is no language that is not either "charged" or "sanitized." And then one is forced to choose.I object to the use of 'charged' language.
I understand your anxiety about it. For we like to think "neutral" language means "fair" language. And often it actually does. But sometimes it decidedly does not.
For instance, when on trial for his war crimes, Adolph Eichmann defended his actions in some very neutral language. He was "doing his job." He was "solving the problem." He was "obeying his orders." All true, all neutral and all clearly designed to deny a moral weight to actions that were morally repugnant.
In Eichmann's case, neutral language was not the friend of truth, but the enemy of justice. Had he been allowed to reframe the debate in the terms he wished to describe it, he might well have been acquitted on the grounds of his key defence strategy -- that he was simply a petty bureaucrat, too unimportant to be blamed for anything as huge as the killing of 6 million innocent people. Neutrality would have served the cause of grave injustice there.
So sometimes we just cannot be neutral. If the situation is one of sufficient gravity, we are forced to select language morally appropriate to the case; and to fail to do so is sometimes to surrender to evil right at the start. Admittedly, this is usually not the case: but in the murder of Jews, as in the murder of babies, I think we're facing one of those exceptional cases. Unless the debate proceeds on the basis of accurately identifying the action in question, then no moral conclusion will be possible.
And this fact is not unknown to the proponents of abortion, you will note: the manipulation of language toward neutrality is their prime strategy. This is why they call themselves "pro-choice," not "pro-abortion." Because they know that only a despot or a thug can disagree with "choice," but any moral person can take rational exception to abortion. Yet it is not all "choices" that are in question in the debate: it's only one -- the "choice" to abort. Nothing else is of concern. And they know this. So calling the debate a "choice" debate is mere propaganda designed to put the opponent on the linguistic back foot. And we see that accurate language favours the other side again.
A more dispassionate and philosophical way to put this point is simply to say that ontology precedes ethics. One cannot decide the moral weight of the question unless one has already established the nature of the entity in play. What is it "in reality" is the ontological question. If it's a baby, there can be but one "choice" that is moral. If it is a cluster of cells owned by the woman in question, then there is no morality involved in her "choice." It's simply an option she takes or does not. But neutral language, if that is what we select, grants her carte blanche, just as it would have handed it to Eichmann.
Ontology precedes ethics. That's a good axiom for any debate. I wish it were original with me, but it's not.