Bill Wiltrack wrote:.Don't have any children of my own.
Not planning to..
So what did you have in mind?
If its not the case that you or your partner can't have children I hope your partner is of a like mind, as a childless older women can be a sad and bitter partner.
Bill Wiltrack wrote:.Don't really want to bring a life into this world.
I don't think it is noble at this time.
We don't know if this is heaven or hell yet...
Is this 'we' you and your partner? If not and your partner wishes children but is hanging-on for you to make your mind-up then I think you being ignoble as whilst there's no shame in not wanting to make the sacrifice and commitment necessary to raise a child well your criteria is ridiculous as you'll be waiting forever and to deprive a women of achieving one of her main biological functions is wrong. You should leave her if this is the case. Still, if you are both waiting then maybe its for the best.
I think having kids is selfish, but that has nothing to do with the selfishness of keeping another from having kids. I happen to think she should ask you if you want kids with her and then she can make up her mind to stay with you or not. I have plenty of girlfriends who decided to forgo kids for love of an older man. I don't think they feel like they missed out.
Just don't get your feelings hurt if she decides to leave you...for many women the desire to have a baby is overwhelming and understandable if you put it in the context of being as strong as a teenage boys desire to have sex.