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p.s. Reasonvemotion gets it too.
No I don't.

It all sounds forced and artificial.

This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest us.
I like it that way. Why should I involve myself with others, strangers. That is nonsense.
And the Unified Theory teaches: Include more and more within your ethical radius, in your in-group, until it sweeps in eventually almost all of humanity, every conscious living individual. Be inclusive. Avoid tribalism.
This is starting to sound like Charles Manson.
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reasonvemotion wrote:It all sounds forced and artificial.

...Why should I involve myself with others, strangers. That is nonsense.
... Be inclusive. Avoid tribalism.
This is starting to sound like Charles Manson.
Here is what this thread proposes:

The secret as to how to improve your life is simple. Make someone else's life easier by improving the quality of their life.

And later, I explain further:

if we aim toward Intrinsic Value we are arriving at the good.

This informs us that when confronted with a dilemma we are better off if we
Choose mercy over 'justice' (formalities, duty, loyalty, codes, etc.)
Choose the individual over the collectivity.
Choose love over cost-benefit analyses, efficiencies, so-called 'practical consequences', etc. ...
and Choose the long-term view over short-term considerations.

These principles - along with Never murder, and Reduce suffering as much as humanly possible - are some of the main ones to which Ethics directs attention. They all follow from the original premise that a life is of uncountably-high value.

I'd like to know specifically what is forced?? I can understand that living ethically can 'sound artificial' to those who do not practice it. I do not grasp what Manson has to do with it.

I still hold that identifying with everyone you encounter as if they were "family" - rather than "a stranger" - will make for a better life for all, will make for more harmony on this planet, will help to avoid some of the grievous problems we are constantly threatened with such as wars and other sources of insecurity.

All normal people are just trying to make a life for themselves; they just want the same things: a little leisure time, a chance to share, to enjoy (perhaps by seeing a child develop, learn and mature); to be respected, even to be loved.

In proposing that there be a Science of Ethics I do not see where the forcing or artificiality comes in??? It would merely accumulate knowledge in its field, and inspire technologies that would make available designs to facilitate a better life for all ...more eudemonia.*

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* See http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/eudemonia?s=t
Also see Aristotle - Nicomachean Ethics, 1097b 1–10.
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prof wrote:Choose love over cost-benefit analyses, efficiencies, so-called 'practical consequences', etc. ...
and Choose the long-term view over short-term considerations.
Love of what? Love can be any part of a person, or its entirety. With its entirety, you get the problem of emphasis, what parts should go before the other when they are all initially equal? With parts you get the problem of negligence.

In short: cost-benefit analyses, efficiencies and so-called "practical consequences" are equally essential to love. Because love is like trying to carry something heavy, and just trying to carry without efficient distribution of weight, without knowing when it's too heavy and you'll break down, and not knowing when, practically, you're just gonna get smashed, is like not carrying about actually succeeding in your relationships with that which you love, and can be quite devastating to everyone.

Long-term view has nothing to do with good, if you try to insinuate that. Long-term view can be about good as well as bad things, and doesn't say anything about what you try to achieve over the long term.
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You never know what journey they had

to go through life.


BE KIND TO ALL.
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I'd like to know specifically what is forced?? I can understand that living ethically can 'sound artificial' to those who do not practice it.
Another way to describe it is an idealistic attitude, like "it's all for the best, don't worry it will work out" which at the best of times is never comforting. The most unconvincing is "people do the best they can". Please. I suppose you also believe this universe is a friendly place. I think your view is primarily utopian. People working together, trusting together. This is what I would call rose colored glasses.

I see reality in quite a different way.

BTW your remark " I can understand that living ethically can 'sound artificial' to those who do not practice it", has not gone unnoticed. It didnt take you long to drop your mantle of goodness and insinuate.
I do not grasp what Manson has to do with it.

I still hold that identifying with everyone you encounter as if they were "family" - rather than "a stranger" - will make for a better life for all

"The Family" was the title for Charles Manson's little love in. Look what happened to them when they trusted and loved each other, without question.

How sheltered was your life.
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reasonvemotion wrote:
"The Family" was the title for Charles Manson's little love in. Look what happened to them when they trusted and loved each other, without question.
Actually, Charles Manson advocated 'tribalism'. His family was his "tribe'. Outsiders were strangers and therefore in danger of being called 'the enemy' and well, we all know what happened to 'the enemy'.
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From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Charles Milles Manson (born November 12, 1934) is an American criminal and musician who led what became known as the Manson Family, a quasi-commune that arose in California in the late 1960s.

I have only read about him and his followers as a "family.

Is there a reference to his "tribe"?

Either way, whatever name you wish to use, the outcome would have/or was the same.
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reasonvemotion wrote:... it will work out" which at the best of times is never comforting. The most unconvincing is "people do the best they can". Please. I suppose you also believe this universe is a friendly place. ...

I see reality in quite a different way.

BTW your remark " I can understand that living ethically can 'sound artificial' to those who do not practice it", has not gone unnoticed. It didnt take you long to drop your mantle of goodness and insinuate.
I do not grasp what Manson has to do with it.

I still hold that identifying with everyone you encounter as if they were "family" - rather than "a stranger" - will make for a better life for all

...How sheltered was your life.
Hi, reasonvemotion

I'm sorry you found what the system of Ethics implies to not be comforting; it could be better if you were comfortable. For that you would have to understand how science works to add value, to enhance the quality and well-being of those alive. When I said "Everyone is just trying to make a life" I could have supplemented that observation by saying for the majority of the world's population, those who live in poverty, it is a matter of staying alive ...as the BeeGees song was titled.

As to the fact that everyone is doing the best they know how, I learned that from one of the foremost psychotherapists alive at that time, my buddy, Albert Ellis. He found that to be true. His insights were strongly influenced by the Stoics, especially Epictetus. It is a nice way of saying that we are in a state of ignorance, and that if we knew better, we would do better. I, at age 83, am inclined to agree with him, based on my experiences.

As to my living a sheltered life, I have done time in jail, the most serious when I was a conscientious objector to a war - euphemistically dubbed a "police action." I endured violence as an activist in the Civil Rights Movement; as I employed a method of resistance known as nonviolent direct action. I was jailed temporarily many times in anti-war protests.
My father died at age 52 from stress and trauma. He was trained as an accountant but could find no work during the Great Depression. He raised five children and did a marvelous job of it, in that we all became professionals devoted to public service. One of my sisters became a millionaire at a young age. She is a docent in an art museum, and a philanthropist for a local symphony orchestra. I became a Professor of Philosophy ...only after I sold newspapers to support the family. I couldn't afford to enter college until I was 26. Got my Ph.D. at 35. Worked my way through school, as the scholarships didn't cover everything. ...only tuition; not books, supplies, rent, food, etc. Studied hard. No parties. No vacations. No leisure.

I did get a book published, titled SCIENCES OF MAN AND SOCIAL ETHICS. I did get to hang around with Isaac Asimov, Bucky Fuller, Abe Maslow, and Bob Hartman. I did travel eventually to twelve countries. I do speak five languages.

...sheltered life? Some might say so. I'm not sure.

Yes, I am a Cosmic Optimist. I strongly believe - based on evidence - that the Universe is friendly to intelligent life. Robert S. Hartman taught me the rationale for such a conviction. I am more-than-convinced of how supportive the Universe is, if only we would give it a chance. In our ignorance we throw up so many obstacles, e.g., how the majority party in the House of Representatives behaves today.

As far as I can tell nothing you wrote refutes any of the arguments and statements in my recent two posts. I don't recall assuming a mantle of goodness. This is all your perception. I have been attempting to propose a theory of Ethics. It speaks for itself. I never claimed to be a saint - as defined in the system. Although I have ideals, I don't manage to live up to them. I do not believe I am utopian. [The last chapter of Living The Good Life deals with that topic, as noted in its caption.]

And I am truly sorry that you are discomforted by the ideas. I sincerely hope you come to feel better as time goes on. For you, and Voice of Time, and all readers: I wish you success, happiness, and prosperity.
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reasonvemotion wrote:From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Charles Milles Manson (born November 12, 1934) is an American criminal and musician who led what became known as the Manson Family, a quasi-commune that arose in California in the late 1960s.

I have only read about him and his followers as a "family.

Is there a reference to his "tribe"?

Either way, whatever name you wish to use, the outcome would have/or was the same.
No, "family" here is being used two very different ways. I believe prof is using the word "Family" to mean an all inclusive thing...as in like "the sisterhood"...lol...but only for men too. I believe he is saying it is better to include all mankind in your family, instead of form tribes, cliques, etc.

My point to you bringing up Manson was to show how you have misinterpreted prof's words.

I think it would help to read him again to understand:

"And the Unified Theory teaches: Include more and more within your ethical radius, in your in-group, until it sweeps in eventually almost all of humanity, every conscious living individual. Be inclusive. Avoid tribalism."

See...he says "avoid tribalism" and 'be inclusive'....this would indicate that he does not advocate being like Manson who was very into the tribalism type family.
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prof wrote:... I did get to hang around with Isaac Asimov, Bucky Fuller, Abe Maslow, and Bob Hartman. ...
Wow! I cannot tell you how jealous this makes me!! And I'm not an envious person. :mrgreen:
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Arising_uk wrote:
prof wrote:... I did get to hang around with Isaac Asimov, Bucky Fuller, Abe Maslow, and Bob Hartman. ...
Wow! I cannot tell you how jealous this makes me!! And I'm not an envious person. :mrgreen:
I don't even know who any of these people are. You might as well had said Jack, Jill, Jones and Jamey ^^
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prof wrote:Yes, I am a Cosmic Optimist. I strongly believe - based on evidence - that the Universe is friendly to intelligent life.
I'm not sure what you count as evidence, but it looks to me as though that apart from a thin layer on one small planet, the universe isn't friendly at all.

prof wrote:Here is what this thread proposes:

The secret as to how to improve your life is simple. Make someone else's life easier by improving the quality of their life.


That's very commendable. As I understand, it is essentially the doctrine of 'do unto others as you would have them do unto you'. Kant rephrased it as do only that which you wish were a universal doctrine (something like that). In christianity there is the promise of eternal reward to those that do, even to the extent that they turn the other cheek. In folklore we have the warning that what goes around comes around to those who haven't the goodness of heart to do as you suggest, which as I understand it, Buddhists take literally.
Most people agree that the world would be better if we all got along.
prof wrote:All normal people are just trying to make a life for themselves; they just want the same things: a little leisure time, a chance to share, to enjoy (perhaps by seeing a child develop, learn and mature); to be respected, even to be loved.

I think us 'normal' people owe a huge debt to all sorts of extraordinary men and women who have risked and suffered harassment, pain and death to challenge abusive 'leadership' and bring about the luxuries you describe. You cite your experience of jail for standing up for causes and I applaud you, but I am puzzled by your need to have aggression defined; that's it: sometimes you have to fight, because not everybody is nice to everybody else.
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tillingborn wrote: sometimes you have to fight, because not everybody is nice to everybody else.
This is where it gets tricky. How to judge who is being nice and who is not. It is not as easy as it sounds because I think most people think they are nice...but those numbers don't add up when you ask the same person who thinks they are 'nice' if everyone else is 'nice' too. More often than not...they will tell you that most people are 'not nice' and so they have to fight them. Well, if most everyone thinks they are nice...then where are these 'not nice' people? I think it would make any person with a inkling of common sense take a moment to at least ask themselves...am I deceiving myself by thinking I am nice?

I believe without that rationale behind your thoughts, you are doomed to a life of not knowing the difference between nice and not nice.

And that is not to say we are ALWAYS going to be nice...I think that is impossible....but at least we can be better prepared to understand when we are "right" to fight and when we are jumping the gun....such as with preemptive strikes...or in the thought..."I trust NO ONE." Those ideas are just two examples of misguided and illogical thinking, as if you are striking before a bad deed was done, then you are the original bad deed...and...if you say, "I trust No ONE" you are simply saying that you are paranoid and irrational.
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artisticsolution wrote:This is where it gets tricky. How to judge who is being nice and who is not.
I agree. On a one to one basis it's not always clear; I cringe at some of the times when people have formed a judgement of me that isn't very flattering, but entirely justified given the evidence they have. A recent example was when I received a call as I was driving; I passed my phone to my daughter to answer, as she did some nutcase cut me up and I started effing and blinding. That was my introduction to a potential business client. My poor daughter tried to speak, but the caller was clearly horrified and after a while hung up. I lost a bit of business, but far worse, I put my daughter through an excruciating ordeal; she has forgiven me; I haven't.
On such a scale mistakes will be made (you'll have to take my word that there is more to me than a foul-mouthed oaf) and I think prof's advice is sound; it must be true that if you are civil, people are more disposed to respond in kind. Really though, I was referring to his bravery in standing up to oppression, which given his story, I take to be involvement in the American civil rights movement, the purpose of which was to end the unambiguous abuse of a large section of the population. That he and people like him prevailed has made America and the world a better place, but there is still a lot to be aggressive, though not necessarily violent, about.
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The Voice of Time wrote:I don't even know who any of these people are. You might as well had said Jack, Jill, Jones and Jamey ^^
Your loss. Goggle them.
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