can men & women be friends?

[johngalthasspoken]

What would be the purpose or benefit to the man of having a female merely as friend? Homosexual men might enjoy a platonic friendship with a woman,but isn't the primary reason for heterosexual men to hang out with women (non related) ,is to try to get in her pants?
what are your thoughts?

[Arising_uk]

I presume so that he can talk about some things that he couldn't with his male friends.

Why would a woman have a male friend? For precisely the same reason I suspect.

[The Voice of Time]

If you, unlike me, have an idea of "standard" in women, like you only date models, then a woman not of that type would not be a sexual object.

I've met women which I've not had a sexual desire for but a huge intellectual desire, or instead desires for belonging etc. (social group). To me philosophy is no less good than sex when stretched out in the long run, so in this instance I wanted to get inside her head instead of her pants (she wasn't bad looking though, but it wasn't something I had much thought for).

Some people just don't have imagination when it comes to relationships, some people do have imagination beyond sexual intercourse, or alternatively don't have much sexual imagination and instead go out for sympathetic and empathetic reasons, like a book and wanting to share their feelings about it and analyse it intellectually together, never a serious thought of sex coming to mind, or just no other thought at all. People are different

[ForgedinHell]

Damn, here we go with the sexist bullcrap again. Maybe, just maybe, and I know this may be really hard for you to believe, but there is this slight possibility that since women are just as clever as men, that a man may have a friend who is a woman, for the exact same reasons he has guy friends, because the person makes for a good friend.

Idiot.

[johngalthasspoken]

Damn, here we go with the sexist bullcrap again. Maybe, just maybe, and I know this may be really hard for you to believe, but there is this slight possibility that since women are just as clever as men, that a man may have a friend who is a woman, for the exact same reasons he has guy friends, because the person makes for a good friend.

Idiot.

I think we spotted a closet case ^^ .

[vegetariantaxidermy]

Actually it's quite hard for women to stay friends with women too because they are so darn competitive and bitchy and tend to run off with each others' husbands.

[reasonvemotion]

Yes, I had that problem when I was married. They couldn't keep their hands off him. So being the generous person I am, I let them have him. Worked out well.

[vegetariantaxidermy]

Yes, I had that problem when I was married. They couldn't keep their hands off him. So being the generous person I am, I let them have him. Worked out well.

I'm glad to hear it.

[reasonvemotion]

[johngalthasspoken]

Yes, I had that problem when I was married. They couldn't keep their hands off him. So being the generous person I am, I let them have him. Worked out well.

is that your excuse for being dumped by your man? i though an alpha female had no difficulty in keeping a man interested in her charms

[reasonvemotion]

Did I say I was an alpha woman? Or is this your own impression?

[johngalthasspoken]

what do you mean by "i let them have him" ? was he out of your league ?

[vegetariantaxidermy]

what do you mean by "i let them have him" ? was he out of your league ?

Perhaps SHE found someone better, and realised he wasn't worth keeping. I can see why you live in 'mom's basement'.

As for the terms 'alpha female and alpha male'- can't stand them. 'Alpha' males are usually detestable creatures. Einstein and Stephen Hawking are far from being what is considered to be 'alpha' males.

[Kayla]

What would be the purpose or benefit to the man of having a female merely as friend?

it would be the same as having a friend of the same gender

but isn't the primary reason for heterosexual men to hang out with women (non related) ,is to try to get in her pants?

there could also be things like common interests, common projects that sort of stuff

[Kayla]

Actually it's quite hard for women to stay friends with women too because they are so darn competitive and bitchy and tend to run off with each others' husbands.

at least with the crowd i hang out with hitting on another girls boyfriend pretty much makes one an instant social pariah

similar for guys who hit on other guys girlfriends