Gary Childress wrote: ↑Sat Nov 27, 2021 4:28 pm
Age wrote: ↑Sat Nov 27, 2021 12:01 pm
Gary Childress wrote: ↑Sat Nov 27, 2021 5:55 am
Not always. Sometimes we do things and don't realize we are hurting others until we have them done to us.
Will you provide an example of when you did some thing to someone but did NOT realize you were HURTING them until someone did the same to you?
It's difficult to do so and, quite frankly, probably ineffable or impossible to adequately explain in words/absent experience.
I am pretty sure that just explaining what you just did to another human being would be quite a very simple and easy thing to do, in and of itself, although doing this might just feel very uncomfortable, for you. So, the actual behavior of just providing an example of the abuse ALL adults to do human beings is surely is NOT difficult to do at all, although doing so may feel very embarrassing and uncomfortable.
Also, we will NEVER know if just providing an example would be 'ineffable' or 'impossible' or NOT if you NEVER even attempt to provide an example nor an explanation. But there is CERTAINLY NO pressure to, NOR absolutely ANY obligation to, even attempt to provide an example, nor any explanation. But, 'examples' usually speak for themselves anyway, so an explanation was NEVER even being asked for here to begin with.
Gary Childress wrote: ↑Sat Nov 27, 2021 4:28 pm
I had assumed many would know or would have had the experience I'm speaking of. If you haven't encountered an example yourself, consider yourself lucky. It's not a pleasant feeling to realize you did something to someone that harmed them that you didn't realize you did or didn't realize you shouldn't have done at the time.
But I have experienced the realization that I did something to someone that harmed them that I did not realize at that time, (which they also are not yet aware of the harm caused) and I did not realize that I 'should' not have done that, at the time. I just did not come to the 'realization' because someone did the same to me.
Gary Childress wrote: ↑Sat Nov 27, 2021 4:28 pm
But I'll give it a try in a way you might be able to grasp. The way you approach me is very annoying and demanding.
What do you mean by, "The way that I approach you is ...". There are ONLY 'words' on a screen in front of you, ONLY. Surely, I am NOT that powerful that I can 'annoy' you by you just seeing some words, correct? And, there is absolutely NO 'demanding' AT ALL here, well from me anyway. I just asked you if you would provide an example of some thing, which you claimed happened to you, and that was all.
Gary Childress wrote: ↑Sat Nov 27, 2021 4:28 pm
Maybe you haven't had that experience from others or maybe you are simply acting out ways others have approached you.
What, exactly, are you referring to here?
Gary Childress wrote: ↑Sat Nov 27, 2021 4:28 pm
Or maybe you are doing it deliberately.
What does the 'it' word here refer to, EXACTLY?
Gary Childress wrote: ↑Sat Nov 27, 2021 4:28 pm
If you're unaware, then you might have someone do it to you someday and you'll realize what you were doing "back in the days when this was written".
If I am 'unaware' of what, EXACTLY?
Someone might do 'what' to me someday, which I might then realize 'what', EXACTLY, I am supposedly doing now, when this is being written?
Surely, you can explain what I am, supposedly, doing, without me waiting, for who knows how long, for someone to do 'it' back to me?
Gary Childress wrote: ↑Sat Nov 27, 2021 4:28 pm
If you are doing it deliberately,
Doing 'WHAT', EXACTLY?
Gary Childress wrote: ↑Sat Nov 27, 2021 4:28 pm
then hopefully, for you, Kharma balances out and there is no net excess or shortage on the "ledger" so to speak.
This all sounds a bit "spooky", or "off with the fairies", as some might say.
Gary Childress wrote: ↑Sat Nov 27, 2021 4:28 pm
Maybe I deserve it in that case.
Maybe you deserve 'WHAT', EXACTLY?
You are absolutely FREE to ASSUME absolutely ANY thing. But, just remember, that just because you ASSUME some thing, this does NOT mean that 'it' is even close to being true, right, nor correct, let alone ACTUALLY being True, Right, or Correct.
Gary Childress wrote: ↑Sat Nov 27, 2021 4:28 pm
I've been hard on you before and probably deserve the retribution.
WHEN?
And, WHAT are you referring to, EXACTLY?
Also, and before I forget, if that was an attempt at you providing an example of when you did some thing to someone, but you did NOT realize you were HURTING them, until someone did the same to you, and there was ANY presumption that you were doing "back to me", what I do to you, and that this was somehow going to 'annoy', 'hurt', or 'harm' me, well just so you KNOW, there is NOT a single word NOR thing that you could that would 'annoy', 'hurt', NOR 'harm' me.
Look, if you just do NOT want to provide an example of when you have HURT or HARMED someone, and you did NOT realize that you did until someone HURT or HARMED you, then so be it. I have got absolutely NOTHING to lose here.
I was just CURIOS, and thought if you PROVIDED an EXAMPLE, then this might help 'me' and/or "others" to do MORE of what IS Right and LESS of what IS Wrong, so that LESS people get HURT, HARMED, and/or DAMAGED. That is all.
Furthermore, if what you wrote here was NOT an attempt to provide an example of when you HARMED someone, and did not know, then when you wrote;
But I'll give it a try in a way you might be able to grasp. What were you referring to, EXACTLY?
And, could it be said that the rest you wrote after was just a DISTRACTION?