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Why do we find it so difficult to trust someone? Why do we doubt? When we look at somebody, we are not able to trust them immediately. Have you ever wondered why?

It is because we look at a person as a body-mind, and we feel that this body-mind will not be true, may not behave with honesty and integrity. We have no confidence that they will conform to what is right. We think: What if they deceive us? What if they do things the wrong way? What if they are not trustworthy? We must stop for a moment and change our paradigm. Don’t look at that person as a body-mind. Think of that person as the Divine Soul, the Energy, the same Soul that is in you. Think of that person as an extension of the Power that gives you life – if you think in such a way, will you doubt; will you mistrust? Chances are no. The moment we think of people as a soul, we will automatically start to trust them, love them, make them a part of our belief system, and with this understanding, life will change.

Wouldn’t it be so beautiful if we trusted everybody, if we believed in everybody? However, the question that will follow this would be ‘Oh! What if I believed in everybody and trusted everybody and then I was cheated?’ How could you be cheated? You are not the body-mind. You yourself are the Soul. Everything that is happening here is nothing but a cosmic drama, a drama that is unfolding as per the Divine will of the Creator. But do we see it that way? Till we don’t see it that way, we will live with doubt and mistrust, and we will miss the true bliss of life.

AiR

AiR wrote:Why do we find it so difficult to trust someone?

You can always trust Bob the Baptist with absolute and utmost confidence.

The default for any sensible person: trust no one...do not expect to be trusted...if the other wants your trust, he has to earn it...if you want the other's trust, earn it.

...or...

Play the 'peace and love, all men are good' game and get burned over and over and over.

Bob,

I like you, but I don't think you're a prophet.

I'd have coffee with you any old time, but I'll never 'follow' or 'finance' you.

henry quirk wrote:Bob, I like you, but I don't think you're a prophet.

Gosh, I've presented my credentials, unlike anybody else on Earth, so I must reluctantly chalk you up as an exceedingly hard-sell individual.

AiR wrote: Why do we find it so difficult to trust someone? Why do we doubt? When we look at somebody, we are not able to trust them immediately. Have you ever wondered why?

AiR

I must really be the odd man out, because my first reaction is to trust another person in what they tell me, but I usually don't give them any money till they prove to be reliable. It's only when they say or do something that I can determine is not true that I decide to not trust them, and unfortunately those are too many for comfort. In spite of the numerous individuals that cannot be trusted 100% I will still allow the newly acquainted person, trust till proven otherwise.

Because most have proven to be untrustworthy. As the saying goes, 'locks are for honest people'.

thedoc wrote:I must really be the odd man out, because my first reaction is to trust another person in what they tell me, but I usually don't give them any money till they prove to be reliable. It's only when they say or do something that I can determine is not true that I decide to not trust them, and unfortunately those are too many for comfort. In spite of the numerous individuals that cannot be trusted 100% I will still allow the newly acquainted person, trust till proven otherwise.

Me too, doc. With practice, it usually becomes clear rather quickly as to what a person's own blindness might create for themselves and others. Then I keep a safe distance, and love them from afar... except for a hug now and then.

I had an interesting experience recently... where someone who was going to be setting me up, suddenly blurted out their "shit" to me... and it happened right after I essentially (and probably instinctively) joked to them, "I wish people would come right out and reveal their "shit" to me up front when I meet them, so I can see what I'm dealing with." And then she did it... before she could stop herself. I got the sense that, in that moment, she saw my genuineness, and her spirit honored my spirit, before her brain (and her own neediness) could interfere. That ended up protecting me from a horrific ongoing drama. Now if only I can communicate/interact with others that clearly/directly/instantly going forward!

henry quirk wrote:Bob,

I like you, but I don't think you're a prophet.

I don't like you, and I don't think you're a prophet, either. I still don't really know what a prophet does, I just assume that whatever you say is a lie.

Harbal wrote:I still don't really know what a prophet does.

A prophet speaks prophecies, divinely inspired utterances.

bobevenson wrote: A prophet speaks prophecies, divinely inspired utterances.

The most memorable devinely inspired utterance I've ever made was "wow! Where did you learn how to do that".

Harbal wrote:

bobevenson wrote: A prophet speaks prophecies, divinely inspired utterances.

The most memorable devinely inspired utterance I've ever made was "wow! Where did you learn how to do that".

Watching another kid masturbating, right?

bobevenson wrote: Watching another kid masturbating, right?

You've got a dirty mind, for a prophet. Do you often find yourself thinking about kids in this way?

Harbal wrote:

bobevenson wrote: Watching another kid masturbating, right?

You've got a dirty mind, for a prophet. Do you often find yourself thinking about kids in this way?

Sorry, didn't mean to pry into your sheltered childhood.