Gary Childress wrote: ↑Wed Nov 02, 2022 4:47 am
Fornication can be very pleasurable.
Sure. Why else would people do it? And why else would people steal, use drugs, seize power, or just gloat and gossip? There are always "pleasures" from sin. In fact, "do the right thing" invariably means, "do the thing you don't want to do," or "don't do the thing you most feel like doing."
Morality's like that.
What's wrong with having it with someone who isn't married?
Because even if she isn't somebody's wife now,
she's going to be.

Now or later, it's the same defilement. You're saying to the woman, "You're not worth marrying; I can use you and discard you. You are not valuable to me, except for this momentary encounter. And I care nothing for your durable happiness or well-being, or for the rights of your future husband."
Think about yourself being on the other end of that equation, too, if you want to think unselfishly. Imagine yourself having culminated the relationship with your own beloved, the woman who you love above all others, and her saying,
"You know, you're the fifth best I've had." Would you do that to yourself?
Then do unto others what you'd have them do unto you.
Why would I go to hell for it?
Are you seeing the bigger problem yet, Gary? It's not just one act of fornication: it's the kind of person who thinks that way. He's callous, selfish, indifferent to others, greedy for his own pleasure, uncaring about long-term consequences, self-satisfied, arrogant, a user...Does a person like that, in your view, deserve the gift of eternal life?
What does God care if we pleasure ourselves or not?
Masturbation, you mean? So far as I know, there's no mention of it in Scripture, outside of the case of Onan, whose sin was treating a woman in exactly the way I described above, and violation of the duties of levirate marriage, rather than simply that lone act.
But lustful thinking about women to whom you have no relationship or commitment, and for whom you have no love...that is "lust." It is also a problem: and even a person who "pleasures himself" is indulging in thoughts that are greedy and exploitative. It's always the mind problem that is the most serious one -- the actions are merely the manifestations of a dark heart.
Or, to put it in the words of Jesus,
"Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks..." And out of such a heart, the limbs also act.
So long as no one is hurt, I don't see a problem with it.
Look at the above. Isn't "I don't see a problem with it" part of the real problem? You've got a person who is not merely using women, but who is also arrogantly indifferent to the moral status of what he is doing. Again, does such a character deserve eternal life? What kind of "just" God would reward such a person in that way, and would permanently institutionalize his greed, selfishness, cruelty and so on, making them part of the great Forever?
Does God dislike when we have pleasure?
Not at all. In fact, God invented pleasure. But pleasure needs a context: there are good pleasures and, unfortunately for us, bad pleasures too. There are some people who even, in fact, derive real pleasure from seeing others suffer. If wickedness had no charms, it would never be a temptation. But we are drawn often to the selfish and mean pleasures, rather than the right ones.
To commit to a woman, to give her the appreciation, security, loyalty, pleasure, protection and provision for which she longs, is to aim at the right pleasure; to use her and abandon her is to demean her in aid of one's own selfish satisfaction.
Is that hard to imagine? That God would validate committed relationships over uncommitted ones? That he would value pleasures surrounded by values of caring and nurture to pleasures obtained by impulsiveness, selfishness, debasement and fraud? That he would value marriage and children over mere self-gratification at the expense of others? That he would value love rather than contempt?