Atla wrote: ↑Sun Sep 15, 2024 9:25 am humans are different too, and they do get to know each other to some degree.
People only know others when they first know themself. There is no other, other than you, you are the source of your own truth knowing, your intuition and your conscience is your only guide. Notice how ONLY sounds similar to OWN ..only you own you, no one else owns you. You are alone in the world and so is everyone else, alone in their world.
For example: if say I am in a relationship with someone else, and I am expressing a really bad mood when I am with that person. The other person might think it's their fault I'm in a bad mood, without fully understanding it takes two to tango. Then they might think they would be better off never again interacting with that person who is in a bad mood, because the bad mood makes them feel uncomfortable, and they can only feel this discomfort because it's not their true nature, which is to be comfortable...and so the partner leaves the relationship because they don't want to deal with the drama, the so called shadow dark side of another human being. They leave and miss out on the real beauty loving side of the person because they have not accepted the person for it's true natural essence, which is both dark and light respectively.
Notice when you are in a bad mood when you are by yourself, you stay with that mood, you do not leave. You cannot leave yourself. But we leave others, because we believe they are separate from us. So we always repel what is not us.
So when people leave relationships, it's usually because of a miscommunication has occurred, what the leaver fails to understand in the other, is that people have two sides to them, they have a light and dark side. Some people in relationships with others, fail to understand that the Dark can never extinguish the LIGHT ...but the LIGHT can extinguish the DARK....but people don't have the courage to hang around long enough to see that truth. So just as you cannot leave yourself, you accept you have bad moods that will come and go. By leaving others you are in relationship with, is pointless, because you are just cutting your nose off to spite your face, because you are potentially missing out the true beauty that is the other person.
To miss out is to fail to see that only the light is the real and true beauty that is the true self, and the true self is what really counts and matters when it comes to successful relationship dynamics. In other words, to see the dark side as not the real self of pure unconditional love, that never leaves, or is afraid of it's dark side, knowing full well that the real true love is right behind and with all shadows at all times, it never leaves, just as you can never leave yourself.
And we all have them, we all have a shadow side, albeit illusory. Successful relationships are those who know and understand this truth with full acceptance and unconditional love, allowing the shadow to be there, knowing it's powerless nature. Thanks for reading and hearing your own truth.