The Male and Female Relationship.

[henry quirk]

And what do you think about instant sexual and physical chemistry at first sight with someone

Not much. Glands and appetite ain't the basis for anything outside of a one night stand. Anything else, anything solid and noteworthy, requires compatibility (which, in couples, includes mutual attraction but not necessarily the all-encompassing, set-my-pants-on-fire intensity of infatuation).

Can we really choose who we fall in love with.

The animal chemistry we have no say about ('cept where it truly counts: I'm gonna pursue/I'm not gonna pursue) but loving someone is a choice, on-going. It's saying yes to a coupled life, even when that life doesn't seem , from time to time, very appealing.

Love hurts like fuck, in my experience.

Oh, sure. I've been burned. Always though, it was becuz I got deep with a woman I didn't really know. I gave way to glands and appetite and I paid the price.

Also, how is it that two people can be totally compatible in the bedroom, where their sex together is electrifyingly like you don’t want them to stop, constantly crying out the words “oh my god I love you so much” But then outside of the bedroom you find you have nothing in common, and you realise you are just putting on a fake facade, and everything seems forced and strained.

I've been there. The sex is great but everything else is a horrorshow. Again: there's was no real compatibility. It was just glands and appetite.

[promethean75]

Broken hearts are for assholes, Fairy. Are u an asshole?

[Fairy]

Ok so accelafine can ignore Age, I agree.

Great.

Also Age is under no obligation to stop posting to people,

I'm not really thinking obligations, just that he wants to contact that which does not want to be contacted by him. That seems to be a part of him now.

Age knows the truth

Age knows an attitude and he prefers it. Many are like that. Some universalize it.

You mentioned loving the sound of one's voice......

accelefine in the last month, less that 200 posts, most short
Age pushing 600, some short many long.

Communication only ends when the one who wants it to end, ignores the person they do not want to talk to.

Oh, he knows she gets some contact, even if she doesn't open his 'letters'. There are certainly stalker/stalkee relationships where the stalkee can handle it better, and if so I may throw in my two cents for how, but I tend to hold the stalker more responsible, especially one claiming to have the secrets to world peace and not to be a human being. To me it seems odd that the one with the secrets to world peace won't respect a boundary.

I think we both chose to speak to the person more likely to reduce the pattern.

Well I happen to think Age is a human being. In fact I think Age has extraordinary intelligence in a way that surpasses almost most of regular human beings on this planet, and I also think this forum is very lucky to have this person posting the truth for free, giving up so much time to help others understand truth. I am very grateful and appreciative for being on the same forum as Age.

[Fairy]

Broken hearts are for assholes, Fairy. Are u an asshole?

I don’t know the song, never heard of it. And I don’t know what you mean.

[Iwannaplato]

Well I happen to think Age is a human being.

Me too.

In fact I think Age has extraordinary intelligence in a way that surpasses almost most of regular human beings on this planet, and I also think this forum is very lucky to have this person posting the truth for free, giving up so much time to help others understand truth. I am very grateful and appreciative for being on the same forum as Age.

OK.

[accelafine]

Ok so accelafine can ignore Age, I agree.

Great.

Also Age is under no obligation to stop posting to people,

I'm not really thinking obligations, just that he wants to contact that which does not want to be contacted by him. That seems to be a part of him now.

Age knows the truth

Age knows an attitude and he prefers it. Many are like that. Some universalize it.

You mentioned loving the sound of one's voice......

accelefine in the last month, less that 200 posts, most short
Age pushing 600, some short many long.

Communication only ends when the one who wants it to end, ignores the person they do not want to talk to.

Oh, he knows she gets some contact, even if she doesn't open his 'letters'. There are certainly stalker/stalkee relationships where the stalkee can handle it better, and if so I may throw in my two cents for how, but I tend to hold the stalker more responsible, especially one claiming to have the secrets to world peace and not to be a human being. To me it seems odd that the one with the secrets to world peace won't respect a boundary.

I think we both chose to speak to the person more likely to reduce the pattern.

Well I happen to think Age is a human being. In fact I think Age has extraordinary intelligence in a way that surpasses almost most of regular human beings on this planet, and I also think this forum is very lucky to have this person posting the truth for free, giving up so much time to help others understand truth. I am very grateful and appreciative for being on the same forum as Age.

'surpasses almost most of ...' So satire then. That's a relief. The word 'regular' was a clue too

[Fairy]

And what do you think about instant sexual and physical chemistry at first sight with someone

Not much. Glands and appetite ain't the basis for anything outside of a one night stand. Anything else, anything solid and noteworthy, requires compatibility (which, in couples, includes mutual attraction but not necessarily the all-encompassing, set-my-pants-on-fire intensity of infatuation).

Can we really choose who we fall in love with.

The animal chemistry we have no say about ('cept where it truly counts: I'm gonna pursue/I'm not gonna pursue) but loving someone is a choice, on-going. It's saying yes to a coupled life, even when that life doesn't seem , from time to time, very appealing.

Love hurts like fuck, in my experience.

Oh, sure. I've been burned. Always though, it was becuz I got deep with a woman I didn't really know. I gave way to glands and appetite and I paid the price.

Also, how is it that two people can be totally compatible in the bedroom, where their sex together is electrifyingly like you don’t want them to stop, constantly crying out the words “oh my god I love you so much” But then outside of the bedroom you find you have nothing in common, and you realise you are just putting on a fake facade, and everything seems forced and strained.

I've been there. The sex is great but everything else is a horrorshow. Again: there's was no real compatibility. It was just glands and appetite.

Thanks for your honest and frank comments. I hear you, and agree with you. I thought it was just me, but seems like others go through this too.

I have to be honest I don’t think I was ever cut out for coupledom life, I find it too claustrophobic. I’ve been like that all my life actually. So I already know every relationship is going to fail even before I get involved with people.

But like you say, can’t control the glands and appetites that’s for sure. The sex is great, and that’s all I seem to want. As for needing a long term relationship with someone, hell no. Not for me. Just sex for me, that’s all, thanks. Be seeing you.

Sorry, to all you beautiful creatures out there, you are gorgeous and very loved and lovely, but I can’t live with you.

[accelafine]

I'm sure all those 'beautiful creatures' will be gutted

[Fairy]

Stop fucking talking to me you fucking freak!

Whatever our differences, Age is in a special category all his own. Best to ignore him completely. I do understand: even if he's on ignore, you still see his compressed posts and you still get notifications. But he's happy to just keep annoying you. He won't even consider the irony, in this thread, of a man continuing to make advances when a woman has asked him to stop.

Regardless, if you don't respond in any way, he may still respond to a post here or there, but his responses will be fewer immediately. If nothing else, there is a mechanical aspect to his personality and posting. If you respond, he will respond. If you ignore him, the responses get less to nearly gone. He is bot-like and predictable.

Fairness is not always in reach, as we both know. But better sometimes is.

I don't read anything he writes or open his comments at all. The only way I know he's 'talking' to me is through the endless red dot notifications (sometimes a long list of them). He knows this so it's deliberate harassment and you are absolutely right--stalking behaviour. I haven't responded to his comments--only the red dots.

Not only are you ignoring the Age posts. Which is a marvellous achievement for you. You are doing well there, but also, you must remember to stop talking about Age to others, especially thinking and believing Age is a stalker. Just stop talking about Age, that’s the only way you are going to get Age out of your system for the rest of your life, surely this wise wisdom offered to you now for free, makes perfect sense, no?

Just imagine the Age person as never existing for you, imagine never having to talk about someone who doesn’t exist in your world. How easy is that? Think about it, I’ve known loads of people who I have simply deleted from my life as though they never ever existed, it’s so liberating and empowering. Try it, go on.

[henry quirk]

Thanks for your honest and frank comments.

You're welcome.

seems like others go through this too.

I think we all do to some extent.

But like you say, can’t control the glands and appetites that’s for sure.

No, you can't control the glands, but you can choose to be a slave to them or to deny them. It's the difference between being a rutting monkey or a person.

The sex is great, and that’s all I seem to want.

If true, your problem is solved. Stop lookin' for love and just screw. Sumthin' tells me that's not what you really want, but, hey, that's just a stranger's view.

[Fairy]

I'm sure all those 'beautiful creatures' will be gutted

They wouldn’t care less, I hope. In fact they’d be relieved of ever having to put up with the narcissistic, sociopathic, emotionally unavailable, broken, traumatised, mind games and all that stupid drama that is pretentious and energy draining vampire sucking I’ll scratch your back if you scratch mine crap.


You’re all deliciously beautiful people in your own right. You deserve freedom. I love you all.

[Fairy]

If true, your problem is solved. Stop lookin' for love and just screw. Sumthin' tells me that's not what you really want, but, hey, that's just a stranger's view.

Well you’d be right about that I guess, if I’m being totally honest. I want to feel ALIVE with someone, I want to feel so fucking Alive with someone…not feel DEAD, which is what I’ve felt like with nearly every earthly person I’ve ever known so far. No one has surprised me yet.

I want to take someone to the out of this earthly realm, but no one seems to know how to go there with me, well not yet anyway, I guess there’s still hope, but I’m not too optimistic based on past experiences with earthly people.

[henry quirk]

Well, here's some advice (from a stranger)...

Mebbe lower your standard a bit. Most folks aren't lookin' for Nirvana. They just wanna live their mundane earthly life, in peace, with someone they get along (and can get it on) with.

Slow down. Taking a year to get to know someone (minus sex) doesn't seem unreasonable to me. Usually you'll find out well before year's end if there's compatibility (and you won't have muddied the waters with the passions of sex).

Anyway: that's my 2 cents.

[Fairy]

Well, here's some advice (from a stranger)...

Mebbe lower your standard a bit. Most folks aren't lookin' for Nirvana. They just wanna live their mundane earthly life, in peace, with someone they get along (and can get it on) with.

Slow down. Taking a year to get to know someone (minus sex) doesn't seem unreasonable to me. Usually you'll find out well before year's end if there's compatibility (and you won't have muddied the waters with the passions of sex).

Anyway: that's my 2 cents.

I really liked your 2 cents.

I wholeheartedly agree with you on the going slow part.

But as for standards, nope, I’m not lowering them, if I can’t find anyone to fly to dizzy heights with then so be it, I’m good alone just as well. If I’m going to do this, I’m going for gold, not copper. I’m sick of mundane I want octane, or nothing at all.

[accelafine]

Whatever our differences, Age is in a special category all his own. Best to ignore him completely. I do understand: even if he's on ignore, you still see his compressed posts and you still get notifications. But he's happy to just keep annoying you. He won't even consider the irony, in this thread, of a man continuing to make advances when a woman has asked him to stop.

Regardless, if you don't respond in any way, he may still respond to a post here or there, but his responses will be fewer immediately. If nothing else, there is a mechanical aspect to his personality and posting. If you respond, he will respond. If you ignore him, the responses get less to nearly gone. He is bot-like and predictable.

Fairness is not always in reach, as we both know. But better sometimes is.

I don't read anything he writes or open his comments at all. The only way I know he's 'talking' to me is through the endless red dot notifications (sometimes a long list of them). He knows this so it's deliberate harassment and you are absolutely right--stalking behaviour. I haven't responded to his comments--only the red dots.

Not only are you ignoring the Age posts. Which is a marvellous achievement for you. You are doing well there, but also, you must remember to stop talking about Age to others, especially thinking and believing Age is a stalker. Just stop talking about Age, that’s the only way you are going to get Age out of your system for the rest of your life, surely this wise wisdom offered to you now for free, makes perfect sense, no?

Just imagine the Age person as never existing for you, imagine never having to talk about someone who doesn’t exist in your world. How easy is that? Think about it, I’ve known loads of people who I have simply deleted from my life as though they never ever existed, it’s so liberating and empowering. Try it, go on.

So wokishly passive-aggressive and patronising. He doesn't 'exist in my world', but he exists in my 'philosophy now' world. It's really none of your fucking business.