Skip wrote:People bring their own preconceptions and prejudices to every interaction. They naturally do a lot of interpreting, in both directions.
That is - they'll read the same text differently when it's written by a man, a woman, a girl or a boy, and very often they think they know which of those the writer is from the name - or pseudonym or handle.
Good point. So ForCruxSake must sound masculine, I'm thinking?
Skip wrote:Numbers are a very good idea on exams, but on a forum they would limit our opportunities for self-presentation.
Patrick McGoohan in 'The Prisoner' comes to mind. "I'm not a number, I'm a free man!" I wonder if he'd been a prime number he'd have felt different.
Skip wrote:
Handles often illustrate the convictions or temperament or attitude that we wish to let other poster see. So are avatars...
I know someone who considered joining the forum but wouldn't until they could come up with a good handle. I thought of mine in a jiffy, expecting it to be had, and it was free. Had it not been, I'd have just come up with something else... Anything else. The point was to get going on the forum. What's in a name? "that which we call a rose/ By any other name would smell as sweet"
But I accept that names are important. Naming ourselves is as important naming our children, for some.
Skip wrote:
However, I find that the picture in the little box does influence my own response to the poster.
I've noticed several people have left theirs empty, which suggests maybe they just wish to project who they are through their words? Maybe they just don't are about appearances?
Skip wrote:
I don't really imagine that there are any participants on philosophy forums under age 5...
Some just behave that way!
Skip wrote:... yet a number of posters have child avatars, from which I infer that they're either proud parents of trying to convey a youthful insouciance - neither of which options particularly endears them to me. Being mindful of that small bias, I can put it aside. Some avatars, I'm attracted or repelled by - sometimes even after many encounters with that poster. Most don't affect me positively or negatively; few amuse me.
I barely notice the emblems or avatars. You are clearly more visually orientated than I.
Skip wrote:When I see a picture of a man or woman, I can't help thinking of it as a self-portrait - not in the literal sense, but of their on-line persona, which is all that matters. When responding to those posters, I tend to address the picture.
So, the label - name or face - does play a part in how I read the post, how I interpret ambiguous statements, how much allowance I make for imprecision, how much effort I put into understanding what they mean, whether I expect them to be receptive to humour, or hostile, or tolerant on particular classes of issue, etc.
But once you engage with them, do the words take over? Over time does your attitude towards their label/face/ name change the more you see of their words? Does what they have to say reach a point where the labels no longer matter because you now have a more rounded view of who they are through what they have had to say? Not to demean men, but if a woman here were to post up a pretty pic of themselves, I think it would definitely have an effect. On the women too, I imagine, if they are competitive. I'm rather glad I've put nothing up, now. Not that it was an intentional choice. I've only just thought about the impact of images here.
Skip wrote:Conversely, when the label is missing or neutral, the content of the poster's messages may conjure a personality. Obviously, their interest and intensity on certain topics will predispose me to think of them as some particular kind of person. Style and language also indicate age and education level. I'm not particularly concerned with either sex or gender: posters who don't show a vested interest in gender issues can be either/or, both/and; whatever.
Interesting. So how old do you think I am? And what level of education do you think I have reached?
I think it made me sit up to have an exchange where someone called me 'a bloke'. I sort of liked it but I wondered when I had suddenly become 'a bloke'? Or why 'a bloke' at all and not 'missus'?
Skip wrote:But I've noticed many posters do make assumptions of another's sex according to the reason/emotion ratio - or what they characterize as reason and emotion. People often consider themselves logical when they're making no sense at all...
Tell me about it! I have to say it doesn't annoy me as much as some of the others here. It's just someone's particular language. Sometimes it's worth sitting through the show to see what comes out the other end. (Though that's not always the case.)
Skip wrote:
...so they'll consider reasonable whatever more or less agrees with their own view and irrational whatever doesn't.
What I find strange is that few people actually ask questions here. It's as if they are here to 'know'. To show off, or peacock, their knowledge, not really to exchange ideas, or build on knowledge. What we all know, respectively, is incomplete, to varying degrees. I definitely come here to supplement what I know. Learn from others. Pitch out ideas, I want to explore, with likeminded people. But there's a lot of bashing that goes on here. It's like an arena sometimes and that's when it feels most masculine to me. It's not always the men doing it.
Skip wrote:
People often consider themselves passionate when they merely repeating popular slogans, so will accept those same slogans as profound commitment to an ideal. Whoever sounds like us, we tend to imagine as being like us - including gender. Our self-judgment being as faulty as it is, our judgment of unknown, unseen others is bound to be, as well.
Familiarity gives us a comfort zone. There's safety in establishing how we are similar to others.
I imagine if aliens from other planets were to land on earth, that that is how we would try to connect with them, by establishing parity... before we hit them over the head, or bomb the crap out of them, to take what they own!