uwot wrote:SpheresOfBalance wrote:I hear you but in truth that way of thinking stymies growth, allowing idiots that destroy things to do so.
In your experience, Spheres, how many times do you have to call someone an idiot before they share your vision of world peace?
In this sentence whom did I call an idiot? NOONE here, necessarily!! I said, "...that type of thinking, allows idiots..." I surely called you no idiot. So you should not take offense. I may have insinuated that, "your thinking allows" for such possibilities, though that is not you! Yes, it was bold, but I do not hold you accountable, remember I'm 56, and been around the world more than a few times, I've heard that view more than once, so you did not coin it, you just repeated it. It is common for each of 'us' to hear something and repeat it, that seems on the surface to be a good idea, not having the time to truly contemplate every single nuance, as to all it's ramifications and implications. It was not aimed at you, that you are any more incapable than I am. Just really a very strong, FYI.
Yes it's true that, our thinking, we each hold dear, an extension of self, as this is in fact what sets me off sometimes. But make no mistake, I am not angry at you, as you seem to be more of a voice of true reason, that's not as self interested here, as you make your cases. I was just saying that, we cannot allow those that would take without giving, to do so.
You said:
One small step would be for people to think:
I am in the happy position of not having to give a fuck what you think of me. So I don't.
You should try it, Spheres; you'll be amazed how much peace you can create instantly.
And if you truly believed it, yourself, then you would not take offense. My point is that, if we allow even one to have these self serving illusions, it spreads like wild fire, as it allows for the possibility of those that would eventually become a "Charles Manson." Some people require harsh words, that would think themselves wolves and the rest sheeple, before they get that far.
Yes I guess in some respects you are correct, that coddling is a much better way, bringing someone instead to your bosom, and patting them on the back, it's just that I'm fighting a distant foe that has left me scarred, crippled, such that it's hard for me, sometimes, to stand tall and firm, amidst a raging storm, being like the rock of Gibraltar. My model, was crippled thus handing some of it off to me. I'm slow to show love, as self evident, because when I was learning how to do that, the model did not exude it, quite the opposite, fear and selfishness of course, that which ruled the lessons. I have no real problems with selfishness. I've always believed that if I had not had such hardness during those formative years, that I probably would have been a very successful scientist, not in terms of money, rather peace of mind and resolve, that my center would be more calmed, that I could stand stronger, exuding love that is indeed obvious, not cloaked for fear of vulnerability. Yet as you look out at the others here, even yourself, you'd be remiss to not acknowledge it's widespread existence.
I'm sure you are incapable of fully understanding my point as everyone's life long experience is different. You'll just have to trust that my words, no matter how harsh sometimes, are truly for the recipient that I utter them. I am most often, cruel to be kind. Of course I've been in rework all my life, trying to undo that which has left me, seemingly uncaring on the surface. Some days are better for me than others, I blame it on the moon!
Actually I'm starting a new exercise program to ward off old age, and hoping that it shall allow for a better version of the SoB!