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Re: The main purpose of friendship is ...
Posted: Wed Feb 10, 2016 6:35 am
by Conde Lucanor
duszek wrote:I agree, Conde.
There are special kinds of friendship which include special deals.
Several people have warned me against starting a relationship with a difficult person.
She is a loner who does not have to work for herself (probably inherited enough money), who does not react to people in a "normal" way (spontaneous, empathetic, creating harmony) but in a way that does not make you feel like going on.
So talking to her is like trying to make small talk to a difficult stranger at a party you did not want to join in the first place.
But:
she always seemed to like me and finally she suggested some coffee together and I finally agreed to exchange phone numbers with her and this implies some interaction coming soon because I don´t tease people and make vain promises.
What can I reasonably expect from this project ?
Not a wonderful time, this would be expecting too much and getting frustrated.
Perhaps an exercise in small talk, some interesting insights, feeling more resilient, feeling like acquiring the soft skill of someone working with people with special needs (Sonderpädagogik) ...
From your description I see the only element of interest for you in this relationship is that "she always seemed to like me" and that she actually made the first move. Doesn't look promising...but, people may surprise us when we get to know them better and also I will always recommend not to give a damn about what other people think of someone, much less the stereotypes of "normality". People are to be judged under our own criteria when we know them first hand.
Re: The main purpose of friendship is ...
Posted: Wed Feb 10, 2016 1:39 pm
by duszek
Why should it be me who knows better who do I best match with ?
It could be the other party.
So I give a person a chance who actually makes advances to me and if there are no good reasons to run away from her.
Strategically it is energy-saving and it is easier for you to opt out if you decide to.
In Greek terms: the beloved has more power than the lover ...
Re: The main purpose of friendship is ...
Posted: Wed Feb 10, 2016 3:16 pm
by marjoram_blues
duszek wrote:... that you can let your hair down and be honest about what bothers you.
Otherwise you would have to pay a psychotherapist to listen to you.
So friendship is primarily a mutual readiness to provide psychotherapeutic support.
Yes, personal friendship is about mutual caring and sharing of life's questions and activities. Being able to be yourself in the sense of trust built up over time. If trust is broken, then it can be difficult to rebuild. Real friendship is worth the effort.
Re: The main purpose of friendship is ...
Posted: Wed Feb 10, 2016 3:51 pm
by artisticsolution
Friendship is about taking great joy in making someone elses life happier and more content and less lonely....because if your friend is unhappy, discontent, lonely, then so too are you.
Re: The main purpose of friendship is ...
Posted: Wed Feb 10, 2016 4:59 pm
by marjoram_blues
artisticsolution wrote:Friendship is about taking great joy in making someone elses life happier and more content and less lonely....because if your friend is unhappy, discontent, lonely, then so too are you.
Cue Barry Manilow...can't smile without you
Re: The main purpose of friendship is ...
Posted: Wed Feb 10, 2016 5:09 pm
by artisticsolution
marjoram_blues wrote:artisticsolution wrote:Friendship is about taking great joy in making someone elses life happier and more content and less lonely....because if your friend is unhappy, discontent, lonely, then so too are you.
Cue Barry Manilow...can't smile without you
Hi M!
Barry Manilow sound is like fingernails on a chalkboard to me...I hope that's not what my post sounded like! LMAO
Okay...okay...I admit...I did/do like Donny Osmond.
And they called it puppy loooooove.....LOL
Re: The main purpose of friendship is ...
Posted: Thu Feb 11, 2016 5:31 am
by Conde Lucanor
duszek wrote:Why should it be me who knows better who do I best match with ?
It could be the other party.
Interesting point of view. I don't agree with it, but valid anyways...