Your OWN personal morality

[henry quirk]

"mediator"

Only applicable if everyone involved wants accommodation.

Sometimes (often) accommodation is the means by which no one wins and everyone loses.

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"keep a look out for trouble"

Another good policy!

[williamhunghei]

to keep it simple, just one over-arching rule: do no harm, or at least don't increase the harm done to another.