iambiguous wrote: ↑Wed Dec 13, 2023 11:29 pm
Also, you note that no really serious philosopher would read the tribe I post, and yet over and over and over and over again, you and phyllo and iwannaplato
do read it.
This forum combines two things: collaborative (at least potentially) mulling over philosophical issues AND interacting with different styles of, well, interacting.
As far as the latter:
Forums like this one are not moderated like, say, Philosophy Forum as one example. This means that a wide range of styles - using the term generously and loosely and including my own - tones, and foci arise. And some really odd characters also. They wouldn't last at Philosophy Forum, they'd get moderated out. This allows me to focus on both those things.
This can be seen negatively and there are times I want to engage in other forums.
But here, I get to interact with people, yes about ideas but also in relation to character and interpersonal dynamics. I encounter people who communicate in ways that are similar to how people communicate out in the world. How they deal with criticism, how they shift the onus away from themselves, how much respect they have for the purported goals, how they treat me, how much they listen (read) and so on. Do they actually respond to other people? Do they see only their own needs, while presenting otherwise? Does what they say make sense?
They may not realize how they treat others and the ideas of others or the conversation, but there it is, down to earth, real dynamics and problems. The stuff the epistemologists as Durant labels them, would look down on. But not me. I think there's real grist for the mill there.
You, for example, present regularly a set of interpersonal patterns that I have encountered IRL, though perhaps not with such consistency. The internet is slowed down communication. And there is also a record. A colleague at work, a boss, someone in line at the grocery store, a quasi-friend, a family member...generally, unless it is email exchanges, the relationship is fast, scattered and unrecorded.
Here one can check the interaction in detail as if one had a photographic memory.
This is useful. Because I will encounter people who engage in similar patterns as you, and Age and IC and Veritas, as some examples, do.
Here, I can see the whole process in slo-mo. I can try to engage with the problems and see what happens - in the dynamic, in the other person, in myself.
I've noticed that I notice interpersonal dynamics and deal with them better now. There are other processes in my life that contribute to this improvement, but I think a modest portion of that, a minority portion has to do with zooming in on these dynamics as one can do here.
And all in the context of topics I want to think about, sometimes.
For example VA who interacts rather terribly does manage to bring in interesting angles in his defense of objective morality. It's disorganized, chaotic posting, but nevertheless I think the issues are important and where the chaos goes can be quite interesting. AND THEN on topic of this, the way he interacts with others includes a bunch of patterns that are problematic and, as I say above, match patterns I will meet and have met IRL.
So, it's win win. Now this can be frustrating and irritating, but then of course. It would have to be. It entails learning about my own habits and how people's evasions, disrespect, denials, smokescreens, lack of any real interest in others and so on can get at me. But here, it's not a matter of getting through the day with a toxic boss. Here I can go all pedagogical with myself and the stakes are low.
And all of this is very down to earth. Real humans dealing with each other as they do. Or can't manage to do. It's not just about life, it is a slowed down part of life. People are issues to each other. And there are forums where this aspect is frowned on so much that one actually complain to the moderators that people are making one the issue.
But of course, often when one is made the issue, it is due to how one has treated others.
If I solely want to test out a thesis and its justification, well there are likely better places to do that. Where one can focus on the philosophical issue without as many distractions around interpersonal dynamics.
And of course there's the foe function. If you are being made an issue of and don't want that, there's this tool instead of moderation.
So, as we were.