Wizard22 wrote: ↑Sun Oct 09, 2022 9:46 am
Age wrote: ↑Sat Oct 08, 2022 11:00 pmFirstly, and just so that we are ALL AWARE here, "wizard22's" PRESUMPTION of what my views are around 'this' is TOTALLY Wrong.
Secondly, 'training', teaching, guidance, and showing IS NEEDED, 'discipline' IS NOT.
And, let us NOT FORGET that UNTIL CLARITY IS SOUGHT OUT and OBTAINED, FIRST, ALL ASSUMPTIONS made by ANY of 'you' could be False, Wrong, and/or Incorrect.
You obviously have a fixation on 'Discipline'.
Since it was 'you' who BROUGHT UP the 'discipline' word in this thread, AND it is 'you' who is continuing to talk about 'discipline' here now, then it could be also SAID and ARGUED that it is 'you', "wizard22", who has a fixation on 'discipline'.
Wizard22 wrote: ↑Sun Oct 09, 2022 9:46 am
Were you abused or humiliated through your disciplining as a child?
You could NOT even name a human being who was NOT abused and NOT humiliated through 'discipline' as a child, and be Correct.
Wizard22 wrote: ↑Sun Oct 09, 2022 9:46 am
Most children grow up and leave that past behind.
LOL If only 'you' knew "wizard22". If only 'you' KNEW.
Wizard22 wrote: ↑Sun Oct 09, 2022 9:46 am
When you're a child, you may not understand why you are being punished.
This is because there is NO 'justification' for PUNISHING another human being, especially a young and Truly powerless human being.
Wizard22 wrote: ↑Sun Oct 09, 2022 9:46 am
That's up to the quality of the parent.
'you' say this like parents have some sort of 'right' to PUNISH children.
Which is even MORE Wrong and ABSURD seeing it in written words than it was BEFORE when it was just in 'thought' alone.
Wizard22 wrote: ↑Sun Oct 09, 2022 9:46 am
Not all will have high quality parenting as children; by definition few will.
VERY, VERY True.
Some parents/adults actually think and BELIEVE that PUNISHING defenseless and vulnerable children is a NECESSARY part of Life, and some thing that is actually NEEDED. The ones who think or BELIEVE this have NOT YET grown up from their OWN childhood. Some even ACTUALLY BELIEVE that ALL children NEED discipline, and thus PUNISHMENT, and some ALSO BELIEVE that some children NEED more discipline/punishment than others do. And, they 'TRY' their HARDEST to "justify", but, OBVIOUSLY, NO one could 'justify' the PUNISHING of children. The 'world' would be a MUCH BETTER place to live in if the three words of 'discipline', 'punishment', and 'children' were NEVER used together in a sentence. Unless, of course, the words NEVER or NOT were included in some particular way or another.
Some parents/adults also even BELIEVE that infants and children are MENACES, and that they WILL bully and steal from each-other if they are NOT disciplined and PUNISHED.
Which, in fact, can be SEEN AS the WORST KIND OF BULLY, and of STEALING a child's INNOCENCE, ITSELF.
For an actual GROWN ADULT to think or BELIEVE that infants and children are MENACES, and that these VERY YOUNG and INNOCENT children NEED to be PUNISHED, could NOT get to be MORE of a BULLY ATTITUDE, itself.
And what is REALLY DISTURBING is that there were PLENTY of adult human beings, back in those REALLY OLD DAYS when this was being written, who REALLY DID BELIEVE that children NEEDED to be PUNISHED. I have even heard it directly from a psychologist who questioned me about this issue with; "How else are children going to learn if they are not made to feel BAD for what they do?"
Adult human beings, back in those days, had be SO OBVIOUSLY and SO SEVERELY ABUSED in their childhoods that they had 'grown up' BELIEVING that they HAD TO PUNISH children, as AGAIN proved True in this thread and forum.