LuckyR wrote: ↑Thu Jun 26, 2025 6:31 am
Martin Peter Clarke wrote: ↑Wed Jun 25, 2025 10:53 pm
LuckyR wrote: ↑Tue Apr 22, 2025 6:07 pm
You can't prove a subjective opinion to be wrong. I like chocolate ice cream, prove me wrong.
Luck
YR, why am I asking why you're giving this person the time of day? I'm intrigued I suppose. What's the pay off? What am I missing?
I think it's the smugness.
But LuckyR! The plain reading of scripture is that you are self-deprecating! That the pay off for you is smuggery! Although you have a lot to be smug about, it's true. An enviable amount. I admire your stamina too.
I find my fellow creatures like godelian and a good many more here, including those embraced in polarized hostility, fascinating. I mean, I'm as neurodivergent as a box of frogs, but I value and aspire to disinterested reasoning in an 'influenced by considerations of personal advantage' kind of way. My passions are as disordered as the next man's, to paraphrase a wise Roman Catholic observation, but, luckily, that pursuit of reason, no matter how brutish the facts it uncovers, is one of them.
What's the pay off for them? Relentless venting of spleen? They can not be reached by good will, kindness, due to our inadequacy. I suspect we just don't, won't, can't be R. D. Laing to them and sit down in the shit with them, elegantly matching them. It's how the best interrogators work. Empathy. None of us have tried that, and it's probably too late now, and I can't see it working with any of them. Especially now in plain sight, after all the history. I always try and ask what happened to them, what's their story, but not competently, not sufficiently enough to be cathartic.
I'd like to be Rogerian for them, but can't find a way in, along with the rest of us.
Can we even try and work out how to do that here? I find it far easier in person. Ed: By that I mean one can manage most people in a pleasant enough manner, including libertarians, contrarians and conspiracy theorists, racists, fascists, Jungians, just by saying anodyne things like 'I understand, yes' or just nodding. Shook my head once at a damnationist in church and he screamed 'HERESY!!!', most disturbing. One is still learning from ones mistakes, a fail yesterday with a demanding young beggar with a personality disorder, one a few months ago with a Covid-denier I made the mistake of being convivial with. Never give any one the opportunity to double down. The trouble is just by walking close by JWs as if they didn't exist rewards them. You never see one, as group closure couldn't occur. I'm probably doing that here with my Foes.