Re: Self-Identity
Posted: Wed Jun 28, 2023 1:14 pm
If one is continually TOLD that 'you are bad', 'you are NOT good', et cetera, and being TOLD 'these things' FROM someone who SAYS 'them' while BELIEVING 'them', then 'that one' grows up BELIEVING that 'it' IS 'those things' AS WELL. And, OBVIOUSLY, if 'one' IS 'bad', or 'NOT good', then they would NOT do what is 'good' NOR 'likeable' by "others".Flannel Jesus wrote: ↑Wed Jun 28, 2023 11:05 amWhat I find interesting is the question of how people gain a sense of self that is completely AGAINST all these forces, or at least indifferent to them. People who end up with a sense of self that isn't based on what other people find likeable or virtuous or worth rewarding.Iwannaplato wrote: ↑Wed Jun 28, 2023 10:51 amThey are constantly getting attention(hopefully)/love(hopefully) from parents/family. They are hearing about what humans are, what boys are, what ______________are. They are hearing tales about people. And nowadays media of all kinds constantly telling them what a person is, what a good person is. So there are generalized messages aimed at people in general which they get. Then are are specific messages and reactions that they are getting from people who know them. Then they are trying things, doing things, and getting feedback from the world. This went well, this didn't. They may start forming ideas about their abilities through this interaction with things and people. Whatever innate tendencies they have will affect how they take things and what they can do from the start and how hard they try and to some extent character, temperment, interests and tendencies - though all the role models and reactions from others are also affecting these things. Comparing oneself to others. Identifying with these people over here and not those over there. Striving after a while to meet goals based on all of the above and succeeding or not creates a continuous flow of information to build a sense of self from.How do people, as young children, begin to develop their "Sense of Self"? How did/do you? What is "you" or "I"?