Dontaskme wrote: ↑Tue Dec 01, 2020 10:14 am
Dimebag wrote: ↑Tue Dec 01, 2020 8:45 am
what now?
How can you change the illusion in a better way?
You cannot change the illusion in a better way...there is only and ever your way or the highway...imho
I can see you have had your fair share of downs.
No doubt I couldn’t imagine what it’s been like to live in your shoes, nor would i want to.
I agree, for some in this life, there is mostly senseless suffering. Hopefully not for all. It’s the darkest darks that make the lightest lights so bright, the lowest lows make the highest highs so high.
It’s all there in potential, but we can only go with the flow and see where it takes us. Given a different life, maybe everything comes up snake eyes. Everything in life comes down to sheer chance, random serendipity, and sometimes it seems murphy’s Law is the only thing that you can rely on.
Maybe the possibility of positives doesn’t offset the sheer harshness of the negatives, they might just be a consolation prize.
Ultimately, everything eventually crumbles. Some day, everyone you and I know, will die (hopefully not before we do), family members pass away, and our own lives eventually.
I don’t know what happens when you die. But I instinctively feel that there is just non existence for this particular consciousness. No nothingness, less than nothing, just non existence. Negation. The sense of being this distinct entity having these experiences, is ultimately illusion.
There is awareness, but no one it belongs to. And when there is death, there is no awareness. No one dies, this is the reality behind the illusion.
But, we can’t help but care about the illusion. I have a family, which I care for and have a strong attachment to.
If I was to lose them, it would devastate me. I have lost extended family, and I know some day, my parents will die in my lifetime, if I’m not taken before them.
I don’t deny that this illusion is worth caring about, and it seems we don’t really get to choose whether to care or not.
Every choice, no matter what, has consequences, even the choices we don’t make. We cannot escape causality or karma, as much as we would like to think it might be possible. As long as we are attached to these human bodies, pain is always a potential.
But, and I’m paraphrasing, we may not be able to avoid the first painful arrow, but, there is hope to avoid the second arrow of suffering your pain. Being with it as much as possible is the only way.
Though in the moment, it can be very difficult, depending on the pain, to not suffer that second arrow.