Dalek Prime wrote:Greta, do you recall that friend of mine you once Googled, whilst researching antinatalism? He writes much on feminist topics, and has some good points to make that transgender are effectively encroaching on feminine space, and making a mockery of, and holding back, real feminist goals. I believe he is more enthused by ridding society of gender labels, period, rather than creating more. Which does make sense, if you read him through. But I don't want to do him a disservice by pretending I understand his goals, or exactly how he thinks.
It's enough to say that he's a fellow that has made me think. And that doesn't happen often lol.

Sorry Dalek, my memory is not good.
What are transgenders supposed to do? Kill themselves? Force themselves to be "normal"? Homophobia and transphobia are women's issues. Every gay or trans-oriented male who enters into marriage so as to avoid loss of safety and status is a time bomb waiting to explode in their wives' and children's faces. Meanwhile, the bullies who create this oppression get off scot free while the woman and kids pick up their lives. These males should not be pressured to be "normal", to marry.
My understanding is that transsexualism exists because cognitive treatment, drugs, electroshock, hypnosis etc didn't work. Why should a person not change gender if it will make them more functional? Humans are diverse and, reproductive organs aside, there is ultimately more difference within genders than between them. So some overlap makes perfect sense to me, and sex role changes often occur in other species too.
Also, what of females who live as men? What of the sidelining and ignoring of that group by comparison with those going the other way? It would seem an example of patriarchal focus in itself - the breaking of the "brotherhood code" being seemingly more significant than breaking from the sisterhood. The thinking appears to be that F-M sex changes are
really "just women" and thus can be ignored completely with no consequence [sic].
Meanwhile, I just Googled and found that in Poland there are many more females living as men than males living as women
http://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/BF01542342. Must be a real worry for the Poles, eh?
Whatever, I'm a fan of minding my own business when it comes to others' personal lives. Adults ultimately have to deal with the consequences of their decisions. If a person can change sex and fit into society, no harm, no foul. You'd have to figure that if someone can seamlessly fit into the world as the opposite sex for years then they couldn't have been too deluded.
By the same token, consider the lives of big boofy baritone blokes in frocks and bearded, wide-hipped uber-wimps with a predilection for check shirts. Surely their mistakes are punishment enough for any assumed "wrongs" they have committed? Are we to nanny these people, say we know better and undermine them "for their own good"?
Not that I'm defending the notion of gender performance, which (due to age, hindsight and calmer hormones) now strikes me as rather childish and silly. However, most people buy into it without thinking, including (especially?) transgenders, but I'm not about to attribute some minuscule minority with the power to reinforce patriarchal oppression of women.
Better to donate to girls' education in developing countries IMO than blame other victims. Better to ignore annoying gender expectations and cliches. The more we personally break the shackles, the easier it is for those who follow to just be who they are rather than being coerced into uncomfortable gender performance roles.