Dontaskme wrote: ↑Thu Oct 31, 2019 10:59 am
Immanuel Can wrote: ↑Tue Oct 29, 2019 3:01 pm
I notice that a lot of gender theory talks two different ways.
First of all, what in the world does ''Gender Essentialism'' even mean for christ sake? surely people will generally talk about whatever which way they choose to talk about?
Unless you are suggesting men just want to talk about motor cars and women just want to talk about dolls houses?
It all boils down to stereo typical conditioning on how people are moulded from birth.
Example 1 ....girls are given pink birthday cards when they born.
Example 2 ....boys are given blue birthday cards when they are born.
Example 3 ....girls are encouraged to play with dolls and dolls houses at play school.
Example 4 ....boys are encouraged to play with toy cars and garages at play school.
This is basically nonsense, for one clichés like "pink / blue" toys aren't even true, just a cultural cliché marketed to and relevant at a very specific age, if even then; the reality is it's ultimately up to the parents to decide what toys, or what "colors" to play with.
Much like most of the popular clichés regarding pink and blue, such as them having been "reversed" at one point, is nonsense as well.
Notions like colors and fashions are and were always context dependent, not specifically "male" or "female". (For example, in past times, "vibrant" colors like red or pink were a sign of social status for male nobility, presumably in a time period where "fancy" colors were a luxury which only the wealthy could afford.
Likewise, pink or red was at times a "woman's color", but it was associated with prostitution, and more "modest" women were expected to wear blue'. Essentially, without context, the statements are nonsense.
Much as are statements such as that "men used to wear dresses" are nonsense as well; for one, garments such as male tunics were not "commoner" wear, and were limited to nobility, they were also tailored different than women's dresses were, much as women's pants or jeans today are tailored much differently than "men's" pants.
Likewise, a "transvestite" who wears a dress isn't doing so because he believes it's a "man's clothing", he is wearing it purposely because he wants to "look like a woman", or a transgendered person presumably because he "identifies" as woman and wants to wear clothing designed specifically for women and their physique (e.x. women's dresses or skirts are tailored to highlight their "womanly" parts, such as hips, while man's tunics or robes are not).
Much as other myths such as women "not being allowed" to wear pants are silly and nonsensical as well; in history women have actually been wearing pants since ancient times; context just varied, much as how women's pants among poorer women originally became popular not because of a "fashion statement" (which dresses were, particularily in times when they were more of a luxury for the wealthy), but primarily for pragmatic or functional reasons, must as how most statements in regards to women "having jobs" or "working", are nonsensical as well, and primarily only concerned with legislation related to jobs and arbitrary discrimination marketed to the 6th grade reading level or 100 IQ, often as more of a pragmatic necessity than long-term self-actualization, rather than higher level career or intellectual achievement.
(For example, there have been notable women academics and women in prominent social positions in every culture historically, with traditionally, family and birth planning a larger factor into it, such as ancient queens and royalty like Cleopatra, as well as female academics and intellectuals like Marie Curie, even during a time when women in general were believed to have or possess fewer legal rights in those areas, much as how female actors from the earliest days of Hollywood in the early 1900s, or even the women actresses who played wealthy housewives in 1950s sitcoms, were obviously much more wealthy, and more more achieved in personal careers or self-actualization than many "average" women of that day and age are or were; with the women of the most social status even during "past times" having more actual rights and self-actualizations relative to their time periods than "average" or "poorer" women today do.
It's all to do with those early years of a childs life and what is stereo typically imposed upon them in the form of what is expected of them by their carers.
That statement
None of this human activity is essential or a requirement to BE who you always are, except to say that once expectation has been well grooved into the believing mind, the resulting display of action is a reaction of what that mind has been conditioned to believe, where the old ingrained habits usually die hard. But that's all changing now.
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As with anything else, this would very quite a bit, and simply isn't the "case" with every family or child, no two parents parent or raise their child in exactly identical ways.
Much as how many aspects of how one identifies do not come from parents, such as during adolescence where it's well-documented that peer influences and other cultural factors, as well as simply individual choices and self-actualization play a role (e.x when children mature physically and psychologically, they tend to grow out of older traits, things, beliefs, and so on which were previously a part of their less mature "identity").
Genetics or inborn traits obviously play a role; for example, while Tiger Woods had parents who played golf, he was already out-performing his father as a golfer by age 6, showing that being a genetic prodigy had more to do with his skill at a golf than anything specifically learned rationally from his parents, or gleaned from his environment; much as how if another child without that high level of skill were simply "handed a golf club" by parents, they would not be able to instantly play like tiger woods, wheras even in if he wasn't "handed a golf club", but managed to acquire one on his own, or play another sport entirely which required the same types of physical or mental abilities, he would still excel on them.
Women act like men and men act like women. Men talk like women and women talk like men.
This is something of a false dichotomy, for one how do "men" act" or "women act", or "men talk", or "women talk", to begin with, other than clichés which likely weren't even entirely true no matter what archaic or romanticized cliché or stereotype you're referencing, ironically reinforcing the clichés yourself.
And when, and under what conditions to "women tend to do this", or "men tend to do this"? Since whatever it is that they're doing, it's not being done "in a vacuum" isolated from all of the other external parts or conditions in which they "do this"?
Men wear make-up too.
Men have been wearing makeup since ancient Egypt, China, and Japan. As with other things, such as male tunics, my understanding is it was primarily a nobleman's thing to distinguish the wellborn from the commoners.
And women don't shave their lady gardens or their legs and arm pits.
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This again varied by culture, time period, context, etc - for example, in northern Europe during the Renassaince era, or during the mid 1800s, it was more popular and fashionable to wear a "full bush" than it is today.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog ... en-and-why
Both men and women do all the things men and women have been doing since the dawn of time. Change happens but nothing changes.
I'm confused, are you arguing that this has "always been this way", or that it's a "change" from things as mythically and more often than not, erroneously imagined or nostalgized to begin with?