artisticsolution wrote:Please do not be afraid, I am not trying to 'catch' you in any disbelief of God. I just wanted to know, if you are willing to be honest with me.
No, no fear. I'm happy to chat. But I often find that as a Christian, I have to be careful to move in small steps. The reason is that so many of my interlocutors have strong ideas about Christians -- some, perhaps from experience, but as I find, a lot more from the mass media or from the shallow characterizations of what's called the "New Atheist" set, Dawkins et al. When I probe, I find most people who hold the strongest opinions know the least about Christians in general, and usually nothing about me in particular. So even before we can discuss, I have to clarify for them who I am and what I stand for...or what Christians actually believe, on the whole.
Now, that's clearly not your situation: you have your sister specifically in view. But, of course, I do not know her, and I'm not her and can't represent her views unless they just happen to fit with the Christian mainstream. About that, I can only guess.
As some Christians I talk to, refuse to be honest with me (I don't think because they are dishonest people per se, but that Man made Christianity/religion has become their 'false' idol instead of God...more to come about this subject later).
For what it's worth, I agree entirely. Man-made religion, of any flavour, is indeed an issue. And honesty is a virtue.
I love my sister, but I don't agree with everything she says just because she is my sister. I can love her, but not think like her.
I get that.
I said, " Really? Could you look God directly in the eye and say, "God, why did you make the f'n N.....?"
Wow. Did she say that? Hmmm. Well, I guess you could ask her if she thought Jesus Christ said the same sorts of things, couldn't you? And I well understand why she was silent.
Good for you: I'm actually enthusiastic about that.

You made her think. And that's hugely important, especially for someone who claims the name of Christ. Far too many people take that name without thinking. You might have made her a better person -- and Christian -- by your comment.
Christians say a lot of things they don't give much thought to. Yes, so does everyone else...the difference is, Christians should know better.
Yes, I agree...I do. Christians should have a higher standard.
But did you ever ask yourself why? Why should Christians be held to a moral standard above anyone else,
if they're just like everyone else?
I think we all know, though -- I mean any thinking Christian or any thinking person in general -- that claiming that Name is to call on yourself a very high responsibility to follow through. It is a task so high that Christians generally fail at it -- as do I: but when we come to our senses, we humble ourselves, ask forgiveness, and go on because we believe in that standard too. If you sister does that, as we can hope she will, you've been a great help to her in taking the next step God requires of her in her thinking.
And that you can fool me, but if there is a God, you can't fool him. So best to be honest with him and me...correct?
Absolutely.
If I am going to be honest with him, I can't tell you I believe he exists with all certainty. That would be a lie. Now do you see where I am coming from? If God commands me not to lie, then I would be not be following his word if I told you that I believe in him 100%?
Yes.
But there's something we're forgetting here, and maybe it's time it came back up. It's the concept of faith.
Now, I recognize that its mere mention is going to set off howls of resentment from some quarters, and that's just fine. For many people, the New Atheist set have defined the concept into imbecility, and then teed off on it. Then they declare victory and depart the field, all the time puzzling why some people remain unconvinced, and then reassure themselves that this is just further proof that they are "the Brights," as they call themselves, and the rest of the world is composed primarily of superstitious dullards. So the word's been badly abused, and it will be hard to reclaim it's Biblical meaning for public use; but maybe not impossible, and maybe it's particularly necessary at this point in our conversation.
More on that to come; but first I'll have to know what you think the word "faith" means. Maybe you can share your personal understanding with me about that in your next message.
Knowing that you can't know anything 100%....you have said as much even if you still haven't answered my question directly for whatever reason...(fear of getting caught or fear I will judge, or whatever ...etc? )...will tell you that you cannot know what another knows. So how can you, without a shadow of a doubt, know what relationship God has with another?
Well, let's deal with the "judging" issue first. I think my response might catch a piece of this question for you, now that I know your circumstances a bit better.
There are different kinds of "judging." One is when a justice officer puts a sentence on a criminal. But another is when a "judge" at the flower show awards a prize to a particularly fetching bouquet. Now in that second instance, the "judge" does not pass sentence on the criminality of the flower-arranger, nor does his "judging" carry a penalty with it. Nor is he "judging" whether or not the flowers really ARE flowers. Instead, he's being discerning as to quality: he's assessing if this bouquet is a better or worse example of flower arrangement than the other candidates.
Christians have no call to judge each other as to their eternal state. That's God's call. But they do have a direct commandment from Christ to be discerning as to whether or not other putative "Christians" are acting as better or worse examples of what Christ would have them to be. They are called to decide if person X or Y is being Christlike or unchristian. And that's particularly important in any society in which the word "Christian" tends to be invoked loosely, as it is in ours. For many bad patterns of Christian will coexist with the good ones; and it will take a wise and discerning eye to know which ones to emulate, and which ones to avoid emulating.
The upshot of that is this: that I pass no judgment on your sister as to her sincerity or her ultimate status as a Christian or not; but I do not hesitate to say that Christ would not have called people by the "n" word, and would not endorse shooting Mexicans at the border. I can go one step further, and safely say that no "Christian" who makes such statements is acting in the spirit of Christ. And that's as far as it goes -- or needs to go.
In fact, Christians cannot avoid making those kinds of "judgments": for each of us is responsible to study the character of Christ and emulate it. So we are to think about Him a lot, and by relating to Him, to discover which of the actions available to us -- or modelled by others -- are truly Christian. Apart from this sort of "judging," living as a Christian would be impossible for anyone. So no wonder Christ encouraged us to judge the quality of a person's profession of faith by their actions.
Like I said, people talk shit. You can't take them at their word because they know not what they say sometimes. If man made Christianity/religion is telling you one thing when God is telling you another...then....
By rights, God wins. Every time. As Peter said, "We
must obey God rather than man." So that's that.
Now, back to the "what we know" issue, since I don't want to seem to have dodged that. Philosophers know that all human knowledge, apart from the purely abstract, like maths and symbolic logic, is inductive. "Inductive" means, among other things, "probabilistic." That is to say, people don't "know" things 100%. Even Descartes famous
cogito argument has come under critique on this point: that absolute certainty, the kind that Descartes hoped to find, is simply impossible...for any question anywhere, anytime (except, as I say, for self-referential, internally-complete symbol systems).
Therefore, when you ask me, "Do you have any doubts about the existence of God?" I say, "Sure: but less than I have about practically any other matter on earth, and nothing so severe that it gives me a moment's agonizing."
Now, there was a time when that was not true for me. When I was younger, I went through a great deal of existential searching and a few dark nights of the soul. But ironically, all the searching was what made the finding possible; and all the dark nights drove me all the harder toward daylight. My early doubts made urgent my searching, and then enabled me to think through things to the level I now have.
I'm still learning; but doubts as to the existence or goodness of God? I don't really have those anymore...I've found Him real and faithful in so many situations, it's just impossible to sustain skepticism..doubt has become less useful than it used to be, as He's put my doubts to rest one by one.
The poet Robert Browning talks sagely about this. He points out that people actually choose between two styles of living: a life out faith, shot through occasionally with doubt; or a life of doubt, punctuated by moments of reluctant faith. The person of faith faces moments of uncertainty, of course; but the person who is a skeptic is in a worse position: for he finds that his doubts, such arid companions as they are, are not even ultimately sustainable. Like the people in the poem, "'There Is No God,' The Wicked Saith," by A.H. Clough (which I posted elsewhere) skeptical mankind cannot help himself in a moment of fear, or love, or beauty, or grandeur, from feeling the sneaking suspicion that there's much more richness to life than he actually knows. And his poignant disappointment makes his faithlessness very painful. So one can live in doubt or in faith: but there's not much doubt in my mind which is the richer state.
As an aside, I actually think that one of the things that causes so many modern people NOT to seek God is that so few of them grapple with the darkness. Instead, moderns can now flip on the TV or jet off for a vacation. In the Developing World, where I've spent a great deal of time, I don't find that people dismiss the existential search for meaning with the alacrity you see in the West.
We are not more secular because we're "wiser"; we're more secular because we have more alternatives and distractions to save us from the imperative of deep introspection. We're more secular because we have too many substitutes in our lives for real meaning.
Nietzsche thought that was true. When he said, "God is dead," he really was implying "God is irrelevant." For Nietzsche did not think there ever really WAS a god, so one could not literally be "dead." He thought instead that our whole sense of need for that concept had been supplanted by a modern spirt of self-sufficiency. And I think he was correct about that. But, of course, our lack of a feeling that we need God will not make a literal, living God suddenly disappear, nor will it change the fact that ultimately we DO need God. We'll just get more empty and know less about what we're missing.
But I write too long here, and catch too many threads.

Let me pause, for I surely owe you a chance to interject here.