How to deal (in terms of life)

[Darkneos]

I can relate, especially about the last paragraph. But for me it’s more about too much betrayal.

What stood out to me most was you not letting yourself cry. Crying is an important release valve - so please set up circumstances in which you can cry & let it out. You won’t snap but will release a lot of pent up e-motions that needs to be released.

#4 & 5: True that all cannot help but be subjectively experienced. But that doesn’t mean it’s living a lie. We are all players, playing with various parts. “Functional illusions are priceless.” If an idea works for you & others now & in the future - then it has REAL & healthy influence.

I wish I could give you a hug. So stretch out your arms & wrap them around yourself. Actually EMDR may have some benefit. I hope the best for you.

Well even just hearing that it's an illusion makes it feel like living a lie. Your comment about "functional illusions" did more harm than good.

Grow up! Stop blaming me and others for reality. Life is subjective. If you constantly fight reality, you will be miserable. The reality is that we cannot help but think in illusionally subjective ways. So… you can see that as messed up & feel sorry for yourself - “Oh no, it’s all in my head, boo hoo.” Or you can see it as empowering. You can choose what you think & consequently can affect feelings, desires etc.

In choosing thoughts - they need to be functional - work for (not against) you & others now & in the future.

That's not how reality or people work. We don't choose what to believe or not to believe and you saying that it's all in one's head is disempowering because it makes it sound like you're lying to yourself.

Read what you wrote again because it doesn't follow.