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reasonvemotion wrote:

at a minimum draw the limits at scat

What does that mean?

scat - having to do with faeces

omfg just thinking about scatological sex makes me gag

Ha!

Cretins, it has to do with Attitude, and not about ropes and handcuffs.

Real BDSM is making a woman 'want to' say, 'please have me' or 'do with me as you please'.
If there is trust, without spoken negotiations, asking for effete permissions, and such mercantile contracts, then we have something.
BDSM is beyond good and evil; self-degradation goes beyond intimate.

Its a joke how the porn industry dupes these mindless barbarians as 'Dominant Males' and reduces masculinity to a thing of mere force and physical penetration.

The Voice of Time wrote:

ForgedinHell wrote: He is not into BDSM but something else. My advise is to dump him, he's dangerous.

I once remember, a girl giving me signs to finger her, I silently grabbed her throat in a trying but not really testing grip just to feel how it was to hold another person's life in your hands. I may add that I'm a tall powerfully built person, so the role falls naturally to me also.

Would you also argue for the opposite case?
Does an overly submissive woman - obeying everything - could this bore you too?

Outsider wrote:

The Voice of Time wrote:

ForgedinHell wrote: He is not into BDSM but something else. My advise is to dump him, he's dangerous.

I once remember, a girl giving me signs to finger her, I silently grabbed her throat in a trying but not really testing grip just to feel how it was to hold another person's life in your hands. I may add that I'm a tall powerfully built person, so the role falls naturally to me also.

Would you also argue for the opposite case?
Does an overly submissive woman - obeying everything - could this bore you too?

It could. Resistance is fun, but mainly when it's properly defeated

petlover wrote:My boyfriend and I have been discussing trying BDSM, but we have come to a point where we cannot agree on something. I say I can submit to him and still have limits that I do not want to go past, but he says that if I truly submit that I give up all power to him and will do everything he asks of me, no matter what he asks. Who is right?

Most couples that practice this craft always have a code word, to tell the other person that s/he has gone too far.
He is dead wrong. If you are not enjoying submission then you should not do it.
Can I ask; has he agreed to submit to your will in the same way that you are suppose to submit to his?
The best way to play this game is to choose with the toss of a coin who will be sub and who will be dom; as soon as the code word is used then the roles change over.
At the end of the day if it is not fun, then find another boyfriend.