Greta wrote: ↑Thu Apr 12, 2018 1:28 pm
Fair point. It's always harder to manage "in here" than it looks from the outside. It reminds me of work, where other people's jobs always seemed easier than one's own.
What this reminded me of was class pictures, group pictures with a club or with a church, a hiking club, rowing club, sex club, you name it. In it people are not only smiling, but embracing, or showing other gestures of extreme warmth, closeness, caring. Whereas in real life the relationships are distant, volved (opposed to involved), callous. So then I looked at my groups' photos (where I was not present) and saw the same "warm" gestures between "cold" friends.
The strangeness struck me mainly because I suffer (I am not suffering... just an expression) from being on the Autism spectacle, or spectrum, and I can't pretend to show emotions; it's hard enough to show my real emotions, which happens after a real work-out of GETTING in touch with my emotions.
So this "easier on the other side of the grass" reflects many ways, in social settings as well as in Christmas letters, and many, many other manifests.
In fact, after watching the Jason Bourne movies end-to-end for the umpteenth time, I couldn't help but fantasize that each guy or gal who gets out of a car, or buys a subway ticket, or reads the newspaper on a park bench is a spy... I mean, there is nary a difference in attitude, appearance and ulterior motives between a regulation human and a spy. Esp. a sci-fi hi-fi psy spy. Say that fast ten times.