Another imperative of successful living for us is: Whenever
you can – without being a martyr - work to alleviate and
reduce human suffering. As you pursue this goal take care
of yourself so that not only will you be strong enough to be
of help to others, but you won’t have a happy life unless you
stay healthy. The next point is also important!
Each of us has a moral obligation to be morally good, to be happy, and to dispel unhappiness.
Note that ants, tigers, and anteaters have brains, albeit somewhat
primitive. Normal human beings, however, have developed a
functioning cerebral cortex in the frontal lobes of their brains. The primitive brain, the amygdala, tells us to over-eat, to have frequent and indiscriminate sex, to get hostile, while the cerebral cortex tells us it is not wise to over-indulge or too look for a fight – that it is not in our best interest. That cortex is our mind working for us.
The imperative for the happy, successful person is: Be mindful!
Reviewing what is necessary for a life of quality, we need to
care about each other; and we need to practice being happy.
Have you noticed that happy people do not become
terrorists, or whiners, or those feeling like victims?
We also realize that we need to find ways of facilitating
upward social mobility and ways of providing folks with
greater opportunities. This applies to all of us: Be a do-er
not just a talker. Get something worthwhile done.
Becoming the best possible person facilitates our living the best-possible life, and successful living enables us to become the best
we can be. Living a healthy, flourishing life on an ongoing basis
necessitates our possessing a good character.
If we want to live in harmony with nature , we would strive to
maximize value and to minimize disvalue (chaos, misery,
destitution and avoidable suffering.) We would support
practical policies that implement this.
In addition, recall that research in Brain Neurology has shown that we are pre-wired to seek our own personal benefit. A question that arises is: What is that benefit and how can we attain it?
Research by Dr. Post at Case Western Reserve has revealed that if we ‘make someone else happy’ we are then happy too. We come to feel our life is making a difference when we act this way ; life seems more meaningful to us. It is a good feeling! It lifts us up. If we trust others, treat them decently, they often tend to treat us the same way. It is a win/win situation, all around. Those who apply the basic principle “Make things better” to themselves would strive to become even more successful than they already are. They would devote themselves to achieving this goal. In the process of doing so they would develop to the point where others might with some accuracy describe them as having ‘a good character.’ Let’s delve into this further in the next section.
ON HAVING A GOOD CHARACTER
Wide agreement can be seen on the claim that if one has a
good character, all else being equal, one will tend to perform
worthwhile actions; will tend to “do the right thing. People of
good character are honest individuals. Being good often
results in doing good but not necessarily the other way
around: even criminals may sometimes do something good;
but of course cannot accurately be described as having a
good character.
Furthermore, if one has a good character one will be likely to
keep one’s promises, will honor one’s contracts, fulfill one’s
obligations, be responsible,
A person of good character will strive to adhere to some
principles – such as the following:
A SUMMARY OF SOME OF THE BASIC PRINCIPLES
1) Honor and respect every individual.
2) Everyone is doing the best one knows how. If we
knew any better we would do better. It’s mainly due to
ignorance why we behave badly.
3) We are all in this together. We’re all just trying tomake a life.
4) Work for mutually-beneficial relationships. Whatreally helps you, helps me; and vice versa.
5) Strive for excellence in performance! Aim to be a good
person, one who values deeply yourself and others.
6) Be authentic! Don’t be a phony; be true to your true self.
7) In every situation in life the central question to ask yourself is:
What action can I take here and now to create the greatest all-around value?

Provide everyone the full opportunity to express their creativity.
9 ) Empower the individual to express more of his full potential.
10) Look to creative design to solve problems.
11) Be consistent: Do not have double standards, one for
yourself, and others for other people.
12) Include as many as possible into your in-group – widen your
moral compass – be inclusive.
13)) Help those in need.
14) Be honest. Don’t deceive others or “put them on” just for fun.
Don’t toy with people.
15) Be lawful: Do not violate the law unless it is a bad law, one
that violates human dignity by contradicting one of these
principles.
16) Recognize the individual’s right to be autonomous. Acknowledge a person’s freedom over his/her actions or physical body.
17) Be aware of the justice principle: acknowledge a person’s
right to due process, fair compensation for harm done, and fair
distribution of benefits.
18) Acknowledge a person’s rights – among which is a right to
life, to information, privacy, frees expression, and safety.
As we mentioned earlier, none of these principles are
absolutes, they are guidelines. Successful living does not
deal in absolutes. This writer is not interested in, and has no
use for, moralism.
Becoming an early adopter of these concepts will make you
wise and will contribute to bringing everyone closer to living
a happy, successful, quality-filled life.
End Note 1) [Self-defeating behavior may be described as conduct that rates a low degree on the QL measuring scale: i.e., a low Value Quotient on the Hartman Value Profile; or a low rank on a social happiness index. ]
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