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Flannel Jesus wrote: ↑Wed Mar 08, 2023 12:52 pm Can you honestly say, Gary, that you've put enough effort into getting the things that you want? You seem very defeated right now, but have you actually been defeated or is it possible there are some things you haven't tried that you reasonably should before you admit defeat?

This isn't about becoming Christian, for clarity, idgaf if you want to be a Christian, I'm talking about your goal of finding your romance and love. I think it's pretty rare to find a human for whom these goals are inaccessible.

Hell, maybe becoming Christian will help you reach those goals!

I tried becoming a Christian. It made me feel worse.

Have you tried making yourself someone a reasonable woman would want to date? Have you tried making a genuine real effort to find women who might want to date you?

I apologize if it's presumptuous to assume you're heterosexual.

In any case, whoever you want to date, they aren't going to manifest Infront of you with no effort on your part.

I tried, and I succeeded.

Flannel Jesus wrote: ↑Wed Mar 08, 2023 4:59 pm Have you tried making yourself someone a reasonable woman would want to date? Have you tried making a genuine real effort to find women who might want to date you?

I apologize if it's presumptuous to assume you're heterosexual.

In any case, whoever you want to date, they aren't going to manifest Infront of you with no effort on your part.

I tried, and I succeeded.

I've tried dating apps. I've tried meetup groups. I've tried bars. I've tried special events. I've tried with people I've worked with. I've tried people I've attended therapy groups with. I've tried being friends with women but in the end I'm not what most are looking for and most are not what I'm looking for. Such is life.

Gary Childress wrote: ↑Wed Mar 08, 2023 12:45 pm Life has passed me by, leaving me in the dust, lonely and broken. All I ever wanted out of this world was romance and love.

Good relationship partners don't have time or energy or desire to hook up with a companion who cannot maintain their own balance and offer positive contribution and teamwork to a relationship. Each person must do their own work on themselves. That's what we bring to the table of a partnership.

Countless people live and create joy without partners. There are benefits to that path, as well. Your demands of life and your ongoing public moaning are self-absorbed and unrealistic. If you put half as much energy/work into changing your channel, you might find there's more interesting things in life. You are bored because you're being boring. Be the version of yourself that moves beyond this.

Alexis Jacobi wrote: ↑Wed Mar 08, 2023 2:35 pm Gary, you pathetic manipulator! I’m on to your game. You are a sympathy artist of the first order. But the sympathy you get is the worst thing for you. You try to play on people’s heart-strings with your endless tales of lamentation. People council you and you don’t act. Amazingly, you suck them in. Then you suck sympathy from them and that keeps you going.

Act like a man.

Is this what you teach in your podcasts or videos or whatever? How to despise the weak? Do you have a final solution to my problem, perhaps?

Lacewing wrote: ↑Wed Mar 08, 2023 5:17 pm

Gary Childress wrote: ↑Wed Mar 08, 2023 12:45 pm Life has passed me by, leaving me in the dust, lonely and broken. All I ever wanted out of this world was romance and love.

Good relationship partners don't have time or energy or desire to hook up with a companion who cannot maintain their own balance and offer positive contribution and teamwork to a relationship. Each person must do their own work on themselves. That's what we bring to the table of a partnership.

Probably why there are so many failed marriages. People surfing to catch the next high seems to be the way to go.

Gary, here's today's soundtrack. Listen . . . and weep!

Gary Childress wrote: ↑Wed Mar 08, 2023 5:18 pm

Alexis Jacobi wrote: ↑Wed Mar 08, 2023 2:35 pm Gary, you pathetic manipulator! I’m on to your game. You are a sympathy artist of the first order. But the sympathy you get is the worst thing for you. You try to play on people’s heart-strings with your endless tales of lamentation. People council you and you don’t act. Amazingly, you suck them in. Then you suck sympathy from them and that keeps you going.

Act like a man.

Is this what you teach in your podcasts or videos or whatever? How to despise the weak? Do you have a final solution to my problem, perhaps?

You are very adept at sucking sympathy for your *terrible plight* but what you receive does you no good at all.

I surely can't be the first one to tell you this, can I?

Alexis Jacobi! That was terrible what you said to that poor weak man! Loveless, though he has tried, he's loveless & lonely. Can't you offer him just a bit of SYMPATHY?? Maybe some dating advice?

You miserable KUNT (to quote the Vegetable Taxidermist) How do you sleep at night?!? SHAME!!

Alexis Jacobi wrote: ↑Wed Mar 08, 2023 7:39 pm

Gary Childress wrote: ↑Wed Mar 08, 2023 5:18 pm

Alexis Jacobi wrote: ↑Wed Mar 08, 2023 2:35 pm Gary, you pathetic manipulator! I’m on to your game. You are a sympathy artist of the first order. But the sympathy you get is the worst thing for you. You try to play on people’s heart-strings with your endless tales of lamentation. People council you and you don’t act. Amazingly, you suck them in. Then you suck sympathy from them and that keeps you going.

Act like a man.

Is this what you teach in your podcasts or videos or whatever? How to despise the weak? Do you have a final solution to my problem, perhaps?

You are very adept at sucking sympathy for your *terrible plight* but what you receive does you no good at all.

I surely can't be the first one to tell you this, can I?

No. You're not the first. Everyone says that. You're not alone. Feel free to join the mob and peck on the mentally ill. Blame us for our illnesses. None of us are looking for "sympathy" only for a cure which is highly unlikely to ever manifest itself unless you suggest a lobotomy or something to keep us from voicing our annoying views.

Alexis Jacobi wrote: ↑Wed Mar 08, 2023 7:44 pm Alexis Jacobi! That was terrible what you said to that poor weak man! Loveless, though he has tried, he's loveless & lonely. Can't you offer him just a bit of SYMPATHY?? Maybe some dating advice?

You miserable KUNT (to quote the Vegetable Taxidermist) How do you sleep at night?!? SHAME!!

Talking to yourself?

Got it. So what you are really up to is indulging in oddly formatted guilt-slinging sessions where you blame *the unafflicted* for your problems.

Picking on the mentally ill?!?

It’s the other way around!

Alexis Jacobi wrote: ↑Wed Mar 08, 2023 9:20 pm Got it. So what you are really up to is indulging in oddly formatted guilt-slinging sessions where you blame *the unafflicted* for your problems.

Picking on the mentally ill?!?

It’s the other way around!

Where have I said the unafflicted are to blame for the way the world is? I've only said that the unafflicted don't understand if they think we can just "snap out of it" or think happy thoughts instead. If it were that easy no one would have things like severe depression, we'd simply embrace happiness. And despair is not happiness.

Gary Childress wrote: ↑Wed Mar 08, 2023 8:42 pm

Alexis Jacobi wrote: ↑Wed Mar 08, 2023 7:39 pm

Gary Childress wrote: ↑Wed Mar 08, 2023 5:18 pm

Is this what you teach in your podcasts or videos or whatever? How to despise the weak? Do you have a final solution to my problem, perhaps?

You are very adept at sucking sympathy for your *terrible plight* but what you receive does you no good at all.

I surely can't be the first one to tell you this, can I?

No. You're not the first. Everyone says that. You're not alone. Feel free to join the mob and peck on the mentally ill. Blame us for our illnesses. None of us are looking for "sympathy" only for a cure which is highly unlikely to ever manifest itself unless you suggest a lobotomy or something to keep us from voicing our annoying views.

Have you tried changing the way you think? Cognitive behavioural therapy will help you to come to grips with reality, and is not very expensive.

Sorry, chum. You won’t be able to suck me into a pity-session.

You seem to seek ‘advice’ but I have determined you are actually just nourishing your wound.

If it were me I’d have to realize that I’d have to make changes.

You’ll hear no more from me on the topic though.