Gary Childress wrote: ↑Sun Jan 01, 2023 12:46 am
A marathon runner trains for a marathon because there are marathons in life.
I think not. A marathon runner trains for marathons because he/she wants to be a marathoner, or to win marathons.
If there were no marathons in life then there would be no need to train for them.
That is true. But then, there would also never be the character virtues of a marathoner.
A person who works out often does so for reasons of avoiding bad consequences if they don't, such as clogged arteries and other diseases. If God had not made diseases then people wouldn't need to work out.
That's one reason to work out...not a bad one, but hardly the most compelling. The other is to achieve some personal goal or form of excellence. To "work out," in any field, is to make a deliberate effort to be the best that one can be in that field. And that requires the acquiring of skills and powers one does not presently possess, except as potentialities.
Setbacks and vexations are nothing more than setbacks and vexations.
If that's how one reacts to them, then yes, that's all they ever are...and what a tragedy if a person chooses that course. Instead of taking the opportunity for growth and self-improvement, when such come, he chooses bitterness and failure instead. But need all setbacks and vexations be treated that way? Or can we take the opportunity to treat at least some of them as challenges not failures?
If a person is a masochist, then maybe they welcome setbacks and vexations.
Well, or if he's a marathoner. Or any person of courage and purposefulness. If he sees his challenges as mere temporary obstacles to a potential success yet to come, then he may win through. Even if he does not, he has the consolation of knowing he acted heroically and courageously in aid of a goal he believes in. But often, he does: because character actually determines an awful lot in life. And there is much more ability to overcome in an ordinary human being than most ordinary human beings realize. That's precisely why we view the winners-through as specially heroic.
Otherwise, most people don't or else use them as excuses for thinking they deserve something more than someone who didn't go through the same obstacles.
You think so?
I don't find that. I find that people who have overcome obstacles tend to be more humble than those who have faced few or none...and especially when the obstacles are many and formitable.
Also, I assume you've heard the saying, "hurt people hurt people"?
Bitter people hurt people.
People who have been hurt may love people. They may have mercy on others. They may be far more capable of sympathy and compassion than those who have not been hurt. They may have depths of soul of which the unhurt have no conception. They may even be much better people as a result of their understanding of what "hurt" really means.
Or, as you say, they may simply become resentful, cruel and hurtful.
The choice is theirs which of the two they do. The whole matter depends not on the fact of having been hurt, but on how one interprets and acts on the fact one has been hurt.
And have you not heard the old R.E.M. tune?
Everybody hurts.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NLlOeGeVih4