I used H as an example not because of reasons you said...
Immanuel Can wrote: ↑Tue Oct 15, 2024 1:59 amYeah, that's exactly why. Right now, he's a big issue to you...but he's none to me.
If H is not a big issue to you, what makes you think he is a big issue for me?
He's not a big issue for me. I love and adore H unconditionally no matter what he says to me. H is the first real human being I have ever really truly loved unconditionally. I absolutely adore him so much it's hurts. And remembering the experience of what it was like to hold him in my arms still exists in my memory, and that beauty of my love for him, and his love for me will never leave me, I will never forget it, even though it's just a dead memory now..but when I recall the memory, it's still as beautiful as when it was when we once shared life together in realtime.
Everything I have repeated what H said to me has been true, I've just repeated to others here, what H has told me.
If H is worried about what other people think of what I have repeated of what he said to me. Then why would he think it was ok to tell me?
If he was going to be worried about what I will be thinking of him while he is telling me things, then why would he tell me? if he's not worried about what I will think of him when he is telling me things, then why would he worry or care about what others think of him? maybe he doesn't care or worry about what other people think of him, I don't really know. All I've done is tell his truth and repeated to others...all I've done is just repeated the truth that's come from his own mouth, not mine, my words were just repeating the truth.
Why would he care what other people think about him when he's perfectly fine telling me, the one who loves him. The point is, I don't care what he has told me, it hasn't changed my love for him. H left me, I didn't leave him. I can't and would never have left H because I love him unconditionally. He left me, and I'm ok with it, because I love him and want only the best for him. If that means he chooses to be on his own without me, I respect his choice, because I love him and want him to be happy. But that wont change my love for him, my love for him is forever whatever he chooses to do. He has a mind to choose what he wants, and I respect his choice.
So H has nothing to worry about, when it comes to what other people think about him, people will either love or not love him, no matter what he's said or done in life. What really matters is the one's who want to be together in partnership. No one else matters outside of that, because they wont and don't exist , you see. Only the ones who are actually together, who want to be together, exist for each other...not outsiders, they do not exist outside of what actually and truly exists which is the love of two people who choose to be together, by mutual consent.
He wasn't bothered about what I think when he told me because if he had have been bothered, he would have chosen to remain silent and said nothing to me at all... Right?
It doesn't matter to me what he has told me, because I don't care what he's said or done in life, I will always stick by him as a true friend. He never needs to think I will ever abandon him, I will always be here for him forever, until death do us part. Even now as we are both separated I am still here for him at any time he wants to join up with me, but until then, I allow him the perfect freedom he desires, which is my unconditional total surrender of control over him. As No one can control another persons life and how they choose to live it.
So if H is not bothered what other people think of him because of what I've repeated to others, what was actually true, then why care, when he already knows that what has been repeated is the truth. H will already know I've told the truth to others, because I have only repeated what he has told me, which he already knows is the truth.