Wendell O’Brien is unforgiving about forgiveness.
http://philosophynow.org/issues/91/How_Not_To_Forgive
How Not To Forgive
Re: How Not To Forgive
What does forgiveness achieve?
Does the person whom you consider forgiving actually wish it from you? How would that person benefit? Have a think and ask yourself if that person not have taken the steps or action they did, if they had thought that you, the injured party, would not ultimately forgive them for what they had willing done to you?
The act of forgiveness is for the self and can reduce resentment and bitterness over time for the injured party, helping them to move on with their lives. The injured party does not have to tell the other that they forgive them but if they do, they should not place conditions on that forgiveness because they are prolonging the detrimental hold the other has over them.
Does the person whom you consider forgiving actually wish it from you? How would that person benefit? Have a think and ask yourself if that person not have taken the steps or action they did, if they had thought that you, the injured party, would not ultimately forgive them for what they had willing done to you?
The act of forgiveness is for the self and can reduce resentment and bitterness over time for the injured party, helping them to move on with their lives. The injured party does not have to tell the other that they forgive them but if they do, they should not place conditions on that forgiveness because they are prolonging the detrimental hold the other has over them.